Jan 06 2010

The Love Dare - Day 1

Day 1

Love is patient

 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient,
bearing with one another in love. —Ephesians 4:2 NIV

Love works. It is life’s most powerful motivator and has far greater depth and meaning than most people realize. It always does what is best for others and can empower us to face the greatest of problems. We are born with a lifelong thirst for love. Our hearts desperately need it like our lungs need oxygen. Love changes our motivation for living. Relationships become meaningful with it. No marriage is successful without it.

Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those pillars are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of love are extensions of these two attributes. And that’s where your dare will begin. With patience.

Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation. You are slow to anger. You choose to have a long fuse instead of a quick temper. Rather than being restless and demanding, love helps you settle down and begin extending mercy to those around you. Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm.

No one likes to be around an impatient person. It causes you to overreact in angry, foolish, and regrettable ways. The irony of anger toward a wrongful action is that it spawns new wrongs of its own. Anger almost never makes things better. In fact, it usually generates additional problems. But patience stops problems in their tracks. More than biting your lip, more than clapping a hand over your mouth, patience is a deep breath. It clears the air. It stops foolishness from whipping its scorpion tail all over the room. It is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead of returning evil for evil.

If your spouse offends you, do you quickly retaliate, or do you stay under control? Do you find that anger is your emotional default when treated unfairly? If so, you are spreading poison rather than medicine.

Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something is mixed with disappointment or grief. You don’t get what you want and you start heating up inside. It is often an emotional reaction that flows out of our own selfishness, foolishness, or evil motives.

Patience, however, makes us wise. It doesn’t rush to judgment but listens to what the other person is saying. Patience stands in the doorway where anger is clawing to burst in, but waits to see the whole picture before passing judgment. The Bible says, “He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29).

As sure as a lack of patience will turn your home into a war zone, the practice of patience will foster peace and quiet. “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute” (Proverbs 15:18). Statements like these from the Bible book of Proverbs are clear principles with timeless relevance. Patience is where love meets wisdom. And every marriage needs that combination to stay healthy.

Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under the pressure.

But can your spouse count on having a patient wife or husband to deal with? Can she know that locking her keys in the car will be met by your understanding rather than a demeaning lecture that makes her feel like a child? Can he know that cheering during the last seconds of a football game won’t invite a loud-mouthed laundry list of ways he should be spending his time? It turns out that few people are as hard to live with as an impatient person.

What would the tone and volume of your home be like if you tried this biblical approach: “See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another” (1 Thessalonians 5:15).

Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationships. That’s a good starting point to demonstrate true love.

This Love Dare journey is a process, and the first thing you must resolve to possess is patience. Think of it as a marathon, not a sprint. But it’s a race worth running.

 

 

 

Today's Dare

 

The first part of this dare is fairly
simple. Although love is communicated
in a number of ways, our words often
reflect the condition of our heart. For
the next day, resolve to demonstrate
patience and to say nothing negative
to your spouse at all. If the temptation
arises, choose not to say anything. It’s
better to hold your tongue than to say
something you’ll regret.

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Material taken from The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, copyright © 2009 by B&H Publishing Group. Used by permission.  Unauthorized reproduction in any format is strictly prohibited by law.

 

 

 

Comments (258) -

1/6/2010 4:15:38 AM
TAMMY United States
TAMMY
If day one is this tough, the next 39 days will surely find me laying face down. I am going to need every amount of strength in me because I have a controling, demanding and untolerating personality. Patience is not a virtue that has been in me often, and now I am being challanged to make it my first priority. Lord help me, let today be the beginning of letting go of that quick tempered, perfection expecting freak I have become. May today be the start of a new me, the renewal of my marriage and the healing of my family.
1/6/2010 4:44:32 AM
Virginia Waugaman United States
Virginia Waugaman
Well we will see how this goes with my relationship with my boyfriend.  You never know what the Lord has planned for us.
1/6/2010 5:17:01 AM
Rose White United States
Rose White
I am a principal in an elementary school and there are 7 staff members that are taking the "Love Dare" challenge to make our marriages and families stronger.  Please keep us in your prayers.  Satan does not like us to have strong families and will do anything to attack us.
1/6/2010 5:17:37 AM
Lucy United States
Lucy
How perfect is today's Love Dare!  My husband and I had an argument this morning.  I am seeing the error of my ways.  I vow not to say anything negative to my husband today starting now.  thank you KLOVE!!!!!  
1/6/2010 5:21:15 AM
Cindy Ladd United States
Cindy Ladd
Dear Lord give me strength to think positive thoughts when it comes to my husband instead of being so defensive.  Help me to lighten up indtead of taking everything so personal.  This is my second marriage, 6 months old.  So still trying to adjust.  The Lord is my strength.
1/6/2010 5:22:11 AM
lisae United States
lisae
THIS IS ONE OF THE THING THAT ISN'T HARD FOR ME. I REALLY DON'T HAVE TOO MUCH NEGATIVE TO SAY ABOUT HIM. BUT, WHEN HIS EX-WIFE INTERFERS ( TRIES TO BE HIS BUDDY AND TALK ABOUT HER PROBLEMS,ETC...), THAT WHEN MY PAITENCES WEARS THIN. I FIND THAT'S WHEN I HAVE THE HARDEST TIME NOT BEING CRANKY WITH HIM. SO, I CAN TRY NOT TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER CALLS AND HOW UPSETING IT IS FOR ME.    
1/6/2010 5:26:51 AM
Kelly United States
Kelly
Please pray that I make it through this Love Dare.  I was married last summer to a man who does not follow the Lord like I would like him to.  Because of this, satan already has a strong hold on our marriage.  He will not participate in this Love Dare, but I am hoping and praying that by myself doing it, God will shine through and help my husband see that He loves us both and wants our marriage to work.
1/6/2010 5:33:41 AM
Anna United States
Anna
Today is going to be a new beginning for me in my life.My father left to be with my heavenly father 3yrs. ago and my life has been turned upside down. I am 1 of 3 girls and the baby of the bunch and I have had to step up and take care of everything including my mother and a business that I knew nothing about. My husband has always been the first to get attacked when things get tough, how he has put up with me and my controling self. Today is going to be a very tough day for me being positive and not being negative to him but I know with Christ everything is possible. Thank You for doing this challenge I have had the book for about 1yr and know is a better time then any. God Bless!
1/6/2010 5:34:25 AM
letty United States
letty
Wow, Tammy this pretty much describes me also.  Lord help us.  I'm o.k. with other people but I need help with my husband and daughter.  I pray God change me through this challenge.
1/6/2010 5:35:33 AM
Diane Cline United States
Diane Cline
This next 40 days will be so much fun.  I love my husband and can't wait to take our strong and very healthy relationship to the next level.  What a start for this day.
1/6/2010 5:35:39 AM
Cathy United States
Cathy
My husband is EXACTLY like Tammy...controlling, demanding, and untolerating. Boy, does her husband have MY sympathy! My problems are that I tend to retaliate or "get even" quickly, then regret it. We married later in life, so both of us tend to be set in our ways more than most people so, these things all added together make things tense and strained around my house. I pray I can get my hubby to follow this also so we can BOTH learn better ways to handle issues.
1/6/2010 5:39:19 AM
Jen United States
Jen
This is the second time that "The Love Dare" has been presented to me.  The first time my love and I were in a Christian book store purchasing a gift for a nephew about to be baptised.  At that time our relationship was rocky, but still hanging on.  Still the clerks at the store pressed and pressed that the movie Fireproof and the Love Dare book were something we definitely needed to buy.  We bought the movie and while we found "something" there for us, we did not take the Love Dare.

Since then, our relationship has rocketed out of control and we are at the lowest of lows, even to the point of telling others we will soon be seperating.  It's not something either of us want but while we still love one another our differences are keeping us apart.

Then "The Love Dare" was brought back to my attention, twice, once recently in a store, and here on my favorite radio station.  I'm asking myself, is God speaking to me?  I know I've been praying and becoming closer to him, trying to let my faith guide me in my decisions and determination...could this possibly be the answer he is giving me.

You can believe I will be reading and focusing every day with all my heart on these words.  I can only have faith that through him, our love will flourish again.
1/6/2010 5:41:45 AM
Jennifer Cotterman United States
Jennifer Cotterman
This is gonna be tough...
1/6/2010 5:47:09 AM
Kai Garner United States
Kai Garner
While I understand the need to add patience and love back into a marriage, I wonder why the challenge was not promoted for all people. I am not married, however I feel that this challenge could be beneficial to me. Instead of adding patience into a marriage today, listeners could add patience into their interactions with others. Instead of love, people could try love one-another and show compassion. This is a challenge that should have been directed to all people. Just because I am not married, does not mean that I do not have something to improve on within my interactions with others. Love has hardened me as a person, and this would be very beneficial to me as a single person, and I am sure many others. We should not be excluded or forgotten.
1/6/2010 5:48:44 AM
ROY United States
ROY
My wife and I were married March 9, 2009. shortly after I was deployed to Iraq where I presently serve. Her and I decided to do the Love Dare. I think this will be a great opportunity for us to see how God has blessed us with each others love. It will have it's odd chalenges but I think it will be good.
1/6/2010 5:48:49 AM
Julie United States
Julie
My husband and I just completed the Love Dare study.  It is an amazing way to begin understanding what love really is and what God expects from us as husbands and wives.  It's not easy and it does not end after 40 days.  This is something that must be worked on daily.  I would suggest if you have not seen the Fireproof movie, watch it a couple times over the next 40 days.  This study has done wonderful things in our marriage and we are both looking forward to going through the 40 days again.  
1/6/2010 5:56:54 AM
Tyler United States
Tyler
How wonderful is our Lord?!  I have tried to complete the Love Dare in the past and was not successful.  I would start and then would find that the activities in my day to day life ended up being top priority and not the other way around...the way that the Lord intended them to be. Lord, spouse, work... In my prayer time the Lord spoke to me and told me that I needed to spend more time working on my relationships with Him and my wife. I agreed and went to purchase another copy of the Love Dare...when I arrived at the Christian book store(this was New Years Eve), it was closed due to a fire. I did not purchase the book.  On my way home I was praying and saying that I would go and purchase one on the next day of business. Well, on my way to work on the 4th of January I was listening to KLOVE and you guessed it...you all announced that you were going to be doing the Love Dare... The Lord made sure that I had a way to take part in this.  I say it is confirmation that my Lord knows what He wants me to do.  My prayer is that I not be consumed by my professional life and place my personal life in line with the Lords will.  Thank you KLOVE and PRAISE THE NAME OF JESUS!!!
1/6/2010 6:01:29 AM
Katie United States
Katie
My husband and I are taking this dare together, and I pray we both do it with open minds and hearts. We have been married seven years and have two small children, and I feel that we have become very distant. Today will be hard for me. I am usually patient, but have been under extreme stress for the last year, and my poor husband generally gets hit with my frustration. It is a tremendous encouragement to read of others taking this on as well!
1/6/2010 6:01:42 AM
Rachel United States
Rachel
My husband and I had a horrible fight.  I, like usual, displayed anger instead of saddness.  I was driving and praying for God to tell me what to do, when I heard Lisa announce the Love Challenge on the radio.  I knew it was the answer to my questions and prayers.  Reading day one of the challege I have to laugh a little.  I feel like it was written for me.  I hope my husband will join me in this challenge.  It is exactly what we need.  
1/6/2010 6:02:21 AM
Gary Estes United States
Gary Estes
I started the Love Dare last year and relied on my own strength to work through the book.  Needless to say, I came nowhere close to completing the 40 days.  It's not easy. I heard that K-love was doing the challenge and really felt like God was calling me to pick the book back up and complete it this time with His strength.  I wished I had read it last night.  I said some mean things to my wife out of anger and I feel horrible for that this morning.  
Just like the book says, love is a choice.  I am choosing to change how I am and make my marriage the best it can be in 2010.  
1/6/2010 6:03:50 AM
Cindy Gaddis United States
Cindy Gaddis
My husband and I began the Love Dare on January 2nd; he'll be going to Iraq in a couple of weeks and we thought it would be a great way to stay focused on our marriage and one another whilst we are a part.  Glad to hear the people to whom I listen daily are on the same track! THANK YOU!
1/6/2010 6:04:23 AM
Liz United States
Liz
I was going to ask my husband to do this with me, but I had a feeling he would only do it half-heartedly. So I will do it for myself, to learn how to love the right way. I realized that even though I "feel" that I am loving him right, I wasn't. I was letting my heart lead me, instead of the other way around. This will show me further that God loves me and show me how I am supposed to let His love shine through me. I fear that my husband and I are close to the end, so I will throw myself into this and pray pray pray!
I will say a prayer for all of you doing this Love Dare with me, may God bless you and your relationships.

Lord God Almighty, help me along this journey and no matter what the outcome, let me learn from you how to love my spouse, even when it is not returned in kind. May your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. In Jesus' name, amen.
1/6/2010 6:11:12 AM
christy United States
christy
thank you for doing this! my husband and i have been married for about a year and a half now. our first year was really hard due to health issues and loss of a job. our marriage could use a 40-day challenge to do exactly what we vowed we'd do—center our lives and marriage on Jesus. love you guys!
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1/6/2010 6:14:42 AM
Steve Burden United States
Steve Burden
This is going to be Great and Hard at the same time.With my wife pregnant and sick everyday with this being our 8th child patience is VERY MUCH NEEDED. GOD BE WITH US!!
1/6/2010 6:22:22 AM
Debbie United States
Debbie
A few months ago, my daughter's family moved in with my husband and I due to job loss.  It is a very difficult situation to be in.  There is tension in the air and issues arise on every little thing from child rearing to household chores.  We are not at each other's throats, we are civil--but God does not call us to "be civil to one another".  God calls us to love one another.  

I am taking the love dare and applying it to my whole household, for my husband, my daughter and my grandsons - for a stronger loving family.
1/6/2010 6:23:07 AM
Carla Lewis United States
Carla Lewis
I think that this is a wonderful challenge for any relationship.  There are many who do not have a significant other but we are all brothers and sisters in the eyes of God.  We can take the challenge to be more loving to all we come in contact with.
1/6/2010 6:23:26 AM
Bailey Earl United States
Bailey Earl
I have had the Love Dare book for a few months now and never had the courage to start it...I was afraid it would force me to examine my actions and words too much for me to handle.  When I heard you were doing this I was so excited.  My husband and I are doing it together.   We've been married for 9 months now and we have a 5 month old little boy.  Things get tough sometimes but I love him so much I want to redo myself in order to make things better for us.  Keep us in your prayers and thanks Klove!
1/6/2010 6:23:44 AM
Rosa United States
Rosa
Just yesterday I was told about this challenge from my sister-in-law.  Now, I have the book, started this challenge sometime last year but did not finish it. Since then I had forgotten was in store for me this morning.  Amazingly enough before I read todays dare I prayed this morning before I climbed out of bed for the lords help today.  I got up quietly made my husband a cup of coffee to go without asking him or interfering with his morning wondering if he was just going to let it sit which I prepared myself for. Thankfully enough he took it with him to work.  Before he left I tried speaking to him to wish him a good day and tell him that I love him as I always do.  He did not respond.  I bit my tonge hard (it hurt) not to say anything to him to anger him.  I than tried my last approach which was texting him, I got the message through to him wished him a good day and let him know that I love and miss him.  Again he did not respond as he usually would. This does hurt deeply since I  know that he is not this person.  He is the worlds biggest teddy bear ever.  Always kissing me, hugging me, tells me at every opportunity he gets how much he loves me.  All I can do at this point is pray and ask the lord to guide me to guide him in the right direction.
When I read this mornings dare I was truly amazed as I read that it is simply patience. The lord  gave me this, this morning.  I had no idea that this was going to be my dare. The day is still young and I have more hours to go but I do hope that I can keep this all day long.  It is truly a blessing.  I feel full although my husband has shunned me away this morning.  "This to shall pass."
Thank you for your support and keep us in your prayers.
1/6/2010 6:27:28 AM
Terri United States
Terri
Lisa and Eric,
Due to many issues, my husband and I separated last spring.  After several months apart, we began going to a Christian counselor together. Because of those sessions and God's healing and grace, we were able to soften our hearts toward each other, and my husband came back home around Thanksgiving! During his absence, one of the many learning tools I used(the Bible was the most helpful!), was The Love Dare and it helped me in many areas. I have wanted to ask my husband to read it with me, but I had been too afraid.  After you announced that you were going to be doing The Love Dare in the mornings, it gave me the courage to talk to him about it and he agreed to do it with me. Thank you both and mostly, I thank the Lord for bringing his grace and forgiveness into our lives and allowing us to restore our marriage!
1/6/2010 6:29:46 AM
Shaneen Blake United States
Shaneen Blake
I never realized how critical and negative I was to my husband until I am faced with a challenge like the 'Love Dare'.  When I watched 'Fireproof' with my husband a year ago this month, I knew I wanted to give it a shot.  We have been married 18 years and were married when we were 18.  So many said it would never last but when Christ is the head of our home, anything is possible.  The 'Love Dare' is a challenge, but when you put your mind to it and God in it, you can make your marriage a wonderful, lifelong, experience.  What God meant for it to be.  No it does not come easily, or even natural, but isn't that why God gave his son, so we could TOTALLY rely on Him to help us through life.  I know God wants me to be happy.  He created me to be fulfilled.  It's when we forget that, that life becomes difficult.
1/6/2010 6:30:04 AM
Amanda H United States
Amanda H
I just want you to know that my husband and I are so excited about this Love Dare and we are going to do it! We just found out that we are expecting our second baby and there is no better time to do it then now.  We have a 23month old and times get hard with all that is going on, so I really believe this will help us in our relationship and parenting! We listen everyday and love yall!
1/6/2010 6:33:12 AM
Pastor Karen T. Bryan United States
Pastor Karen T. Bryan
Not only am I ready for this love dare, but I desperately need it!!! As a young woman, I was always told that I was too nice. What has happened over the years is that with so many people taking advantage of my kindness, I have become very cold over the last few years, and my patience null. I have a very dear friend who recently received the best Christmas gift ever, the birth of Christ in his life. I believe he has been the one testing my patience the most followed by my grown children. I see the importance of being kind, gentle, loving, and understanding. I long for being that loving person again. I pray for each of us as we take this challenge, that the Spirit move in us, Christ strengthens us, and binds satan from trying to teal, kill or destroy any good thing that God is doing here in our lives. Have a successful day today. With much love and gratitude, your sis in Christ...KK Smile
1/6/2010 6:36:39 AM
Chelsie United States
Chelsie
My husband doesn't have a job right now, so when I come home from working all day and there are dishes and mess everywhere I tend to get defensive and negative, I pray that the Lord will give me strength to get through this challenge, and strengthen my marriage, in Jesus name, Amen.
1/6/2010 6:39:52 AM
Carrie United States
Carrie
After reading everyone's comments, I realize more and more how blessed my husband and I are to have one another. He is my dearest friend, the best friend in the whole world. I'd rather be with Him than anyone else. We celebrate our 4th anniversary this week, and I see from this past year how over time if we are not watchful adn diligent in developing and maintaining a healthy relationship how small things can trickle into your marriage...it's the little foxes that spoil the vines. I am determined to keep our relationship healthy and headed into the right direction so we can be a blessing to others.
1/6/2010 6:43:44 AM
JenE United States
JenE
Thank you so much for doing this! I have found that this helps the rocky marriages, and also gives even more strength to the strong marriages!  This is fantastic!! I will be following along every day!!
God is good!
1/6/2010 6:43:54 AM
Gennie United States
Gennie
The Lord has told me several  times that my best friend and I are going to be together. He treats me very good, but he says he is not in love with me. I love him so much and have asked God over and over to re-confirm that which he told me five years ago. Recently a new friend told me to be patient. I get grumpy with him when he talks about wanting to be in a relationship, and knowing he does not count me as a prospect. I am hoping that this will open his eyes to what is in front of him.  I also hope that I well be able to be the wife he needs and wants when the time comes. I have been hurt deeply in my past and am still unsure of how  to be the wife God wants for my husband (in the future). I pray this will teach me.
My son who is engaged is having second thoughts because of the relationships he has observed. I told him to take the love dare with his fiance' and see what happens after forty days. Pray for us.
1/6/2010 6:47:01 AM
Lori United States
Lori
It's so encouraging to read comments from "real" people who have chosen to embark on this journey at the same time I have. Truth be told, I delayed starting for a couple of days once I heard that K-LOVE would be doing a Love Dare challenge.

A dear friend challenged me first, asking ME to be the one to take the Love Dare. I have so much resentment, mistrust, hostility, and anger toward this spouse of mine. I really don't know HOW I'll get through this task, but I will be thinking of all of you as I struggle.

God bless.
1/6/2010 6:47:44 AM
Sharyn United States
Sharyn
Unfortunately, I am not married at this time, but I am taking The Love Dare and putting it to work in my everyday life.  I know that there will be something each day that will help me to lead a better life and to become a better person.  My prayer is that God will bring to me a Godly man in the future and this Dare will assist me in that relationship.  Marriage is a wonderful union and I pray for success for everyone who takes that Dare.  We need more Love, Patience and Understanding in our World Today!

Be Blessed
1/6/2010 6:48:44 AM
Sharon United States
Sharon
This is all about you Lord Jesus...to be made into your image. I started Love Dare with an accountability partner six months ago, but we didn't get very far. Too many excuses, often trying to do it perfectly or MY way. A few days before I heard this challenge announced on KLOVE I had made a commitment to God and myself to put it into action. Hearing about it on KLOVE confirmed that this was God's timing for me. Thank you! Pray that I have NO excuses and that I don't try to reason my way out of anything. I am so excited to see what God is going to do. God Bless!
1/6/2010 6:49:53 AM
Christy United States
Christy
I am taking the Love Dare and I have created a contact list from my email addresses. I have picked young married couples, engaged couples and dating couples. I am going to send them an email every morning that will contain the Love Dare message for the day. We all know that Satan has attacked our families and tried to defeat Christians, with Klove's help we can take back our families and become the loving Godly couples that we should be for each other, for our children and our fellow Christians. God is working through Klove and thank you for what you do for His kingdom.
1/6/2010 6:51:06 AM
Nancy United States
Nancy
Thanks for challenging and supporting couples with this program!  Love you guys!
1/6/2010 6:51:43 AM
Jennifer from Louisiana United States
Jennifer from Louisiana
I loved the movie, "Fireproof"!! My husband and I watched it together. That was the first time I had seen him cry in years! The movie really helped us to take a second look at how we sometimes neglect our marriage. We go through the motions of our daily life and taking care of our marriage always gets pushed to the back burner. I am SO very excited that K-Love is doing the "Love Dare" and I'm thrilled to be participating. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years and I still find that marriage is something you have to care for and nurture every single day.
1/6/2010 6:55:06 AM
Alex United States
Alex
My Love for my wife is strong and I want to showher in the next 39 days how much her love means to me with out her knowing I am doing the Dare. As a husband I am thankfull for her love to me, even when things get tuff and demanding in this day and age.
1/6/2010 6:57:00 AM
Jayme McDonough United States
Jayme McDonough
Not exactly a journey of far destinations but probably the most difficult trek I will ever embark on.  I am not one to point the magnifying glass at myself and my imperfections very often.  I know this is a challenge that is going to be beyond what I can do on my own, only with God's grace will I succeed.  I've tried so many times, MY way, to control my anger and be more patient, and I've failed miserably ever time.  I pray for God to give me the power to cast my selfish ways aside and let my spirit of love and patience begin to take over my life.  I so desire to be a patient wife for my husband...he is so patient with me.  I pray for God to show me how to be a good role model for my children.  Lord, let them see how a marriage can be...one based on forgiveness, acceptance, and mercy. Lord, let silence become the new way for me greet the trivial disappointments that anger me so.  Lord, help me give up trying to control everything.  And Lord, let all who have come to you today, seeking healing and growth in their relationships find it.  Let this Love Dare start a revolution in the hearts of all who have stepped forward to commit the next 40 days to grow in their love.  I give it all to you Lord.  In Jesus' sweet name I pray amen.  Thank you K-love.
1/6/2010 6:57:56 AM
Robin United States
Robin
I am going to commit to the Love Dare.  I am married 25 years  to a very obnoxious, belittling alcoholic. over the years I learned not to respond to any of his comments.  Unfortunately, his words have turned worse and become more mentally abusive. He is not a believer. Please keep me in your prayers as I commit to the Lord to the Love Dare.  we are on the brink of divorce at his request, he is meeting with an attorney today about this.  THANK YOU ALL FOR THE PRAYERS- I WILL BE PRAYING FOR ALL IN THIS!
1/6/2010 6:59:18 AM
Brandon United States
Brandon
Heard about this on the way to work. I'm excited about what God can do in my marriage and family in 2010!

My wife and I are taking the Dare =D
1/6/2010 7:01:05 AM
Judy United States
Judy
I tried to do the Love Dare on my own last year.  Saw the movie, bought and read the entire book, and tried it.  My husband "is too busy" to do it with me, so I'm going to try again. But this time I won't be doing it alone - the support of this group and all of us doing it together will be tremendous! We will keep each other going, and the Lord will hold us all up.  Thank you Lord for urging Lisa and Eric to do this!  Stay positive everyone, and bite your tongue!
1/6/2010 7:01:52 AM
Jenny United States
Jenny
Thank you for doing this KLOVE!  I bought the book and daily reminder cards quite a while back.  I started the love dare twice but did not make it beyond day 4...  This will be very motivating!!!  
1/6/2010 7:04:19 AM
Megan United States
Megan
Thank you K LOVE , am going to try this in my relationship with mt boyfriend, I praying that god shows me the plans he has for me!! I LOVE YOU KLOVE
1/6/2010 7:04:58 AM
Julie United States
Julie
While my husband is serving overseas I plan to take the Love Dare to work.  I feel the challenge to LOVE a co-worker.  I am tested daily.  I pray that the Love Dare will change me and our relationship.  
I am inviting my sixteen year old to take the Love Dare as well.  I can truly see that the Love Dare can be applied to any relationship.  
My prayers to all - may God bless you in this journey!!
1/6/2010 7:06:03 AM
Monte United States
Monte
Here we go again!  I LOVE IT!!!
We have a good marriage, but we find this to be good to do at least once a good year as a tune up.
1/6/2010 7:06:12 AM
Tom United States
Tom
My wife and I began the Love Dare last March after attending our church's couple's retreat.  Needless to say we never completed it, as something always came up.  I pray that God will give me the strength to fulfill the 40 days and make our marriage stronger.  Today's dare is so important on building the foundation - and can be important even outside of the marriage.  God's Blessings on everyone's week and in your journey through the Love Dare.
1/6/2010 7:10:01 AM
Laurie United States
Laurie
Are you kidding me??? This is awesome. I am so doing this because my marriage needs this desperately! I've been struggling with anger and bitterness toward him our whole marriage. We've both just decided to live with our choice because it's the "right" thing to do and we have kids... but that is the only reason! This will definitely be our last resort. What's sad is we really love eachother but just can't seem to get this marriage thing right. Thank you for doing this.
1/6/2010 7:10:11 AM
Cyndee United States
Cyndee
I am starting this today with all of you, my Christian sisters.  I feel the strength of support from all of you.  I told a dear friend yesterday that I was at the point of leaving my marriage.  Never thought I'd get to that point but here I am.  Never thought I'd say those words out loud, but there they were.  My husband is an undiagnosed bi-polar manic man.  I have diagnosed him as such since ALL his behaviors match the disorder perfectly.  Of course, he has no idea, no acknowledgment that his tirades are out of the ordinary.  Actually, he blames me for everything in his life...everything that is not perfect, which we all know that life is not perfect.  So there you have it.  About every negative, mean, hateful, and demeaning word/phrase has been yelled at me for the past 18 years.  I still continue to strive to not take it all in, but sometimes I am weak and human and it gets to me.  I pray for him as I go through the next 40 days on my own.  I want him to be mentally and spiritually healthy.  I know only God can make that happen.  Today's challenge is a easy one for me because I practice patience and watch my words every day around him.  God bless all of you and God bless my husband.
1/6/2010 7:14:07 AM
Rebecca United States
Rebecca
Lord,

Open my heart to all that I am about learn during this Dare.  Give me the strength to continue even if or when it gets difficult.  I'm ready to change Lord...I'm ready to become a better wife to my husband and mother to my children.  I also pray Lord that you will help my husband see the change in me as I go through this journey.

Amen.
1/6/2010 7:14:13 AM
Julee United States
Julee
Ditto to every single thing Tammy said in the first comment I read. I am also going to need every amount of strength in me because I, too, have a controlling, demanding and untolerating personality and don't have a lot of patience either. Lord, guide me in my journey to not be so quick to judge, expect perfection or need to always be right. Amen. Thanks K-Love.
1/6/2010 7:14:45 AM
Becca United States
Becca
Lisa and Eric, I want to thank you for doing this. I'm getting married in just ten days. At 22, its only been a few years since I've realized that not EVERYONE has an unhappy marriage. I grew up thinking that all married couples fought all the time. This came from watching my parents marriage fail from as long ago as I can remember. Although I am very excited to get married and have that special man there to share everything with, that fear is there that we'll end up like my parents. I'm going to do this with you guys. It is my hope that this will teach me how to be kind when I don't want to be and patient when I don't think I can. So, thank you thank you thank you! Love y'all!!
1/6/2010 7:15:28 AM
Stacy United States
Stacy
My husband completed this dare about a year and a half ago when I was going through the roughest time in my life dealing with the effects of childhood abuse.  It was an amazing time in our marriage where he truly showed me unconditional love.  I have since tried to do it for him. The first time was during the toughest part of my recovery and of course I couldn't complete it because I was expending too much energy just trying to keep my head above water.  I tried to begin again around August of this past year but had a relapse of my recovery.  I really felt impressed by the Holy Spirit that this is my time to complete it and it is so great that others will be going on this journey as well.  It is also wonderful that it will end on Valentines Day.  I look forward to this challenge and the strengthening of our already very strong marriage.
Praise be to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!!!!
1/6/2010 7:19:00 AM
NIkki United States
NIkki
Lord, give me strength. My husband does not know i am doing this and it is going to be hard for me.  i love him with all my heart but i want to make our marriage stronger and i hope others can see through me how to treat others. I know the Lord is capable of ANYTHING and i know this is going to work.
1/6/2010 7:19:21 AM
Sissy United States
Sissy
Lisa, what you just said really hit home...I've been married for 20 years and I'm in this because I've made a committment, nothing more...he makes this marriage very hard. I used to give everything to this marriage. The kids are part of why it's not working... he makes it tough for the kids to be kids. We walk on egg shells because we aren't sure whats going to trigger him to get angry. The kids are older now, but some of the fights and arguements have lead him to never wanting to see or hear from them again. This breaks my heart, the kids are my whole world therefore this has put a huge gap between us. My prayer for years has been part of the song "Lord, move or move me". The bible says the Lord will never put more on you than what you are able to bare...The really sad thing about this whole relationship is he thinks everything is great and sees nothing wrong with our relationship, and I don't say anything. It's hard for me to talk about the tough issues with him because of his reaction. I listen to you guys all the time, you are such a blessing! God bless you in the positive work that you do in such a negative world!!!
1/6/2010 7:21:45 AM
Tracy United States
Tracy
Wow! That is the only word that comes to my mind when I think about The Love Dare. When my husband and I watched the movie "Fireproof", I was saw so much of myself in the husband. I am married to a truly wonderful man. He is so loving, patient, and most of all Godly. My hope is that I can become the wife he deserves. I have been wanting to do The Love Dare ever since I watched the movie but my pride kept from doing it. I didn't want to be shown all of my shortcomings! But now I am ready. I am so excited that K-Love has started this and I look forward to what each day will show me.
1/6/2010 7:23:03 AM
Amber United States
Amber
My boyfriend has recently been released from the pen and he is now in a halfway house, I have tons of anger for the things he has done and put me and my son through, however, I love him and we are going to try this love dare and hope that this time around things work out for us.  Im a very impatient person but Im learning in order for him to be able to work the programs, Im going to neeed to learn alot of patience.  We are very exciting about starting our lives over.
1/6/2010 7:28:43 AM
RUTHY United States
RUTHY
Patience is a virtue I desire...I am making it my business to do this and do it right...so I pray for strength cause some may be easy but I am sure that the hard ones are coming. So I send out a prayer  to all you couples cause I KNOW What you'r going through! ENDURE!
1/6/2010 7:29:31 AM
Stephanie Ferguson United States
Stephanie Ferguson
I find this Love Dare in the nick of time! This new year has not been kind to me thus far, and in hopes of fresh starts and new hopes and dreams, Ive been crushed. My husband and I are going through tough times in our relationship and we are both finding it hard to resolve our issues and resentments. We have watched the Love Dare movie a few times and participated in the love dare before with our life group at church. Well its my turn, and I am going to put my whole effort into it, my marriage is worth it. It is going to be tough, Im a hard headed, stubborn person. Prayers would be great! Thanks for bringing this opportunity to me.
1/6/2010 7:43:46 AM
debbie United States
debbie
richard and i were married for 10 yrs and then we divorced-- after 8 yrs of being apart God led us back together. we have 3 boys and have all reunited to live in the same house last june 2009. i am starting this love dare to help ourrelationship become stronger. we made a committment to give up one more chance and i really want to see this through. ofcourse we have our differnces, some of the same ones that led us towards divorce all those years ago but I KNOW THAT GOD brought us back together. we are now beign faced with a very difficult sitution but with GOd leading us and me doign this love dare-- i know we can make it. i pray for the strength and the grace to be able to be more patient and loving towards him. i prayer for all of doing also--that GOd lead us with his holy spirit on the journey and continue to bless us and our relationships
1/6/2010 7:49:44 AM
Anna Gurrola United States
Anna Gurrola
My husband and I have been have marital problems for quite some time.  I have been praying for our marriage and I am hoping this chellenge will bring change.  I pray that the Lord will give me strength to get through this challenge and to strengthen our marriage.
1/6/2010 7:57:40 AM
Christina United States
Christina
I am going to try my hardest to do this. I am usually the one in the relationship who is short tempered and hostile at times. I have a wonderful man, God has blessed me with. I want our relationship to be the best it can. I am hoping that I can do this. God Bless all who are doing this.
1/6/2010 7:59:07 AM
Renita United States
Renita

I think this 40 day dare is going to fix my marriage, because I have been very bitter and angry with my husband. We are both doing the dare. I know he loves me dearly and I love him too.I can't wait to see the end results. I know it won't all be easy, but when we put God first all things are possible. Thanks KLove-you guys rock!!
1/6/2010 8:02:56 AM
Alexis United States
Alexis
I received The Love Dare from my sister-in-law for Christmas and have been attempting to make it through day one since! Thank you so much for doing this, it is "forcing" me to keep up! I have been struggling in my marriage and the comments here have helped me to realize that I am not alone. What a blessing! Thank you all for you honesty.
1/6/2010 8:05:42 AM
Teresa United States
Teresa
I am right there with Laurie.  My entire marriage has been a struggle.  We are always angry at each other, but we do love each other.  I pray that God will strengthen our marriage during this 40 days.  
1/6/2010 8:08:55 AM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
Oh my goodness, how this first dare screams at me! It, infact, was my New Years resolution and I hate to admit that I am not doing so well at it. I used to be a very patient person who would be the last to say anything ugly to someone, but the world has changed me and my heart. I married a wonderful man who, unfortunately has the ideaology that words are not hurtful. Ive given up trying to change that perspective in his mind and have found myself communicating with him in a very negative way for a very long time.  
I realize all too often, that we are both wrong, but still, despite that, my verbal filter has been removed by years of disappointment and frustration. I REALLY hope I can accomplish this dare and continue it throughout the rest of my life. Thank you for the extra motivation of the dare.
God Bless & wish me luck! Smile
1/6/2010 8:09:15 AM
Cindy United States
Cindy
Today is a perfect day for this to begin for myself. Today is our Wedding Anniversary, 14 years. Although we have a good marriage there is always room for improvement. Both my husband and myself are quick to jump and judge verbally. I pray that this will be a light for him also. God Bless you all at KLOVE for all you do to help all of GOD's children.
1/6/2010 8:10:30 AM
Jeremy United States
Jeremy
Like many replies here, I am not as easy to work around after a grueling day I put up with.  I just want to forget what has happened before and move on.  Many times I get asked about how things were today and I don't want to bring it back up so I get angry (they know I don't want to relive what I just put away in my mind).  I look at this dare as a new chance at making the change away from that "old man" and becoming a "new man" in Christ.  I have the book and made it about a week but without the backup and an attitude adjustment it just wasn't gonna work.  Knowing that you all are going thru this with me makes it seem like I have a shot at making the chnage for my marriage and my family!  God Bless you all and KEEP THE FAITH!
1/6/2010 8:11:48 AM
Erin Johnson United States
Erin Johnson
Praise God that we are all joining together to complete this challenge!  My husband and I are both saved and I pray that this will strengthen our love for each other and our Savior.  Thank you Jesus for loving us first and showing us the way!  You are holy indeed!
1/6/2010 8:11:50 AM
KIMBERLY NORTON United States
KIMBERLY NORTON
I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS LOVE DARE.  ME AND MY PARTNER WERE MARRIED 10 YEARS GOT DIVORCED.  IT HAS BEEN 4 YEARS SINCE OUR DIVORCE AND NOW WE ARE WORKING ON THINGS AGAIN.  WE HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER AND I HAVE A DAUGHTER FROM A RELATIONSHIP AFTER OUR DIVORCE.  THE HARDEST THING WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH IS THE KIDS......IF I TELL THE KIDS SOMETHING OR SOMETHING THEY CANT DO.....HE ENDS UP LETTING THEM.  OR TELLING THM THAT THEY DONT HAVE TO.  MY PARTNER KNOWS GOD BUT IS RUNNING.  AND HE HAS HAD SO MANY BLESSINGS TO BE THANKFUL FOR.  PLEASE KEEP US IN YOUR PRAYERS...I KNOW FOR A FACT GOD DOES MIRACLES AND I KNOW HE IS GONNA FIX MY PARTNERS HEART.  I LOVE K-LOVE......YOU HELP ME IN SO MANY WAYS...I THANKS GOD FOR YOU
1/6/2010 8:12:30 AM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
I had planned to do the Love Dare with my husband.  I was going to get the book in October on his next payday. He passed away suddenly and I never got the book.  But I was thinking that many of the principles can apply in other relationships.  So I am going to try to see how I can apply this to my relationship with my kids. Our family has been struggling since the loss of my husband.   Today's reading really applies I have had a serious problem with patience not only in the past but especially in my grief.  I think I need to read this one a few times to keep it in mind.  
1/6/2010 8:12:55 AM
Debbie United States
Debbie
I am a single mother of two daughters,23-20. I did the love dare on my youngest and she didn't even know.  we had be struggling for about a year.  Now our relationship and friendship is stronger than ever.    I am now committed to try this on a fellow co-worker and not even tell them because I know God works wonders...
1/6/2010 8:15:27 AM
Amanda United States
Amanda
I am getting married in September and I feel that this is really going to strengthen what we both bring to the table on that exciting day of commitment.  My deepest thanks for what you are doing in the lives of our community. May God Bless you!
1/6/2010 8:15:35 AM
D United States
D
I want to encourage every couple to not take each other for granted. I lost my husband suddenly at the age of 38 years almost a year ago. Although our marriage was a good one, there are still things I said that I wish I could take back. We don't have the assurance of tomorrow,as I learned. If we had a disagreement and I said something not so nice, he sometimes would say, honey, what if something happened to me and you would regret having left things said that way? I would say - You are not going anywhere!
He did though and I would give anything to be able to express all the kindness and consideration to him that now I can't. I wished I had used more restraint and remembered that Bible verse about how we are accountable for the words we say. Amazing how I thought certain things were such issues at the time - they are really not so important in the big scheme of things when all I want is my husband back. Enjoy your loved one and don't put things off today.
1/6/2010 8:16:25 AM
Val United States
Val
We have been married for almost 20 yrs now. We married very young and have had many heart aches. I am hoping that me doing this love dare will show us both what God has in store for us. I love my husband and want to grow old with him. GOd Help me do this with a open and loving heart.
Thank you so much for doing this for us all.
1/6/2010 8:16:35 AM
Sissy United States
Sissy
Cyndee, can't believe that there is someone out there just like me...I read your comment and your world sounds just like mine, except that I have 5 children that this has deeply affected, to the point to where he has no longer wanted them around nor want a relationship with them, which is tearing my world apart. Some of them no longer welcome to our home. I'm praying with you, I'm no longer in control, God is and praying I make the right decision, because at this point, I don't know what to do! Thanks Lisa and Eric for putting positive into out so negative world! God Bless!
1/6/2010 8:19:01 AM
Erin United States
Erin
I have to admit, I have had the book for awhile now, but "never got around to it".  Today, while looking on my facebook, rather down, I came across your challenge, and i accept.  I ask for prayer to follow through, whole-heartedly.
1/6/2010 8:20:36 AM
Krista United States
Krista
I am doing this on my own for my husband. We have been struggling through many issues. We are both too stubborn to quit, which sometimes is the only thing that holds our marriage together. I have 3 children from a previous marriage which only makes things that much harder for us. My husband is a police officer and works so much, when he is home he usually takes out all of his anger and frustrations out on me and it only angers me right back. I've dealt with cheating and mental abuse but know God is bigger than all of this. Thank you Lisa and Eric!
1/6/2010 8:22:59 AM
April LaFarge United States
April LaFarge
I am the same as Tammy I am very demanding and my Husband is very passive. I am done in him wrong in many ways. I have had an affair and we are recovering from it as we speak, so this love dare is perfect timing. My husband as shown me of God's Grace and through our marriage we are GLORIFYING the LORD.
1/6/2010 8:24:25 AM
Ashley United States
Ashley
Im getting married in June,  doing this will hopefully make us fall more in love than we have ever been, he doesnt know that I am doing this though.  Day was before I read this started out rough.  He is sick and decided to take his anger about the doctor not knowing whats wrong with him out on me.  After I got a bit upset, I found this.  I have realized that I need to be patient.  Best of luck to everyone!  Please pray for strength!  God is good though thanks k-love for doing this!
1/6/2010 8:24:50 AM
Struggling in Love United States
Struggling in Love
I have been married for one and half years and my husband is a minister. You would think that a minister and his wife would be better at the marriage thing than some, but that's not the case. We're human and have our faults just like everybody else. We are both extremely stubborn and controlling. After a year and a half of arguments, misunderstandings and struggles it feels like we have just thrown in the towel. I don't feel close to him at all anymore and it's like we're just going through the motions of day to day life with no love or intimacy in our marriage putting on a fake smile for the rest of the world. I want our marriage to be one of love and not one that feels like a prison. I want to be a wife that will build my husband's ministry up instead of tearing it down. Thank you KLOVE for doing this. It's just the push I needed.
1/6/2010 8:30:37 AM
Melissa McNeale United States
Melissa McNeale
This could not have come at a more perfect time.  My husband and I just started marriage counseling yesterday and I think this is a wonderful addition to that.  Lord please be with us in this journey and help me to become a patient person.  
Thanks KLove for the wonderful things you bring to us listeners!
1/6/2010 8:31:34 AM
Lorena Blades United States
Lorena Blades
I am so excited about this challenge. Although, I am not telling my husband that I am doing this, because I know he is not ready for this challenge at this time, or at least, I know that it is more critical for me at this time. I have shared this challenge with my co-workers (about 6 women)- they are also going to do this challenge. One girl said she was going to do the love dare and give the book to her husband for Valentine's Day, which I thought was a great idea!! We decided to do this challenge without our spouses, and bless them with our determination and devotion to enrich our marriages. Thank you so much for starting today and just in time for Valentine's Day. God bless you always, you guys are so wonderful and I love listening to you EVERY day, morning, noon and night! GOD IS GREAT!!!!!
1/6/2010 8:33:02 AM
Melissa United States
Melissa
Wow!!  What a great thing! My husband and I have been married for 14 1/2 years and we have 4 kiddos (ages 12-4), and he works 6 or 7 days a week, 10-12 hrs a day AND he is going back to get his masters degree.  We really dont fight or even argue, we don't have time!  But lately, I have found my patience is not really with him, but with the children.  But I am thinking that this can't be a bad thing to do for him as well.  So, I'm accepting the dare for my family as a whole!
1/6/2010 8:33:22 AM
KIMBERLY NORTON United States
KIMBERLY NORTON
ME AND MY PARTNER HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR 4 YEARS, WE WERE MARRIED 10 YEARS.  NOW WE ARE TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT.  WE HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER AND I HAVE A DAUGHTER THAT CAME AFTER WE WERE DIVORCED.  WE GET ALONG GREAT.  MY PARTNER IS RUNNING FROM GOD.  HE KNOW ABOUT GODS LOVE.  OUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IS THE KIDS.....WHEN I TELL THE KIDS TO DO SOMETHING OR NOT TO DO SOMETHING, HE SOMETIMES GO AGAINST ME AND LETS THEM DO WHAT THEY WANT.  ALMOST LIKE TELLING THEN THAT THEY DONT HAVE TO LISTEN TO ME.  I AM EXCITED ABOUT THIS LOVE DARE...MY PARTNER SAID HE DIDNT WANT TO DO IT...BUT I AM GOING TO.  ITS GONNA BE HARD BUT WITH GOD ALL IS POSSIBLE.  PLEASE PRAY FOR US, ESPECIALLY FOR MY PARTNER THAT HE WILL STOP RUNNING FROM GOD.  THANK YOU LISA AND ERIC....I LOVE KLOVE AND YOUR MORNING SHOW
1/6/2010 8:35:26 AM
Laura Richards United States
Laura Richards
May God bless us and honor our relationships as we go through this dare! I know it will be tough for me...but only because I can be resistant to change - even when they're bad! I will seek first his kingdom and his righteousness...Matthew 6:33
1/6/2010 8:37:29 AM
Joy DuBoise United States
Joy DuBoise
WoW!! this challenge is going to be a tuffie. I am normally intolerant, demanding& very out spoken soo this is going to be challenge. I am willing to take this challenge to change for the better. i have hurt my fiance's feelings verbally. alot of regrettable actions and spoken words. all those times i wish i had more patience and understanding.Dear Lord, forgive me for being a blind, quick tempered, selfish and very foolish woman. you have sent me a special man who has put up with my actions. this day is a new beginning to a stronger relationship. Amen! <3 Love Dare day 1 to new beginnings!!
1/6/2010 8:40:53 AM
Alisha United States
Alisha
I'm so excited to do this challenge. My husband actually suggested it, which made it even better. We've been married for almost 8 years and have had our ups and downs. We saw Fireproof and our church actually did this study, but we weren't able to participate, so I'm so glad to start now. May God bless all those starting!
1/6/2010 8:43:35 AM
Carlie United States
Carlie
I am so excited to be doing The Love Dare!  I have wanted to for a long time but have not been able to buy the book.  I have an awesome husband that I love very much.  A lot of people say that I am spoiled by him and that is ok too.  He is a great man and sometimes I find myself very upset because I do not do enough for him.  I am a stay at home mom.  I home school my oldest boy.  So if my husband comes home and everything is not perfect he does not get upset.  He steps in and helps.  I just wanted to find a way to Thank him and I know this will help!!  Thanks K-Love you all are awesome!  God is Good!!!!!!!!!
1/6/2010 8:44:31 AM
Nicole United States
Nicole
Today I celebrate my 7th wedding anniversary. What a great gift it will be to give my husband the gift of kind words spoken. I struggle with this. I don't mean to hurt feelings, but I don't realize how the things I say and my tone impact those I love. Today is definitely going to be a challenge, but I will lean on the strength of the Lord to get me through and to strengthen my marriage. My husband has been such a blessing to me, I'd love to return the favor.
1/6/2010 8:46:05 AM
Audrey United States
Audrey
I am excited about this!  Thank you so much for this opportunity.  I have actually blogged about you all doing this, so hopefully I can get my readers to join me as well!  

http://lilboogerbows.blogspot.com
1/6/2010 8:47:25 AM
Crystal United States
Crystal
I am going to do the love dare, with the help of God, for my husband and our nine year old daughter!  I have absolutely no patience anymore, with a nine year old, a one year old, one more on the way, and a husband that is a perfectionist and does not like anything or anyone that falls short. But this is going to be the start of something new for me because I know it is not all him, I need to do my part for our relationship and my anger and impatience does not help at all.  And I get so angry and I take it out on our oldest daughter.  Perhaps the changes I make will make all the difference!  Thank you KLOVE for doing this, I have been wanting to but cant afford to buy the book to do it.  I am so excited and nervous but I know with God I can do anything!  Please pray for me!  I will pray for all of you as well!
1/6/2010 8:48:14 AM
John United States
John
I know that this is not going to be easy, but I am willing to do this to make my marriage with my wife stronger.  I am able to listen to KLove on my iPhone so she doesn't know that KLove is doing the Love Dare. I know that I do not have patience.  I am looking forward to see if I am going to be able to this.  I know that it is going to be through the help of God that I am going to be able to do this.  
1/6/2010 8:49:40 AM
Sheils United States
Sheils
I'm ready for the Dare and I think it's great timing for me and myhusband as we are prepairing to move our family to China for up to 10 years with his job. Just when we will need family and friends the most we will only have each other to lean on.God worked in our lives in so many ways in 2009 and we will need him to guid us every step of the way in 2010.
1/6/2010 8:50:58 AM
Noelia United States
Noelia
I am not married but i have been in a ten year relationship with him. He has decided he wants out of the relationship for many reason,but the one that really hurts me is he is telling me he is not in love with me. We were attending some church classes to get married through the church and now he wants out i'm very much hurting,BUT I'M GONNA TRY THE LOVE DARE SEE IF I CAN SAVE WHAT I HAVE. He has not moved out yet. KEEP US IN PRAYER.
1/6/2010 8:51:01 AM
Sandy United States
Sandy
My husband and I have been together for 6 years. About 3 years into it, he had an affair. I chose to keep us together and try to work it out. He has been faithful since then, but I'm the one who keeps holding him hostage for his mistake. I act bitter and resentful at times and I don't like that about myself. I find when I'm working 7 days a week on midnight shift and I'm exhausted, that is when Satan hits me hardest. I'm going to do this dare! Satan beware,with God's help, I'm going to regain and stregthen my marriage! Thanks K-Love!
1/6/2010 8:53:10 AM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
I come from a HIGH sarcastic family and my parents raised me by nit-picking everything I've done...so I know I do it WAY WAY WAY too much to my husband, and bless his heart - he knows I don't mean it.  So far I've done well with Day 1, I just pray I will continue to do well.
1/6/2010 8:53:27 AM
DIANA United States
DIANA
My husband and I purchased the Love Dare book, but sat on top of the table collecting dust, when I heard KLOVE doing the Love Dare I knew God was telling me to start it so I am. This is my second marriage and we are a blended family and I know this will bless my marriage and family. Patience is so easy to say but too hard to practice. Its great to know you have your KLOVE family for support. Thank you KLOVE for doing something so wonderful. God Bless you all
1/6/2010 8:57:04 AM
Anna-Marie Robert United States
Anna-Marie Robert
To Kai Garner...you say that love has hardened you...if it is TRUE love, it will not do that.  You are the victim of other people's (and your) idea of love.  The hardness comes from disappointment and grief when our ideas and ideals of love are not met.  I am a single mother and I agree that sometimes 'being married' feels like an exclusive club...but MY GOD LOVES ME JUST AS I AM!!!  The principles taught in The Love Dare can be applied to our family life and every day life.  All we really need to do is follow what the scriptures teach about loving God first, then loving others as we love ourselves...the key is we need to learn to love ourselves 'as God loves us'...looking past the hurts and disappointments.  God Word says He has loved us with and everlasting love...a love like that doesn't hurt or make us hard...it heals and softens.  I pray you feel His love like this in a very real way.
1/6/2010 8:59:16 AM
Kimmie Pitcock United States
Kimmie Pitcock
I will take this challenge with all my heart, with all my soul, with all my mind and all my strength!    I bought the book months ago and it has sat in my drawer.  Now is the time.  I know it won't be easy.  I know I need to love my husband as God has commanded a wife to do.  He is a good man and good to our family and he has sacrificed so much for us.  This past year has been a tough year, emotionally for us. I tend to be quick tempered toward him when he doesn't handle a situation the way I think it should be handled and then a wall goes up.  Well it's time for that wall to come tumbling down.  Thank you KLOVE for getting this started.
1/6/2010 9:00:34 AM
Leni United States
Leni
I will be doing this for my relationship with my 15 year old son. Life has not been easy with him, and I seem to be reaching my breaking point. It's effecting the entire household.

So I am trusting God to heal this and help me learn how to deal with these issues.
1/6/2010 9:01:26 AM
Tawnya United States
Tawnya
January 30th is our 2nd annivesary. I feel we have a very strong, happy marriage but there is always room for improvement.  For Christmas we recieved the movie Fireproof(we had seen it at the theater but what a wonderful gift)and the Love Dare book. We watched the movie again and I read a couple of pages of the book and laid it on the coffee table.  When I heard on KLOVE that you were doing the love dare I thought ok why not. So pray for me that I can get this all right.  My husband has been such a wonderful blessing and I want to be the best wife I can be.
1/6/2010 9:05:20 AM
Darrie United States
Darrie
My husband is currently serving our country with the Army in Iraq. He has been gone for 6 months and we have 6 more to go before he is home. It will be a huge adjustment for our family when he returns. We have decided to start the Love Dare when he gets home! We are so excited and I believe this will surely help both of us adjust in the way we need to!!!
1/6/2010 9:08:05 AM
Patty United States
Patty
What a blessing the Love Dare is!  I have been married for 36 years (I was 17, he was 19) and most of that time has been very happy and we were truly best friends.  The last few years however we have grown very far apart and I have had built up a lot of hostility and resentment toward him over his lack of motivation which has further deteriorated our relationship.  I have been considering leaving the marriage and that saddens me more than I can say.  I have been praying and praying about it, then I turn around and say mean ugly things to him.  He has been more than patient and understanding to me through the years but he can only take so much and he has begun to shut me out.  I have no right to be hurt over that but it hurts me deeply.  Then, this morning on the way to work I heard about the Love Dare and vowed to do it without telling him.  Please keep us in your prayers as I will all of you.  
1/6/2010 9:10:08 AM
Rinette Canada
Rinette
I think its harder for some people than others - been trying this step for 3 days now - and boy, sometimes I have to bite my lip extra hard!
1/6/2010 9:12:04 AM
Christy United States
Christy
Our whole family is participating in the Love Dare challenge.  We have 4 children (ages 13, 10, 9, and 8) and while the chapters are written toward spouses, I simply tweaked it here and there while reading it aloud to them this morning so it would fit their lives and be easier for them to understand.  We would stop and discuss what I was reading every now and then and when we were finished with the reading and learning what today's dare was we joined hands and prayed and asked God to help us and strengthen us each day throughout the next 40 days.

We're so excited to see just what God's going to do in our home and family throughout this journey!  Thank you K-Love for putting this challenge out there!  I've posted about it on my Facebook page as well as a message board I frequent daily and have had many of my friends and family say they are taking the journey with us!  YAY God!
1/6/2010 9:23:42 AM
Christine United States
Christine
Thank you K-Love for doing this.  My boyfriend and I have done this almost a year ago and it really makes you think about yourself and how you can better yourself to have a better relationship not only with your significant other, but also the people around you.  I encourage all couples to do this to improve their relationship, even if it is already strong.
1/6/2010 9:31:20 AM
Heather United States
Heather
I am so glad you started the Love Dare.  I did 9 days of this in 2008 and gave up.  I know now that I am where I need to be to do this again, and complete it.  I am also reaching out to those around me and sharing your challenge.  I feel like this can help so many people.  Wonderful things are going to happen in 2010, and what a great way to start!  Thanks for caring enough to challenge everyone!
1/6/2010 9:31:27 AM
Scott United States
Scott
First of all, thank you K-Love.  I have been married to my wife since 7/12/08.  My wife and I have seen the movie several times and love it.  My wife has mentioned the book a few times but we just haven't bought it.  I am looking forward to completing this "dare" to see our marriage last for a life time.  (We have both been married before.)  With today's economy and all, I feel ALL relationships (marriage, friends, just people in general) need something to brighten everything up in the world.  I agree that being PATIENT is the most important characteristic of LOVE, which is what Christ commands us to do . . . love one another.  God Bless, and may we all stay focused in these next few days.
1/6/2010 9:40:18 AM
Jane United States
Jane
I am surprised at how many people think this will be a difficult thing to do for one day.  I learned long ago not to say anything controversial and to keep my mouth shut.  But that is not for the same reasons that this challenge is intended.  I keep everything at a surface level with my husband, never sharing my opinions for him to put down or my feelings for him to tell me that I am wrong for having them.  So I am adapting this challenge slightly for me, to not "think" anything negative or to say negative things once I am in a private place.  That is also detrimental and feeds the anger and bad feelings.  My husband is verbally abusive and controlling, but I can only work on my own behavior and responses.  He is not a believer so I won't be telling him I am doing this but I want to be a good ambassador for Christ and show him through my actions and words God's love.
1/6/2010 9:40:31 AM
Dianne United States
Dianne
I am going to take the love dare and if it is for relationships, I challenge any grandparent, mother, dad, or family of an estranged family to take the dare for the kids involved in the situation.  They are the ones who suffer quietly because of our impatience. Thank you God for all the love in my life and continue to speak to me so I can obey.  Amen
1/6/2010 9:52:18 AM
Adrian United States
Adrian
i am excited. The movie was excellent. I pray all who are involved, that the Holy Spirit changes us to better for his Glory not ours. All who are on the brink of divorce.... stay faithful to God... for he is good and faithful and just. AMEN? AMEN!
1/6/2010 9:59:14 AM
Sharon United States
Sharon
Thank you Klove for doing the Love Dare! My husband and I have been praying for a new fresh start to 2010, not only in everyday life but our spiritual life also.  We are so in love and sometimes we let everday life get in our way and we do not practice patience with one another. This is a great way to start out the new year and a true blessing to see exactly how blessed we are to have each other.
1/6/2010 10:02:15 AM
Jackie United States
Jackie
I'm so excited to do the Love Dare with K-Love. We just saw Fireproof last weekend and I remembered thinking how I really could use a little more patience...what a challenge!
1/6/2010 10:04:15 AM
Pepper United States
Pepper
@ Cindy Ladd, thanks so much for the short prayer.  I hope you don't mind but I copied it and am posting it in the house where I can see it.  I need to do exactly that.  Lighten up, be less defensive and not take every word so personally...Thanks!  I pray God will help me become the wife I know he wants me to be.
1/6/2010 10:17:57 AM
Stacey Kliner United States
Stacey Kliner
wow...this will be a challenge...i struggle with holding my tongue when things don't go my way or people don't cooperate with my agenda. Dear Jesus, help me hold my tongue today.
1/6/2010 10:27:26 AM
Chris Levy United States
Chris Levy
I am up for this challenge. I am going to be positive to my spouce today and be positive to the rest of the people I know. Well, maybe not at work when needed since I am a manager. But, I will sure try.
1/6/2010 10:27:38 AM
Elizabeth Rodriguez United States
Elizabeth Rodriguez
My husband and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary in April. This past year we gave ourselves to the Lord and WHAT an AMAZING year it was! We've realized that when we were married almost 10 years ago the Lord was present in the Church, but not in our hearts and lives. NOW...he is first and foremost in our lives. We have been very fortunate to have found a great Church home that my husband, myself and our two boys love going to every Sunday! Our sons Julian (8) and Isaak (4) love Sunday school and look forward to Sundays to go to "God's House" as they call it. Robert and I will be taking this challenge of the Love Dare because we know that through God all is Possible. We never knew that before and NOW...that's what we live by. Never knew that having a personal relationship with the Lord could change so many things in one's life and now that is the only way for us! Thank you God and thank you KLOVE for opening your doors and airwaves to us...these newbeeies at knowing God's way. My boys request KLOVE every morning and now that is all that plays in our car, our house and at my work. God Bless you for what you do and Thank You!!
1/6/2010 10:28:07 AM
Madelyne United States
Madelyne
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. Over the last six months there have been numerous disagreements, fights, and times where we both just felt like giving up. I am sitting here reading over all of these comments and realizing this is what our relationship needs. We broke up right before the new year started and talked about how we needed to make some changes within ourself. I love him and I feel like this is what God is telling me I should do. I have been praying for a sign about some decisions that I need to make and this is what I need.

I know that I have repeated myself alot but its just hitting me really hard. I have decided that I am going to do this love dare by myself without him knowing and show him I am a different person through Christ.

I pray for everyone out there who is doing the challenge. Just like in Fireproof, there were days when the challenge seemed to hard to handle and it would be so much easier to give up. I pray that God provides us all with patience and determiniation to complete the Dare and rewards us for our efforts.
1/6/2010 10:31:32 AM
LisaAnn United States
LisaAnn
Thank you K-Love.  I have been separated for almost two years.  We have a court date this month to settle everything.  So this is perfect timing for me, this devotion will take us right to valentine's day, pass all the stress, trials and struggles that the devil will test us with.  This focus as well as many other devotions I am involved in will help me stay focused on the Lord.  I will use this Love Dare in all aspects of my daily life, especially those closest to me.  This can benefit anyone and everyone.  We all need to BE STILL and LISTEN to GOD whisper to us.  Thank you for your ministry work.
1/6/2010 10:37:20 AM
yeny rosales United States
yeny rosales
WOW!!! I have determined that 2010 will be a different year. I was married for 4 years and left the marriage because I felt I could not overcome the problems we were facing. After many tough situations including infidelity I am determined to continue asking  GOD to restore my marriage.Truly asking GOD for a miracle.  We are now somewhat close and I pray that this is the year we finally make vows that we keep until death do us apart. I am starting this challenge on my own with the help of God and prayers from all of you. I am convinced that families are what satan wants to see destroyed. We have an 8  year old who needs a family in which GOD is magnified. This is it!!! I am in knowing that this miracle id for the honor and glory od GOD!
1/6/2010 10:37:43 AM
Josh United States
Josh
This is an amazing idea. My wife called me and told me about this and when I read it, she asked if I wanted to try it. I told her that I would love to. This will help a lot of people learn more about Love and Compromise.

Thanks
1/6/2010 10:40:57 AM
michelle United States
michelle
This is going to be the hardest thing for my family but we all are going to try it, i beleive this will get us back on the right track again  the devil is woring my family to much lately kids and husbond, My husband lost his parents 6 years ago 60 hours apart and christmas and every year it is very hard around this house, also we need all the prayer we can get we stared a business  again for the second time and with this cold weather we can't work, so yes we all(4) are going to take the Love Dare the kids don't know yet they are 14 and 12
1/6/2010 10:41:36 AM
Rachel United States
Rachel
I posted the links to K-Love's pages on the Love Dare on my Facebook page.  This will be exciting to see how the Lord will work in not only my life, but other people as well.  Can't wait to begin the journey!
1/6/2010 10:43:39 AM
Amy United States
Amy
This is Awesome! I am using this for my husband. He is not familiar with the love dare so I am excited to see how much positivity this will bring to my marriage. I like to think my marriage is a wonderful one, but we all have our share of problems and my husband is not saved. I think this is one more opportunity for me to show him God's love, and in Jesus' name He WILL be saved! Thanks to everyone at KLOVE for posting this! All of you guys are awesome!!
1/6/2010 10:44:23 AM
Linda United States
Linda
Thank you K-Love for doing this dare. I have had the book for about 6 months now and it's about time I get to it!!  I pray that God uses this challenge in my life to make my marriage as strong as it can be. I pray that it makes me a better Christian, wife, and mother to my family!!
1/6/2010 10:48:13 AM
Treva Buchanan United States
Treva Buchanan
My husband & I had started the 40 challenge in November '09.  However with the busyness of life & crazy things going on, my husband stopped after about 2 wks into the challenge.  He would forget to read that days challenge & fall behind.  So upon realizing he had quit reading his book, after getting to day 25 I stopped because he had stopped (it kinda hurt that he wasn't taken our marriage seriously like he said).  So here I am, starting over on day 1!  This time, I'm going to finish & not let anything stop me from doing so. However, today was not the best of days...this morning my husband & I have exchanged words before leaving the house to go to work.  I'm glad we made things right before saying our goodbyes but I've already messed up on day 1...so for the rest of the day, I WILL conquer this challenge!
1/6/2010 10:51:18 AM
Irene United States
Irene
My husband and I purchased The Love Dare book shortly after watching the movie Fireproof as we felt inspired to work through our differences and find a better way to communicate. However, wIth all our heartfelt intentions the book just sat on the  nightstand because the duties and responsibilities to our family was overwhelming and tiresome. Our marriage isn't in terrible shambles, but it isn't great either. We've been married for eleven years and still love each other and are truly committed to this marriage as it's a second marriage for both of us. We agree that divorce is not an option in our family and we want so much to reconnect,  find our passion and be able to communicate more effectively with each other. I've prayed and prayed and have seen a few changes, but still not enough. Then I heard on K-Love about the Love Dare challenge and I thought - that's it! God is surely speaking to me - perhaps the sign I asked HIM for. First challenge will not be easy because patience has never been my virtue, but something I always pray about and if this is the first step - THEN LET HIS WILL BE DONE! I look forward to sharing this challenge with my husband instead of doing it alone. We chose to not let Satan take control, but instead accept God's love and know that it's enough for us to dedicate our life to him and follow will our hearts.
"I Can Do All Things Through Christ Which Strengthen Me."
                                                     'Philippians 4:13'
1/6/2010 10:56:03 AM
Josh United States
Josh
I would like to take this challenge...I am a 34 yr old single person with Cerebral Palsey and I will be glad to take part in this love dare and i will also post this onn my facebook page to see how many friends will do this with me I give glory to God
1/6/2010 11:03:31 AM
Gina United States
Gina
The last few weeks have been full of strife and arguments in our home.  I work full-time since my husband lost his job.  Our roles have reversed... it is hard for me to not be there for the children and to see that the standards that were set for me when I was home are not the same one he lives up to.

I had the book on my Christmas list but didn't get it.  I heard about the challenge and felt tugs at my heart.  During the trip to school and work, we fought again.  I got to work and read today's dare.  Boy oh boy do I fail miserably at this patience thing.

I pray for the sake of our precious children, that the Lord can lead me through these 40 dares.  
Thank you K-Love.
1/6/2010 11:04:11 AM
Danielle United States
Danielle
I started the Love Dare this past summer. My husband and I were going through a tough time. So tough, others thought we weren't going to make it. The Love Dare made a huge impact on me from day one. I learned more about myself than ever before. I implemented the lessons I learned immediately and saw a huge difference in our marriage. Unfortunately, once things felt great, i let life take over and I put the book down. Although things are going good now, we are vowing to commit to completing this dare along with my favorite radio station! Thanks Lisa and Eric! My husband and I are looking forward to celebrating our love again with KLove!
1/6/2010 11:04:27 AM
Lora United States
Lora
I was so excited when I heard this on my way to work this morning. I'm an Administrative Assistant at my churche's counseling ministry. I told the director as soon as I got in the door what you all were doing at KLOVE for the next 40 days and suggested that it would be a great place to direct our clients. I made signs directing people to the KLOVE Love Dare and placed the signs in the waiting room and each of the counseling offices to hand out to clients.
1/6/2010 11:05:17 AM
sandi United States
sandi
my husband and i are going to do the love dare challenge this day one will be harder for me than him i usually open my mouth and negtive things come out when things go wrong he is more of a laid back person  we have agreed to do this together so lord give me strengh to get through the first day of the love dare chalenge and make our marriage stronger  thanks alot klove for doing this
1/6/2010 11:05:47 AM
Rebekah United States
Rebekah
WOW! This going to be such a great challenge! I am looking forward to the days a head and what God will reveal to me and watch my marriage grow stronger. I have a question, How do you keep the Lord #1 in your marriage when your spouse stopped going to church? I hope this helps!

1/6/2010 11:08:03 AM
Fatima United States
Fatima
I'm going to try this with my kids, since I'm not married. I hope I succeed.  there are five of them and I am the only Adult in the Home.  Jesus Help me!!
I sent an email to a lot of my married friends and co-workers that are married.  I hope I don't get in trouble by sending it to co-workers. I was nervous after receiveing an Email back from someone known through work from another agency that I need to take her name off this email.  But let us learn how to Love.  This will be a great experience.  God Bless Everyone who are doing this.
1/6/2010 11:23:21 AM
Shar United States
Shar
Soooo exicted about this! I even posted a blog about it to further spread the word about the K-Love 40 day journey to V-Day and encourage the Love Dare everywhere!

http://sharmohr.wordpress.com
1/6/2010 11:27:29 AM
Brian United States
Brian
Well, i'm gonna do the love dare. I have a good marriage, we're both believers.   Problem is, I often fail to love my wife like Christ loves the church.  Hopefully, the Lord will help me love her as He wants me to.  Thank you Lord for loving us!  God's blessing to all those taking the love dare!  There are so many awesome stories in these comments!  May we submit to Him and look more like Jesus.
1/6/2010 11:27:34 AM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
WOW!!I don't really know what to say. My husband and I have been mairried for 13 years and I thought that I have been a patient woman. We have seen our share of hard times.We have 2 children 12 and 3. When our oldest was 6mounths my husband found out he had cancer.I stood by him and helped anyway I could I worked three jobs and took care of the baby and my teenage sister. Than because of the cancer my husband became addicted to pain pills I knew nothing about it until he hit rock bottom. He went to rehab and got help.But that is a BIG part of our problems. I don't trust him because he lied to me about not taking pain pills for about 3 years and that hurt so bad. But I forgave him. Than he had a relaps and had to start all over trust broke again. Well we got things worked out and we adopted our daughter. We thought this would be a new start for our family than he got hurt at work he has not worked for 3years. We are struggling with life and that makes me angery and I have been so short with him because of everything that has built up for the past 12 years. So as I read todays challenge it hit me I thought that since I have stuck it out with our marriage I had the patients of Job boy was I wrong. The Lord has showed me that is something I need to work on I NEED TO BE PATIENT!! I pray that this will bring us to a better part in life a make us a better wife and husband. Pray for us.
1/6/2010 11:32:01 AM
Carrie United States
Carrie
I enter this chagllenge with excitment and caution.  I know it won't be easy at times but I'm excited to see how God uses this to change me into what He wants me to be. I have felt the tug on my heart for a while to do this and when I heard about this on KLove I knew I had to do it!   My prayer is that I can finish what I have started and that my marriage will be strengthend.  
1/6/2010 11:33:57 AM
Scott United States
Scott
Wow I just found this today. I feel so blessed that I can share this with my wife. While the Love we share is strong we are suffering through great hardship and need all the help we can get.
1/6/2010 11:34:19 AM
Tammy United States
Tammy
Is it something with our name, because I also have a very critical spirit.  I feel like I am destroying our marriage in with my mind since my husband can't live up to my expectations.  Sure, we both could do things to change, but I can only change myself with God's help!  I've stared the Love Dare several times, but get stuck on the first day because honestly, that's where the majority of the problem  is for me.  I could spend a whole week or two here just rereading.  I'm so glad that KLOVE started the Love Dare, now I feel like I am doing this along with others.  
1/6/2010 11:38:18 AM
Amanda United States
Amanda
I have had KLOVE playing in our bedroom at night (the whole night) and when I woke up this morining and heard that you were asking others to do the love dare with you it made me think...and what I thought was that this was the perfect thing for my family right now! Not just my husband and I but our little boys too (who I loose patience with alot!) We all could use this LOVE DARE in our life. Our family home life has been rocked with my sister, her husband and their 6 month old living with us going on two years! I have always thought my self to be a patient person, but boy was I wrong! Please pray for me and my family as we go thru this! I am the one doing the Love Dare...have not told my husband...maybe I won't just to see how that goes! I look forward to Valentines Day!! Can't wait to start my new adventure!
1/6/2010 11:40:38 AM
susie United States
susie
I think this is awesome to do this book. God works in ways you never think of. I am on cafemom and in one of the groups we started the same thing, the first of the month. Thank you so much for what all you guys do...
1/6/2010 11:52:53 AM
Leslie Glass United States
Leslie Glass
I am very excited about this challenge. My husband and I have been married for 7 months and although we are still in the "honeymoon" stage, we are always looking for ways to deepen our love and avoid bigger problems. I guess you could say we are "fireproofing."
Although I did not get married when I WANTED to, I got married when God knew I NEEDED to. God has completely blessed me with the most amazing man.
We are taking on this challenge not only to show each other how much we appreciate and love each other but also because we want God to know how thankful we are for giving us to each other.
My husband is a true sign of God's everlasting love for me.Everytime I think of my husband I am reminded how much God loves me.
My whole life I have prayed for the man God made for me. So when we got married I had "My Answered Prayer" engraved in his ring.
1/6/2010 12:05:28 PM
Allen United States
Allen
Well, I guess I am going to to this for my lovely wife. My mother gave us the love dare book last Christmas and my wife got I know part of the way through it but I think my selfishness discouraged her in the journey. I plan on doing this without her knowledge so I can grow in our relationship with Christ and with my wife. I love and adore her but I dont show her the attention and help she deserves. I know this will help us both reap the benefits of this love dare. I really am disappointed in myself that I have waited so long to realize she deserves so much more than what I have been giving her.

Ephesians 5:21 (New International Version)

21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
1/6/2010 12:09:21 PM
brent United States
brent
I am amazed how God speaks to us. I am a fireman and have been married for 23 years. During this last week I have been watching and rewatching Fireproof the movie struggling with the relationship I have with my wife. I have owned the Love Dare for a year but have not completed even though I started it once. As I was driving to work this morning I heard the Love Dare challange on KLOVE and thought this is GOD speaking to me through the radio. I hope with all my heart we can all complete this dare as I know I will need your support!
1/6/2010 12:13:40 PM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
Just wanted to add that when we are tempted to not be patient with our spouses, we need to remember how patient Christ has been with us - how He loves us even when we are ungodly, how He died for us while we were still sinners.  We can choose to love someone even when they are being unlovely because we are to love as He loved.
1/6/2010 12:31:27 PM
Irene United States
Irene
My husband and I purchased The Love Dare book shortly after watching the movie Fireproof as we felt inspired to work through our differences and find a better way to communicate. However, wIth all our heartfelt intentions the book just sat on the nightstand because the duties and responsibilities to our family was overwhelming and tiresome. Our marriage isn't in terrible shambles, but it isn't great either. We've been married for eleven years and still love each other and are truly committed to this marriage because it's a second marriage for both of us. Divorce is not an option in our family and we want so much to reconnect,  find our passion and be able to communicate more effectively with each other. I've prayed and have seen a few changes, but still not enough. Then I heard on K-Love about the Love Dare challenge and I thought - that's it! God is surely speaking to me - perhaps a sign from HIM to pick up the book again. First challenge will not be easy because patience has never been my virtue, but something I always pray about and if this is the first step - THEN LET HIS WILL BE DONE! I look forward to sharing this challenge with my husband instead of doing it alone. And, I also plan on doing this challenge for my relationship with my son (22 years old).  We refuse to let Satan take control, but instead accept God's love and know that it's enough for us to dedicate our life to him and follow with our hearts.
"I Can Do All Things Through Christ Which Strengthen Me."
                                                     'Philippians 4:13'
1/6/2010 12:43:01 PM
Diane United States
Diane
I humbly accept the Love Dare Challenge!!!--

So far so good!!

Blessings,
Diane
1/6/2010 1:06:10 PM
Dana Tucker United States
Dana Tucker
I have failed miserably the very first day.  It was like before I even realized, I was being negative.  I didn't think this was going to be this hard.  Please pray for me...can we have a do over.
1/6/2010 1:08:49 PM
Jessica United States
Jessica
I have tried the love dare.. and my spouse got up in a grumpy mood and i did not say anything back negative or to my kids that were moody - i need to practice this more often and the whole family.. thank you -
1/6/2010 1:17:22 PM
Melissa United States
Melissa
I heard about the challenge this morning while in the car and was excited to check it out.  My husband and I have only been married for 2 1/2 years but we had made a resolution this year to make it better.  We really don't have to many "problems" but with an 11 yr old 7 yr old and a new born our marriage has been come mundane and all about everything else but us.  I got home this afternoon still excited to log on and read today's dare.  I read it thru and thought yes I am not a person who is slow to anger unfortunatly.  But tipically I do not anger much with my husband.  And then he did 3 things that my knee jerk reaction would have said something snippy.  I held my tounge and glad I did for 30 sec later I had my wits about me and realized that they were minor things and in the grand scheam of the world just a rippel in a pond.  He just got home now and I am  very excited to share this Dare with him.  I also am going to work on patience in every other area of my life especially my children. Thank you so much.
God is good all of the time. All of the time God is good.
1/6/2010 1:22:50 PM
Jill United States
Jill
I have heard about the Love Dare before and wanted to try it - but today I am MAKING A COMMITMENT to do it starting now.  Since I already lost patience with my husband early this morning, my days are going to start at noon.  So from noon today until noon tomorrow is Day #1 for me.  I am excited to start this journey with all of you!
1/6/2010 1:40:13 PM
Laura United States
Laura
I've been married for 14 years and have a good marriage(praise God!) but I would like an even better one. I hope taking this love dare will help. I also resolve to treat my children the same way. Patience is not easy but I remember that I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me. Please pray for me especially with being patient with my 2 sons who have ADHD and make me play referee everyday, they are 11 and 12.(Nate and Sam)
1/6/2010 1:44:17 PM
VICKY United States
VICKY
WELL HERE IT GOES!IM GOING TO TRY THIS TO SEE HOW FAR I CAN GO WITH OUT YELLING OR TRYING TO STAY IN CONTROL. IVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND NOW FOR ELEVEN YEARS AND MARRIED ALMOST A YEAR ON VALENTINES. WE HAD A ROUGH RELATIONSHIP WITHIN THE YEARS. AT TIMES OUR MEMORIES TRY TO HAUNT US, THAT'S WHEN WE BECOME ANGRY AT EACH OR GET FUSTRADED AT EACH OTHER. I JUST WANT TO THANK THE LORD FOR THE OPPURTUNITY THAT KLOVE IS GIVING US TO READ ON LINE. FOR US THAT DO NOT HAVE COMPUTERS AT HOME. I AM ON MY LUNCH ON OUR COMPUTER AT WORK. I JUST ASK YOU TO KEEP ME IN PRAYER THAT I KEEP STRONG THROUGH THIS CHALLENGE THAT I NOW I HAVE TROUBLE WITH. GOOD LUCK TO ALL MAY GOD BLESS U    
         UR SISTER IN CHRIST VICKY
1/6/2010 2:05:22 PM
Misti French United States
Misti French
Hi, When I was married, which unfortunatly was not salvaged, I asked my Ex if he wanted to do this challenge at the time our church was offering it and he flat out said no! But no over a year later this challenge has come back in my life and I am going to share it and do it with my 18 yr old son. He is going through some very rough terrian in his life right now from baby on the way, un wed to the mother of the baby, to failing a few classes in high school and leaving for Army boot camp in July. I think this challenge will not only help us a parent and child reconnect in a loving way, but also bring back to a more Godly path to walk on once again.
Thank you Jesus for Klove's wanting to do this and it being FREE!!!
Misti
1/6/2010 2:14:56 PM
Julie United States
Julie
I've had the Love Dare book for about 9 months now, but I haven't even read it.  When I heard this morning that KLOVE was doing it, I knew I needed to participate.  I decided to do this to better my marriage, but without letting my husband know.  I want to see if I can detect changes in him based on eventual changes (hopefully) in me!  And after reading the  introduction, I'm also going to try to use this to improve my relationship with my children as well.  I'm excited and nervous about this at the same time.  Please pray for me for committment and strength each and every day, and that my husband will sense the changes in me and be receptive to it all.
1/6/2010 2:15:05 PM
Jennie United States
Jennie
I am so blessed by all of your comments.  I had just started reading and already I was being impatient with my husband this morning, and not understanding and listening to his side first.  I jumped to conclusions and got defensive.  I have gone back and read it several times trying to drill patients into my head.  I am glad I got on here and read these comments tonight to know that I am not alone in this.  I have a heavenly Father and Christian brothers and sisters to share the good and the bad with in our journey to a stronger relationship and marriage through Jesus, who brought us together in the first place.  Thank you for your honesty!!! =) Blessings to you all on your journey!
1/6/2010 2:20:54 PM
Tom Leaver United States
Tom Leaver
I really try to do this but it is very hard. It seems the slower to anger I am, the more things come in my path to anger me every day. But I am in. Now to convince my wife. It will happen with Gods help. Loved hearing about this on my way to work today. You guys are the greatest servants thank God for you both.

Thanks be to God
Tom
1/6/2010 2:35:54 PM
Irina Rodriguez United States
Irina Rodriguez
I think this love dare will help me and my husband in our marrage we hardly argue but when we argue it's gets very nesty, I pray that Lord will give me wisdom in our marrage and He will help me be a better person and better wife and mother...
1/6/2010 2:45:15 PM
Brandy United States
Brandy
Rinette, don't feel bad about three days.  I bought the book back in July and seriously have never made it through day one. A great friend just emailed me and asked me to do the challenge with her so we could hold eachother accountable as well as have support. There is power in numbers...especially when God's on your team.
1/6/2010 3:15:10 PM
RoAnne United States
RoAnne
Thanks so much for doing this!!  I have wanted to try this for some time, but haven't been able to purchase the book.  Step one is very difficult, but I know it is the one I need the most as I tend to be critical and want everything perfect ( translation, my way). May God bless the efforts and faith of all of us as we do this.  Thanks again!
1/6/2010 3:16:06 PM
Beth United States
Beth
I did not read all of the comments but what I did read was very encouraging.  This is an awesome God led idea KLOVE and I thank you for it.  I am on marriage #2 and we will celebrate our 2nd year next month.  We had a bad weekend this past weekend so I am doing The Love Dare without even mentioning it to my husband because I feel that is what the Holy Spirit is leading me to do.

One thing God has shown me is to see my husband as He sees him.  God created marriage therefore it is His will for it to succeed so when we pray for His will to be done in our marriage I fully believe we can rest assured that a successful marriage has already been established and will be manifest in the natural acording to His timing for His plan for our lives and our marriages.  I believe that's why no time frames are ever the same.  If we can truly understand that and through faith believe that then that empowers us to enter into His rest and keep and stay focused on Him and follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit.  Think about that for a minute.  It's His will therefore it's a done deal, so just rest in Him that He will work it out day by day according to His plan for your marriage.  We must remember that God created time therefore He is not bound by it and why scripture says a day is a thousand years and a thousand years is a day (or something like that).  Since it's His will then if it takes 12 months to see it manifest in the natural then rest assured it will be a Perfect 12 months because He planned it that way in His perfect and pleasing will for you.  How special that is when you look at it through His eyes and not your own.

However, do not be ignorant of satan's ploys to thwart God's plan and prepare yourselves according to Ephesians.  Satan is clever and patient and his lies are extremely convincing.  But praise God that even if/when we slip, a successful marriage is still God's will and that all things work to the good for those that love Him, and what satan means for evil, God means for good.  So think of the appearances of failures as win/win situations because you, in Christ, already have all victories anyway!!!

Let me back up to what I said about seeing my husband as God sees him.  This was the result of reading an awesome devotional where when Christ met Simon he changed his name to Peter.  Simon means "reed" which is easily swayed back and forth, not stable.  Peter means "rock" and that was the name Christ gave Simon because He saw him as a rock and not a reed, even though he was a reed, a man easily swayed just like many of us.  Christ's love transformed Peter from a man (who was still a reed) that DENIED HIM THREE TIMES to a man (who became a rock) that led 3,000 to be saved!!!  And, this transformation did not happen over night.  I understand scripture to say Jesus ministry on earth was 3 1/2 years and Peter led the 3,000 after Jesus death so who knows how long it was before Peter, the rock, was manifest in the natural.  He is empowering me to see my husband as a strong man of God who loves me as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, even though right now in the natural satan tells me, "That ain't never gonna happen."

We tend to limit God because limitations are part of the world we live in and in and of ourselves we can't see His possibilities until we line up with Him and His word in our thoughts that, good or bad, become our words that, good or bad, become our deeds.  My prayer for my marriage is Father God, empower my husband to love me in to submitting to him as unto You and empower me to submit him in to loving me as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.  In JESUS NAME I ask this, not of myself, but of the Perfect One in me.  Amen.  This is a powerful prayer because it is grounded on His word and asked for in Jesus Name.  Jesus Himself said that we may ask for anything in His name and he will do it so that the Son may bring glory to Father.  Based on that, that prayer CANNOT go unanswered because God cannot lie!  It's just a matter of staying focused on Him until the blessing in the spiritual realm becomes manifest in the natural realm.  Paul tells us in Ephesians that we are blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.  We need to know what those are, receive them, rest in Him to work it out in our lives!

May God Bles us all!!!
1/6/2010 3:28:12 PM
Brittany Gibson United States
Brittany Gibson
I love my husband, we do get in arguments but sometimes, i wish we would just hold our tounge say i'm sorry & i love you & not fight in front of our babies, or just fight anyway. the bible has so many wonderful verses that teaches us patience & with that i know we can overcome anything!
1/6/2010 3:28:47 PM
Brittany Gibson United States
Brittany Gibson
by the way, THANKS FOR CREATING THIS!!!!
1/6/2010 3:28:51 PM
Brittany Gibson
Brittany Gibson
by the way, THANKS FOR CREATING THIS!!!!
1/6/2010 3:34:01 PM
Beth United States
Beth
I did not read all of the comments but what I did read was very encouraging.  This is an awesome God led idea KLOVE and I thank you for it.  I am on marriage #2 and we will celebrate our 2nd year next month.  We had a bad weekend this past weekend so I am doing The Love Dare without even mentioning it to my husband because I feel that is what the Holy Spirit is leading me to do.

One thing God has shown me is to see my husband as He sees him.  God created marriage therefore it is His will for it to succeed so when we pray for His will to be done in our marriage I fully believe we can rest assured that a successful marriage has already been established and will be manifest in the natural acording to His timing for His plan for our lives and our marriages.  I believe that's why no time frames are ever the same.  If we can truly understand that and through faith believe that then that empowers us to enter into His rest and keep and stay focused on Him and follow the leadership of the Holy Spirit.  Think about that for a minute.  It's His will therefore it's a done deal, so just rest in Him that He will work it out day by day according to His plan for your marriage.  We must remember that God created time therefore He is not bound by it and why scripture says a day is a thousand years and a thousand years is a day (or something like that).  Since it's His will then if it takes 12 months to see it manifest in the natural then rest assured it will be a Perfect 12 months because He planned it that way in His perfect and pleasing will for you.  How special that is when you look at it through His eyes and not your own.

However, do not be ignorant of satan's ploys to thwart God's plan and prepare yourselves according to Ephesians.  Satan is clever and patient and his lies are extremely convincing.  But praise God that even if/when we slip, a successful marriage is still God's will and that all things work to the good for those that love Him, and what satan means for evil, God means for good.  So think of the appearances of failures as win/win situations because you, in Christ, already have all victories anyway!!!

Let me back up to what I said about seeing my husband as God sees him.  This was the result of reading an awesome devotional where when Christ met Simon he changed his name to Peter.  Simon means "reed" which is easily swayed back and forth, not stable.  Peter means "rock" and that was the name Christ gave Simon because He saw him as a rock and not a reed, even though he was a reed, a man easily swayed just like many of us.  Christ's love transformed Peter from a man (who was still a reed) that DENIED HIM THREE TIMES to a man (who became a rock) that led 3,000 to be saved!!!  And, this transformation did not happen over night.  I understand scripture to say Jesus ministry on earth was 3 1/2 years and Peter led the 3,000 after Jesus death so who knows how long it was before Peter, the rock, was manifest in the natural.  He is empowering me to see my husband as a strong man of God who loves me as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, even though right now in the natural satan tells me, "That ain't never gonna happen."

We tend to limit God because limitations are part of the world we live in and in and of ourselves we can't see His possibilities until we line up with Him and His word in our thoughts that, good or bad, become our words that, good or bad, become our deeds.  My prayer for my marriage is Father God, empower my husband to love me in to submitting to him as unto You and empower me to submit him in to loving me as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.  In JESUS NAME I ask this, not of myself, but of the Perfect One in me.  Amen.  This is a powerful prayer because it is grounded on His word and asked for in Jesus Name.  Jesus Himself said that we may ask for anything in His name and he will do it so that the Son may bring glory to Father.  Based on that, that prayer CANNOT go unanswered because God cannot lie!  It's just a matter of staying focused on Him until the blessing in the spiritual realm becomes manifest in the natural realm.  Paul tells us in Ephesians that we are blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.  We need to know what those are, receive them, rest in Him to work it out in our lives!

May God Bles us all!!!
1/6/2010 3:42:09 PM
Bev United States
Bev
I am sooo glad KLOVE is doing this. It is so easy for me to be so sweet and kind to others and watch God use me in ways I never thought possible to further His Kingdom. BUT the one I love the most here on earth I don't hesitate to hurt the most. My husband is so care free and rarely complains about anything. When he does I make sure he knows about it! I am praying this will help me be the wife God has created me to be. And to be slow to anger, quick to forgive and bridle my tongue. We have a good marriage. I want a fantastic marriage that shines like a lighthouse. God has plans to use us. If I won't act like the wife He wants me to be He can't use me the way He wants. Thanks again, KLOVE!! Once again, God is using you to make me grow in my walk with Jesus!!!
1/6/2010 4:45:31 PM
Amber Fawley United States
Amber Fawley
For the next 40 days I will dedicate myself to the Love Dare challenge! I will put my best foot forward and put in 110% effort to better my marriage, my friendship, and my life with my husband! Good Luck to all that have decided to take this journey w/ KLOVE!
1/6/2010 5:05:30 PM
Pamjw United States
Pamjw
Day One was easy - but I'm stuck on Days 4 & 5. . or do you just go on to the next Day, the next Day, even if you didn't do/accomplish the day before?
1/6/2010 5:14:58 PM
Franchesca United States
Franchesca
I did the Love Dare last year and it was incredible.  I didn't tell my boyfriend I was doing it until afterwards.  I actually let him read my book when I was done.  I learned so much about myself, my ego and my behaviors.  It was truly a blessing.

I'm doing it again this year, not telling him again.  It's good relationship maintenance.

God Bless Smile
1/6/2010 5:15:41 PM
Sam United States
Sam
My husband and I will have been married 26 years this month.  About a year ago I hurt him deeply and thus he has pulled even further away from me emotionally and physically.  The grace of God is the only thing keeping him at home with the family.  We married very young and started out our married life with a baby.  I didn't grow and mature in my faith and have spent a huge amount of my life just "going thru the motions".  Sadly we hit rock bottom before I realized how far I had strayed from our Lord and a life in Him.  I'm seeking and praying and studying every day and our loving Lord is speaking and healing and strengthening my spirit.   My husband on the other hand is struggling with going the other direction and is not receptive to anything I say or do.  Our marriage is hanging at separation.  Please pray for us as I take the Love Dare challenge on for both of us!    
1/6/2010 5:17:17 PM
Susan United States
Susan
I am hoping that the Love Dare will change me, and even though my husband is not doing this, perhaps he'll see such a change in me, that he will want to do the Love Dare as well.  Lord Jesus, help me put you as my top priority and allow you to help me complete these 40-days (and more) successfully.
1/6/2010 5:29:49 PM
Angela United States
Angela
This is going to be so great for my husband and I we are christians who have been going through some stressful times and of course we take it out on eachother.  Today I came home and looked at the banking account and wanted to scream at him but I didn't I said we will work through this.  I love him so much and this is going to be a great journey.
1/6/2010 5:30:36 PM
Joan United States
Joan
Last year our church did the movie and the small group study and my husband and I participated.  But that's where it ended.  I am starting the love dare today.  Could have used this one yesterday...with my son.  I do have a short fuse. This is something I pray about constantly...today was a pretty good day...so far...so having the patience was easy.  Now if I can just keep it going...
1/6/2010 5:51:45 PM
Stephanie United States
Stephanie
After reading this, I started typing my comment on it to my husband.  I wanted him to know how much I love him.  Then, the more I type, the more I realize how short this life is.  Patience.  Don't fight because that's less time you can spend showing your spouse how much you love him/her.  By the end of my letter, I cried.  I realized that God had true love a great example of how much He truly loves us... and even more.
1/6/2010 5:54:10 PM
Selina United States
Selina
Day 1 is getting harder by the minute.  Trying to stay positive and not let it get to me when my husband is complaining about the dinner I cooked.  My faith is in my savior and I know He will see me through the end of this Love Dare.  Thanks KLOVE for making it so convenient to do this.  God knows my marriage needs it.
1/6/2010 6:06:07 PM
Eric & Michelle United States
Eric & Michelle
I am the controlling, impatient one in our relationship.  I try and try to work on it and it seems to be two steps forward and one step back.  It roots back to a rocky childhood and trying to be perfect.  Holy Spirit, I ask that you let convict me when I am being controlling and critical.  I do not want to kill the love of a person who is such a gift from the Lord.  God, I ask that you give me the strength and courage to change one hour at a time and that at the end of this 40 days, Eric notices a difference in my patience. m

Lord,
I ask that you show her what you want out of her and her relationship with others through these next 40 days.  
          -E
1/6/2010 6:14:52 PM
Liisa United States
Liisa
Funny how God answers your prayers.  I have been struggling with patience in my life.  Definatley not my strongest quality.  I feel that I have been so inpatient with my husband and children and that somehow I needed to change before I lost everyone I loved.  I was driving to work prayering that God would guide me, show me how to become more loving to my family and less inpatient, less controlling.  I said my prayer and turned on the radio to hear the "love challenge".  I almost started laughing and thought "wow, your fast."  
1/6/2010 6:35:38 PM
Mara United States
Mara
Ok todays challenge wasn't tough until the work day was over. My husband and I are newly weds and we don't have much we have to work through besides the normal newly wed stuff. We did not do premaratal counseling which I think we could have really used. My husband and I don't get to spend alot of time together, and we were looking for something inexpensive to do together. Then I heard about this. At any rate my husband is patient with me not so much others. I am patient with others not so much him. Today was interesting to say the least. My husband does not go to church with me and I would really like for him to, not for me but for him. This dare is teaching more about how my actions are what is going to lead him to Christ.
1/6/2010 6:51:23 PM
Katie United States
Katie
My husband and I saw the Fireproof movie and I could see both my husband and I in the movie. The sad part was my husband came back with I had alot to work on. My husband works from home and I leave to do 8 hours for a company. I get home and the dishes did not get done (dishwasher). He is to clean his bathroom (not). He could vaccum. When he lived on his own he did all this. But once he moved in and we got married. He has forgotten how things work.

However, it is my husband that told me about the 40 day love dare. I can not wait till we get to the parts where he could clean or straighten up to help me. I will kiss he feet if he pulls that off. Plus he throughs in making dinner.

This will be a very interesting 40 days. I will also be doing this to my co-works. Maybe lighten someones day or soften a heart.

God Bless.
1/6/2010 6:56:25 PM
Angela Johnson United States
Angela Johnson
I heard Lisa and Eric talk about this on KLOVE this morning and felt God leading me toward participating. My marriage has been slowly sliding down hill for several years now with the biggest problems being money and communication. We are at the lowest point we have ever been. WE have been married 19 years and have 4 children.  Two are still at home. It is my prayer that our marriage will be healed and we can learn to love each other the way that God loves us. Honestly, I don't know if the marriage can be saved at this point, but I do know that with God all things are possible.  If He wants me to do this, I am willing.  I wish my husband would participate with me but he won't. Please pray for us.
1/6/2010 6:57:27 PM
Carie United States
Carie
I'm following the Love Dare, but my husband is serving in Iraq for the next 5 months (already been gone for 1).  I'm going to follow it as much as I can and I'm hoping to even apply this to my relationship with my children.
1/6/2010 6:58:15 PM
Omar United States
Omar
I heard about this dare on the way to work this morning and committed myself to completing it. I have asked my wife to join in but she declined. I pray the Lord changes her heart and mine and helps our family grow in the Spirit. I want to thank him in advance for what he is going to do in my life.
1/6/2010 7:25:17 PM
Jasmine United States
Jasmine
Hi,
I am a high school student and at first was not very excited about this. I thought that I couldn't really "take part" in the morning schow anymore. But a few days after I heard Lisa say that ANYONE can be a part of this. So I have decided to become a part of this and do the love dare on my sister.  I pray that many marriages are restored through this and am assured that if we rely on God he will make ALL THINGS NEW!!!
In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit AMEN!!!
Thanks for everything Klove!!!
1/6/2010 7:36:14 PM
Rosa United States
Rosa
Whoo!!!!  Today was a pretty long day, however, I had a great day.  I was very patient with my husband and everybody in my path.  I am not sure if my husband is doing this challenge. I sent him an e-mail for him to see since he didn't know I was doing this or even know that this exist on KLove.  We haven't been communicating too much lately obviously.  Hopefully he broused through this page and liked it enough to do this with me.  Like I said we got this book a while ago but just didn't finish it. At that time I know he was enjoying it.
Today I did notice a better side of him.  I noticed he was being very patient with me and not so short tempered.  I think he was actually listening to me, so I don't know if he looked at this or if it's all the prayers from myself and loved ones and everybody else out there that has been praying.  Thank you for everybodies prayers especially my dear sister-in-law who has been there for me when I have needed her the most.  I love you Melinda. She has yet to judge me or to judge her brother, but, understanding.  If my husband is reading this I tell you this... I love you with all my heart and thank you for being more understanding and patient today.  I know I have been pleading to you to please lets fix this together I can't do it by myself.  You just told me moments ago that I can set up counsling for us and although you say a counslor cannot fix this you have now gave me a new hope.  But I do think through a professional and the all mighty we can do this.  I want to give you a new me and a happier you.  Sometimes things may not go your way or my way but, we need to learn and figure ways around these hurdles.  I love you Papi!!  
I am going to stick with this challenge I committed to for 39 more days. I hope and pray that you are in it too. I will be blogging everyday if you would like to follow my blogs.  You are my love my hero and my strength.  
I can't wait for tomorrows challenge because I will conquer that one to.  "God I feel so good inside!"
1/6/2010 7:46:08 PM
Nicole United States
Nicole
Praise God in the Highest!! This Love Dare could not have come at a better time. My marriage is on the very last straw. We have been married for 9 years and almost every day of those 9 years has been a struggle. I have been praying for a change in my marriage and God is GOOD!! I vowed to take the challange this morning after hearing on Klove.I have not told my husband that I am taking this Love Dare. I am very excited to began. I am grateful that there are so many people that will be there with me in this challange. Thank you Lord for your mercy and your grace over my life. Thank you KLove you are all gifts from God!! Please keep us all in your prayer, as we take on this new chance at a life, centered around the love of Christ.
1/6/2010 7:53:42 PM
Kathy United States
Kathy
Ok ....take a deep breath .... and here we go!!!! My husband and I have seen Fireproof twice. We now have our own copy of the video that we share with other couples. We've been married almost six years. This is not our first marriage and we're both close to fifty years old. We've had some rough roads in our marriage, but neither of us want it to end. The movie certainly made an impact. After watching it the second time recently, I thought how great it would be to do the Love Dare. It can only strengthen our marriage. Thank you K LOVE.First and foremost for always being there. I listen daily and you are such an inspiration. Secondly, thank you for allowing your listeners to do the Love Dare together. It has been said that a country is only as strong as it's family units. I believe this will be a strengthening to families all across our great country and even around the world. My God Bless you!!
1/6/2010 8:03:38 PM
megan United States
megan
hello.. this megan from san antonio.  Wow, this love challenge and definitly..well.. a challege.  I'm not in any kind of romantic relationship but I do have friends who, well are hard to be patient for sometimes.  I will dedicate this challege to my friends who I love dearly. God has blessed me with K Love and I can't wait for challenge number two!!!!
1/6/2010 8:09:15 PM
Vernice United States
Vernice
I bought this last year & tried 3 times. I know I should have stuck with it & to be listening this morning it was like I was being told, try again. God doesn't fail us, he just keeps giving us the test till we pass.
1/6/2010 8:13:52 PM
Larry Leyva United States
Larry Leyva
The first day is always the easiest in any challenge.  I have made an effort to complete the 40 days twice and I'm determined to complete this.  It is so much better to be nice and kind to your partner than bickering or looking at the negatives.  I massaged my wife's foot and the smile on her face tells it all!!  Thank you God!!
1/6/2010 8:25:39 PM
Marcy United States
Marcy
Thank you for doing this.  I really needed this as our marriage is going through a rough time.  I read the day 1. I am sometimes not patient but this will certainly help me to control my attitudes.  I am doing this alone (with God off course)as my husband will not do it.  Pray for us so that the Lord can work our marriage.  With God everything is possible.  Thank you again for doing this.
1/6/2010 8:41:39 PM
jennifer alves United States
jennifer alves
ironically valentines day is our 1 year anniversary. ive known my husband for going on 8 years, but we still sometimes dont agree on things, im very impatient, and he is soo very giving and thoughtful and loves to help people in need, i just want us to find time for ourselves, and i know that seems selfish, but i love him for what he does, we enjoy doing the little things like getting coffee and going grocery shopping, watching the lakers, and football, renting movies and we do go to church every sunday, but sometimes i feel like its not enough. i know good things come to those who wait, and i know God has a plan for us, im just so anxious to know what it is.
1/6/2010 8:51:17 PM
Lisa Marie United States
Lisa Marie
If God WOULD bless me with a spouse I would gladly say only kind words to him today. Back in the 1960s there was a song my mother used to sing to us girls..."If you can't say something nice...shh say nothing...take a bit of good advice... shh say nothing...think of friendly things to say that's the path to follow...if you can't say something nice... button your lips and swallow!" So maybe I would sing that song instead, if he did try my patience! Smile
1/6/2010 8:52:49 PM
Sandy United States
Sandy
I am very intriqued by the Love Dare.  I was told about it by a friend in an unusual way.  But I was curious so I decided to check it out.  So I read through Day One and the challenge and thought "this has nothing to do with me, my marriage failed miserably".  However, in reading through the first 20+ comments I began to see that I could apply the Love Dare to others in my life in ways which I'm sure would be most beneficial.  An ailing mother, headstrong or willful semi-adult and adult children for a start.  While this may not the "letter" of the dare, I doubt God will mind, especially if through this it bring me close to him again.  I only know what the Day One challenge is, never having heard of it until now.  I'm excited to see what tomorrow brings.
1/6/2010 8:59:51 PM
Debbie United States
Debbie
I had first learned about the Love Dare through the movie Fireproof and really enjoyed the movie. Today, rather than applying this to a spouse (as my husband passed in 2001) I am applying it to my relationship to my sons. I have three teenage sons, to which patience is truly required! After hearing that K-Love had begun to share this journey, I decided to text the concept to my sons. I told them of the challenge and that I would like our family to apply it... starting with the patience challenge of today. All of my sons seem to be on board and each day i am going to text the new dare to them to start their day (as I hear it on K-Love on the way to work. I will also apply it to my work, as patience and love are definitely required as a middle school teacher! THank you for being such a blessing in my life...
1/6/2010 9:06:23 PM
Juanita United States
Juanita
I need to start this by reflecting on my marriage.My husband and I have been together for 19 years and to me it seems all he does anymore is yell at me.everything is my fault whether I did it or not and after awhile that gets tiring.I realize I do avoid him at times because I don't want put down or yelled at again.So today I started this dare.But today wasn't a good day to start because due to our jobs we did not get to talk at all today,so I will carry that thought tomorrow.I am hoping we get closer the way they did in the movie.But I am also hoping through this I am able to get closer to God.
1/6/2010 9:10:29 PM
Mariela United States
Mariela
Like very many other people I  was desperate for help, for signs, for God...K Love once again has bless me.After been married for 16 yrs my ex-husband abandond me and my kids left me alone. I have built so much resentment and become so defensive that I not only disrespect my currently boyfriend I have disrecpect myself.Impatient, intorelant,Insecure...etc....describes me I had a bad start of a yr but I feel like this is a 2nd chance for me.Thank you. So help me God and
Bless everyone on this challenge.
1/6/2010 9:12:46 PM
Nancy United States
Nancy
I happened to stumble upon this today, but after reading the challenge and things others have written I am feeling God leading me to give it a try! My husband and I have been married almost 14 yrs. and it has never been the healthiest marriage. He is very self-centered, sarcastic, and stubborn so taking "the high road" has been very difficult for me and I often use anger as my defense against him. As I get older, I realize how much different things could be and I just get more frustrated with him. I want to stay married for our children's sake, but would really love to actually "be in love" with my husband and be able to rely on him to meet my needs. Right now I do not, and it makes me very sad. I pray that God will use this to make me a better wife, even if he is not seeking to be a better husband. Even though I do not believe that LOVE conquers all, I DO believe that GOD can!!!
Thanks K-LOVE
1/6/2010 10:20:43 PM
Rhonda United States
Rhonda
My marriage has really been on the rocks lately with both my husband and I wanting to through in the towel, then I heard the challenge on the radio.  I really hope this is the answer to so many prayers that I have been praying.  My goal is to stay with my husband, I believe this is what the Lord intends for us to do.  I think my whole life I have had issues finishing what I start, I accept the Love Dare challenge and I pray that I can endure throughout the next 40 days.  I would like this to be the first important thing in my life that I have ever finished successfully. I love you Jesus, please be with me.!
1/6/2010 10:23:58 PM
Dee United States
Dee
I just "happened" (I believe it was definitely God!)to run across your post about taking the Love Dare yesterday. I really felt led to step out in faith and do this for my marriage. The day I found your post was the same day that our church prayer focus for that day was to seek direction and God's will for our lives. I don't think it was an accident that I found your post and I totally believe this was God's nudge to get me moving into the right direction! I want to be a better wife, but I also believe it will help me to become the Godly woman that God intends for me to be, and most of all, I want to please Him...because if my relationship is where it needs to be in the Lord, the rest will fall in place. Praying we all learn much and become greater children of the King thru this process! Thank you so much for doing this! I'm very excited about what is to come. But I won't fool myself, that it will all be easy, but I do believe it will all be worth it! I have not told my husband that I'm taking this challenge. I made it thru Day 1 of the challenge and altho there were times I wanted to say something, I kept my mouth shut, and I could feel the Lord giving me the strength do that, as He showed me some of the things I had wanted to say, were indeed just selfish on my part.....thinking before you speak, should be something we do automatically, but I see that obviously many times I don't!  Praising Him for this day!
1/6/2010 10:24:22 PM
Yolanda United States
Yolanda
May God watch over you all and me Smile as we strive to have the courage to love instead of hate in a world full of stress! God bless you all!
1/6/2010 10:37:18 PM
Nia United States
Nia
I am so excited about this Laughing (I ordered the book)
Thank you KLOVE

May God continue to Bless you guys ALWAYS..
1/6/2010 10:45:38 PM
Hope United States
Hope
Thank you!  God has funny ways of getting information we pray for to us - thank you klove!
1/6/2010 11:29:37 PM
Krisztina Hungary
Krisztina
I cannot thank you enough for sharing this wonderful piece of spiritual food with us. I have been planning to purchase the book for some time now; I have a fairly good and stable relationship with a man, but there are aspects of our relationship I would like to work on. I am certain this book will help me. I will join you every day on this journey!
Today's dare is challenging. Anger and impatience are a natural streak of our character... I hope I can keep these wise words in mind.
Krisztina (Hungary)
1/7/2010 12:31:30 AM
Jesika Johnson United States
Jesika Johnson
Day 1 was officially a success !!! Yay !!! There were a few rough patches... I took deep breaths and chose my words wisely or said nothing at all. This is huge for me LOL !!! Thanks guys I LOVE YOU ALL AT K-LOVE SO MUCH !!!
1/7/2010 12:37:52 AM
Jesika Johnson United States
Jesika Johnson
Oh yeah and Lisa (who posted at 6:14 pm) isn't GOD AMAZING !!! He has been answering a lot of my/our prayers faster and faster and more obvious than ever before too. I get a lot of His answers and word through K-LOVE and the words in the songs they play. I am so grateful. It brings such joy to me to have my 1, 4, & 7 year old daughters singing along with me and all of the songs on their station. It has brought so many blessings to us daily. Its refreshing for them to have memorized songs about The Lord instead of some of the other junk that is out there that we used to listen to.
1/7/2010 4:30:25 AM
Sarah United States
Sarah
Day 1 was much harder than I anticipated.  The dare said "Hold your tongue rather than say something you'll regret".  Well, I felt like I almost bit my tongue off!  I never realized the negative comments I make to my husband on a daily basis.  How sad that I say such hurtful things to the one person I love the most in this world.  Thanks KLOVE for helping to make me aware of my mistakes so I can do better in the future.
1/7/2010 6:41:04 AM
J McDonough United States
J McDonough
Day two...watched Fireproof last night with my husband.  I worried at first that we wouldn't be able to get over the B-quality aspect of the movie and be able to take it serioustly.  However, by the end of the movie, we had both been crying at several different scenes.  It seems clear to me that it affected us so, because, I'm ashamed to say, we related to it more than either one of us would have guessed we would.  I've felt something slipping from our marriage for a while now...couldn't really put my finger on it.  I probably couln't because I was too busy pointing it at my husband.  I'm so embarrased at how I act like a two year old sometimes, haveing little tantrums, expecting everyone to do what I WANT.  Please Lord, I pray to you to open my heart, to help me hold my tongue, to soften the tone of my voice, to choose kinder words, to pick less battles, to let things go and give my family the freedom to be human and not fear the wrath of my anger.  I pray for all of these things and for all the people seeking healing in their relationships in Jesus' sweet name, amen.  
1/7/2010 8:05:19 AM
Stacy United States
Stacy
This is my second time going through The Love Dare and day #1 is a biggie for me.  I'm a lot like Tammy (1st post) in that I am a perfectionist and like to be in control of things and am often impatient with those I care most about.  This is something I've been working on letting go of a bit for several years, and although I'm getting better at it, I still have a long ways to go.  I am a middle school teacher and find that I often have more patience with my students than I do my own husband and children.  

We thought we had a pretty good marriage before, but God worked wonders with our marriage the first time through it. It's amazing all the little things we take for granted with each other.  This time around, I'm also putting more of a focus on my kids as I want to build a stronger relationship with them as well.  I'm anxious to see how He'll change our lives this time around.
1/7/2010 9:30:23 AM
Kainoa Lafaele United States
Kainoa Lafaele
I heard this challenge yesterday on my way to work, I have a pretty healthy relationship with my husband, but I know God make everything over and beyond so I prayed and decided this would be a great way to start the year, with a revitalization of my marriage.  So here we go on to Day 2.  Mahalo- Thank you (in Hawaiian) for the challenge.
1/7/2010 1:38:43 PM
Still happy and in love after 16 years United States
Still happy and in love after 16 years
My husband and I have watched the movie 3 times.  I have tried to do the Love Dare to see if I could complete it and I kept forgetting.  A friend wants to try the Dare.  So I'm going to start again and we will try to keep each other reminded to complete the day's task.  One thing to keep in mind is you can't do the Dare and "expect" your spouse to notice and be grateful.  You shouldn't "expect" anything.  Just do it and then your spouse will slowly change because you will have changed.  Good Luck to everyone, and may you bring more spark to your fire, flaming or not.
1/7/2010 4:03:49 PM
Linda Bailey United States
Linda Bailey
Need Day 2
1/8/2010 7:03:39 AM
Christy C United States
Christy C
I think the language regarding anger in this is a bit strong.  Saying that anger is a result of one's selfishness, foolishness or evil motives simply isn't true.  There is righteous anger.  There is also anger as a result of past or present hurts.  So perhaps a person is hurt and that shows through anger.  Somewhat like the stages of grief.  I used to live this way thinking it was the Christian way, and I was hurt even more because my needs were never met.  I think there's a balance.  I don't believe in purposely being angry or hurting another, but being the person who is always patient, always loving without having anything given in return isn't healthy either. Jesus threw tables over when he was angry over misdeeds and hypocrisy.  It's a fine line, but you have to find the balance and not believe that we can be Jesus and be righteously perfect like this.  We are still sinners, we will get angry, we will be hurt and we have to turn to God when this happens, but we can't be expected to be Him.  We will fall but that doesn't make us EVIL, it makes us fallen & sinful and in need of God's forgiveness.  We are to work towards righteousness, but we will never attain it.  If we think we will on this earth, we are fooling ourselves.  
1/8/2010 8:07:29 AM
Devynne Wilson United States
Devynne Wilson
This is my second time doing the love dare. The first time it didn't really work out so well for me and my boyfriend. I love him very dearly and would like to take it to the next level with him (marriage) but there are a few things that I need to change in my life and my personality before we do this. I want to try this again and so far i'm feeling different about it - more hopeful. He does not have the relationship or even really want the realtionship with God that I do and that I feel we could use as a couple, but I pray that during my journey God will work on his heart as well as mine. Lord, please give me the strenth to carry on with this journey and give me strenth to have the patience to finish.
1/8/2010 7:54:51 PM
Tracy United States
Tracy
Wow.  Saw the dare on Facebook.  Was interested and mentioned.  A pastor friend gave me the movie Fireproof to watch.  I saw myself in this movie.  I was not happy.  I am a couple of days getting started but I start now.  I do not like myself and to see me being just like "Caleb" in the movie was not very flattering.  God and my family have not had the priority in my life that they should.  Many people are proud of us for being together 17 years when most of our friends have bailed out.  I feel that I am living a shame.  I am an example to many people and don't want to be a hyprcrite anymore.  Pray for me and my family.  I am a fulltime worker, student, mother and wife.  Most of that time in that order.  Sad isn't it but I need the Lord to help me this year to be a better person.  
1/11/2010 4:54:07 AM
Rachael United States
Rachael
wow, I am going to have to do this with my children as well
1/11/2010 7:00:10 AM
Pauly United States
Pauly
Thank you, for getting The Love Dare Started.
I just talked my family to begin the dare. Me my husband, Sister, Father, and two of our employee's! We have all stepped up to do the challenge together!
My prayer is that it will change us in ways that we have never been changed before. We are beginning it today 1/11/10.

Thank you again for all the encouragement that you guys give to everyone each and every day!
1/13/2010 9:31:33 AM
Cenee Herrmann United States
Cenee Herrmann
I finally watched the movie Fireproof this weekend for the first time. It came a little late for my marriage, as I have been divorced for 1 1/2 years now. So for now, I have decided to practice the principles of this dare with my children. My hope for them after the divorce is that they will be able to witness authentic Godly love in their lives. What better way for all of us to learn & experience that love than to practice. I just started this yesterday (the same day I "stumbled upon" this blog for the first time) & will not be completely on track with it as I only have them in my home 50% of the time. I'm thankful for the challenge to start the New Year focused on Love.
1/14/2010 11:47:13 AM
Christina United States
Christina
I AM SO EXCITED TO START THIS!!!!!  I KNOW YOU GUYS ARE ON DAY 9, BUT TODAY IS MY FIRST DAY.  NOT ONLY AM I GOING TO APPLY IT TO MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FIANCE, I'M GOING TO APPLY IT TO HIS SIDE OF THE FAMILY AS WELL.  THIS PAST YEAR HIS FAMILY HAS AND STILL ULTIMATELY CHALLENGES THE BOTH OF US.  THIS IS THE PERFECT THING TO HELP SETTLE OUR HEARTS AND BRING PEACE TO OUR MINDS AND STRENGTHEN OUR OWN RELATIONSHIP.
1/15/2010 10:06:49 AM
Kelley United States
Kelley
I have started the Love Dare again.  I made it through Day 33 the first time and decided to start over and really really give it my all this time.

My 20 year marriage is hanging by a thread.  I haven't always been a great wife.  My husband didn't feel supported and felt like he was giving everything to our marriage.  I was damaged from past mistakes and couldn't move past them to heal my own heart.  I wasn't a good Christian.  

In October I came home and found my husband sobbing on the foot of the bed.  He told me he was severely depressed and possibly wanted out.  I took a good hard look at my self and realized I had caused so much pain because of my own deep pain.  I prayed to God for forgiveness and newness.  I have been transformed by his healing and am now the woman I was always supposed to be.. Kind, gentle, loving, patient.

My husband sees the changes but is afraid of the evil wife coming back.  Plus he is angry because I now share many of his dreams for a better Christian life with a calling.

I am working on saving my marriage.  My husband is in the house and trying but says he doesn't think it is possible to heal.  I will do this 40 day dare and continue to show him my unconditional love!

1/17/2010 8:01:12 AM
Jonique United States
Jonique
Patience is the thorn in my heel...I have struggled with it for so long. This will be the hardest part of the whole journey. I have begun to pray for patience everyday. I long for it to be full in my heart...as I'm sure my husband does too. Smile
1/18/2010 7:41:22 AM
Rodney Edge United States
Rodney Edge
Today I get to work and check my e-mails and I find my wife has sent me this artical about this Love Dare story that seams to be going around for people to take, as I began to skip around the web site, I begin to read several articals on Love and about how people have abused there spouse. I am one of those who walks with the Devil on what seams to be an every day to day experiance and can't seam to shake him away I am not proud of this relationship we have together because he is not my friend. Me and my wife are currently seperated after 21 years of marriage because of my abuse,  we have 4 wonderful kids together and they are what keeps me going at times. I have read several of the viewers comments and like many people I to can relate to there problems but for me I feel my problems go even deeper because I have a problem with love. I have not treated my wife with the love she deserves and at times and I don't love myself because of who I become. perhapes my wife is takeing the Love Dare challenge with out my Knowing. The reason for me to even comment is because most of the commets posted was with out the other person in there lives knowing that the viewer's have commented about there struggling relationship on this site. Don't give up we are listing in secret. I have had many struggles in my life and they have carried over into my marriage, my wife has been the stronger of the two in our frayed marriage and continues to work hard on trying to keep the marriage from a divorce
so for all you guys who are hurting inside because of the hurt you have caused you're loved one, hang in there because the person that's holding the flash light is looking for you in the dark and there's alot of shadows they are haveing to look thru in order to find you because you are hidding pretty good. As for me I'm not going to hide no more so thanks to all who continue to look for there loved ones in the dark I am free for a day and I will work on figureing out how to love those who love me and it will start by turning on my flash light so that my wife can see me clearly in the dark because as you know Jesus can see with out the aid of a flash light. keep praying because the lost will soon find new batteries for there light and thanks Lord for giving me a new partner to hang out with today.
1/19/2010 9:11:13 AM
Doris Faye United States
Doris Faye
Well, I'm going to give this another shot. My husband and I started it last year but a family emergency short-circuited everything. This time I'm not going to tell him, I'm just going to surprise him by doing the dare alone. He watches "The Love Dare" at least once a month; it's one of his most favorite movies, along with "Facing the Giants" and "Flywheel". We don't have a picture-perfect marriage, but we do have a strong marriage built on Christ.
1/20/2010 11:46:05 AM
Carrie Cuellar United States
Carrie Cuellar
Thank you God! I am dumb as a box of rocks at times!  I kept praying to God for guidance back in July of 2009 when after the birth of my son our marriage was in trouble when my husband literally went off the deep end.  Apparently God answered me right away, it took me however until Saturday… 5 days ago, to figure it out.  I didn't know what “The Love Dare” was about until I watched Fireproof  this last Saturday.  My Mother-In-Law gave us that movie way back in July 2009 with a book that I tossed to the side because I was “too focused” on my husband and asking God for help with our marriage to see that he actually was answering my prayer.  About ½ way through the movie I started connecting the two and searched for a book that I remember her handing me with the movie.  Bam... there it was….. The Love Dare with 6 months worth of dust.  Okay I said, at this point it is becoming a God thing that he wants me to read this especially since I keep hearing it every time I am on Klove.  So I started and I am only on Day 5.  I know this is meant to be a 40 day journey and I am sticking to it but the last week has been so fantastic!  Our marriage has changed so much…that is I have changed so much, well after I put my ego and selfish ways behind. Next time I should ask God to hit me upside the head with the solution (book).  Maybe then I would notice right away! Thank you God and thank you Klove for making this available to everyone!
1/25/2010 5:09:30 AM
Kitty United States
Kitty
Wow - I just read Sissy's comment; That hit home for me as it is like we are living identical lives. I feel he pain as I am there also ans still waiting for God to answer. My husband brought home the movie Fire Proof and told me to watch it while he watched football. I cried because I seen alot of their mariage in mine, except that we both are Christians. God help us all.
1/28/2010 9:53:47 AM
Candice South Africa
Candice
I watched "Fireproof" last night.  I cried through  most of it.  I so desperately wanted my marriage to work out.  My husband and I seperated last March and he went back to the US.  I love him and he says that he loves.  He wants me to move there - I want to but I am also super scared to.  There was a lot of verbal and physical violence.  Before he left he destroyed everything in our house.  I do love him.  But I am scared of him.  He is prone to violent moods and when he is irritable he gets quite mean and abusive.  I have tried to tell him this but he always says that I am trying to manipulate him and make him feel guilty for being his natural self and that I am tryng to control him.  I have been asking God to make a difference in both our lives.  It's his birthday soon and I sent him a copy of "Fireproof", I had sort of heard about it but didnt really know anything much more but about it being a book about retored marriage.  So I bought it off Amazon and had it sent.  Then I got curious about what it was about and went online and found the movie and I watched it.  I see wo many paralells except that my husband released alot of his frustration on me, sometimes physically.  Now I am freaking out because this book is going to be delivered to him and I think that he is going to think that I am trying to manipulate him again.  I found God after a long time, when my marriage fell apart and I was really down and ready to throw in the towel and end it all, God was got me through and gave me hope that through Him all things were possible.  But I am petrified that I may be fooling myself.  That I am clinging onto nothing.  I know I sound like the total abused wife that doesnt leave blah blah - but I think that alot of my husbands rage and anger and violence have to do with unresolved issues in his past.  I have been reading through "The Message" and I am so confused.  Logically my head (and everyone)tells me to get out of the marriage and move on.  But I cant stop the love that I have in my heart for him.  I dont know how to explain or even though inspite of all the terrible things that happened that I still care about and love him.  Last night the passage I was reading said that one should not listen to the advice of those who say move on and get on with your life, it was one of the Psalms.  The preacher on Sunday preached about Ruth and how she honoured a commitment, choosing to go with Naomi instead of what the logical decision wouldve been.  I am so miserable in this situation.  I dont know whether I am just seeing these "hopes" and reading into these messages because I want to and because I want to hold onto my love for my husband.  The Psychitarist I saw after we seperated (it was a very traumatic and dramatic break in which my house was also totally destroyed by my husband)said that I was foolish and obsessed with my husband and that is why I was too weak to leave.  I am confused - I read in the bible that we must honour our commitments, that what God has put together, let no man seperate.  I know logically that as we are - he could kill me, in his rages.  At the same time I dont even know how I can ever begin to stop loving him.  My situation is way too complex to explain here, and I feel right now like a weak, stupid fool and thinking that all these people who are going to read this are just going to be like - you are an idiot - if the man hit you, he doesnt love you - grow up, deal with it and move on.  I know this logically - so why cant I let go?  And can I ask for God's help in this?  Can I ask God to restore my marriage?  Can I ask God to make us into new people, to take away my husbands rage and anger.  Neither of us cheated on each other, and neither of us want to get a divorce, and in fact - my husband is expecting me to move there.  I just dont know what to pray, or think or do.  If there is someone out there - please remember me to God and ask him to give me guidance.
1/30/2010 12:33:27 PM
Michael United States
Michael
God Help Save my family!!!! I am at my wits end. I have tried everything that I can think of to rid my marrige of the mistrust, anger, and dissappointment. No matter what I have tried we still never have a single day of peace. I desperately love my wife but we are about to give up on the "Dream." We have a beautiful three year old son who would never understand if his father leaves home. I belive that he is the reason that we have made it this long. I told my wife the other day that the only choice we have left is to turn our marriage over to the care of GOD. I have been down and sad for so long and I know that the Lord does not wish for my life and family to live like that. I pray, pray, pray that all who take this challange will allow GOD in the midst of their marriage. GOD Bless you all. Thank you for all your comments on such an important topic.
2/4/2010 10:12:50 AM
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2/10/2010 7:32:35 PM
Sven Skarie United States
Sven Skarie
Hi -

I have to say that I love how patience is the first topic to practice and learn. It is for me the most challenging, however I have to say that learning how to have patience for my Girlfriend is sometimes the most difficult thing to do in our communication. And just letting her finish sentences. I've been really seeking out my higher self in order to get the help I need.

Thanks so much for doing this!!!! Smile
2/13/2010 2:09:20 AM
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11/15/2010 5:01:04 AM
Nicole United States
Nicole
I've only been married for 4 months and I know patience is something I have to commit to have from this day on if I want my marriage to last. My husband has even told me he will stop preaching if we cant start getting along. It breaks my heart, and I dont want him to quit preaching. My patience with him is thin. Lord please help me these next few days to have more patience and love towards him. Him and I are not as happy as we use to be. I want our relationship back.
11/15/2010 5:55:48 AM
Desire United States
Desire
This is the second time I will be trying this. It started working until the husband left on a trip. However what happens when the other half still does not change or does not want to change?
12/6/2010 8:33:23 PM
C second try United States
C second try
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12/8/2010 9:17:48 AM
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12/22/2010 8:32:56 PM
Robert United States
Robert
I'm taking the love dare on my own because I love my girlfriend to death and I'm praying this works. I have an rather large amount of faith and this  break up is eating me alive. I miss her and I love unconditionally.
1/4/2011 5:56:52 PM
Tom United States
Tom
Starting this Love Dare on the same date as above, only 2001 instead of 2010.  Coordinating it with my son and we will walk thru it together. We both love our wives, but know we can be better husbands. I've been married over 38 years, and he for over 6.  THIS WILL BE GOOD!! Praise God.
1/4/2011 5:57:52 PM
Tom United States
Tom
That was supposed to be 2011, not 2001..   Smile
1/9/2011 9:41:29 PM
Debra United States
Debra
This will be tough, but well worth it.  My husband separated from me and our two young girls 9 months ago.  He then filed for divorce a few weeks ago.  I have owned the Love Dare for a couple of years but never got past day 2.  Tonight while doing my daily devotional I felt the Holy Spirit telling me that now was the time for the Love Dare.  So here I am, desperate, scared and ready to save my marriage.  May God Bless us all on this journey.
1/12/2011 12:08:03 AM
Kenny Petrea United States
Kenny Petrea
I started this with a girlfriend a couple years ago. She got upset and ripped both the books cause we found the books along with the video at a goodwill. I wished I still had it. Im now trying to find places to copy and paste into a notepad since Ive been out of work and have no funds to purchase the book or books again. Im doing this by myself and starting today. I believe it will help in all situations.
1/17/2011 2:16:58 PM
Angeline Lee United States
Angeline Lee
My husband and I started the Love Dare today. On Saturday we watched Fireproof, what an excellent movie, and such an excellent example! Years ago I was patient, or maybe it was I bit my tongue because my childhood was a place of iron-fisted control. The apple truly does not fall far from the tree. I see my father in me, and I do not like it. I know what it did to my mother, to me, to my brother. I know, now, I am relieved to be miles away and yet feel intense guilt for being miles away. I not only need to do the Love Dare with my husband to strengthen our marriage, but I need to do it for our sons, as they will learn from us how to have a healthy relationship. Please pray for me as I take this journey with my husband, as I want to change, I pray that I'm ready for whatever God throws my way. I know it will be beyond my imagining - I want to be deserving of it.
1/23/2011 12:51:42 PM
Audrey United States
Audrey
I started the Love Dare today. It is my new years resolution, not only to complete it, but to use everything the lord gives to me to help better my relationship. It is hard when he doesn't notice what I'm doing. I try so hard not to say anthing negative even when I really want to, yet he keeps on doing it. I wonder if thats part of the process. It says it will hard, and it definetly is. But I know God with walk with me the whole way.
2/2/2011 1:05:02 AM
Randall United States
Randall
We had gotten the love dare book a few years ago and it sat on our book shelf since this morning, last night a friend called me and asked if I would be interested in reading and sharing insight with each other, He said "God called us to lead our families so lets lead our wives to love victory" I agreed, God help me cause Patience is my virtue, LOL
2/5/2011 5:36:27 PM
Kourtney United States
Kourtney
im only a 19 year old woman but i am putting the love dare into affect hoping to win the heart of the only man that i ever loved back...thanks for making the love dare so convient to get to
2/9/2011 5:57:29 AM
Savage United States
Savage
I am asking that all Christians pray for me and my wife while I take on this challenge.  I have a very wonderful wife who thought the world of me but I was too selfish to realize it.  She stood behind me in all that I did, provided support and also stood with me through my mistakes.  Unfortunately, I continued to make mistakes and not be there for her when she needed comforting and security, according to her the last 2-4 years.  I never cheated on her or put my hands on her;she states I was in the marriage physically but not emotionally.  I said some things to her that she obviously has not forgotten and they were so cruel that I could not believe I said them.  She advised she did a lot of praying, reading self help books but it did not help her so now she has checked out of the marriage.  She told me things will be different from this point on, there is no intimacy, no kissing, and no trust.  She no longer talks to me about personal things only about the children and household bills.  I know she is hurt but I know she still loves me.  I started this journey today.  I am asking for prayer to help both of us to become one again and to soften her heart and help me love her the way God truly meant for me to love this gift that I am unworthy of- her. Please pray for us in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
2/10/2011 12:05:59 PM
JDM United States
JDM
I have been married for 19yrs now with 3 kids two are his and the oldest he has raised since she was the age of 2.We have been seperated now for one year and I have someone else in my life and he does also. although at time I can't get him out of my head or heart I want to move on but I sometimes feel that God has helped us through a lot of tough times and we made the best of it. I moved out because the fighting got really bad after I told him I cheated. I felt really hurt because when he cheated it was okay life went on like if nothing ever happened although I was hurting inside I seemed to always put a smile on my face. Now after 1 yr He tells me he loves me and is still waitng for me. I ask God to help me every day to guide me and help me life MY that only pleases him.
2/14/2011 1:05:35 AM
daniel United States
daniel
pray for me and my girlfriend, we have been together for almost 4 years and were  enguaged once and had a falling out. she had me sit down a while ago and watch the movie with her but it didnt take root right away I am at this point doing this on my own and day one may not be hard for me but we are a bit of distance away from each other getting collage out of the way and this are still a little rocky so i think that i need to finaly sit down and do this, hopefully she will do it with me as i go along, so please just pray for Gods guidence and maybe a little help along the way. and thanks K-love for this.
2/15/2011 11:22:41 PM
trista Canada
trista
I have been blessed by God, but my marriage has fallen on some hard times. I have taken my husband for granted and treated him terribly lately. God has convicted me with this and I know I can not procrastinate any longer. Valentine's Day just passed and it was such a depressing thing. I watched this movie with a friend about a year ago and I laughed at how far from each other that couple managed to get. It was unimaginable to me that my own life could get like that..... yet here I am. I wonder if my husband has thought about leaving? I know I would, in his shoes. We have two young boys who are heartbreakingly wonderful children and already so strong in the Lord! They deserve a better example of how to love and honor one another. I take this challenge today for my marriage, and for the future marriages of my children who will use mine as a model, for good or ill.
3/6/2011 5:47:10 PM
Tish United States
Tish
It took me four days/ tries to complete dare #1. Been married for over 2 decades and we both knew it was  a mistake from the get-go.  We have virtually nothing in common, no attraction, don't enjoy each other at all, etc. Although we'd both say the other is a decent person, just not a good match. We live separate lives within the same household.We've never been close or in love. I find myself dreaming of the day we go our separate ways. I just want to live out my days like in the movie Fried Green Tomatoes, with some good friends. Hoping this book makes the days more bearable.
3/19/2011 4:02:50 PM
Edward United States
Edward
I begin the Love/Dare, Day 1 in two days. I'm married to a wonderful woman. The first 19 years of marriage were filled with love, romance, children, and wonderful memories. The past year though, she's rejected Christ, rejected me, and has declared she wants to leave. We have mid-teenage children. Our 20th Anniversary is April 20th, 2011.

She confesses it's all "on her." She's wanted independence for quite some time, but can't resist the feelings any longer. She wants "to be friends" and still be involved in our kids lives.

Her family loves me dearly and will be devastated when/if this separation actually happens. Here's praying that Love/Dare not only softens a hardened heart, but re-ignites what was once a model marriage.
3/22/2011 8:41:08 PM
Laura United States
Laura
Wow the big patient word who would have known that would be day number one. Lord help me not respond in the flesh but be patient in all things. It becomes hard to deal patiently when your spouse is full of anger but You will extend your grace upon us to keep us hanging on. Help me let go of myself and see my partner. I would consider myself to be the patient one in the relationship but im so far from responding in kindness and not in anger. This is a challenge i pray to keep.
3/22/2011 8:41:26 PM
Laura United States
Laura
Wow the big patient word who would have known that would be day number one. Lord help me not respond in the flesh but be patient in all things. It becomes hard to deal patiently when your spouse is full of anger but You will extend your grace upon us to keep us hanging on. Help me let go of myself and see my partner. I would consider myself to be the patient one in the relationship but im so far from responding in kindness and not in anger. This is a challenge i pray to keep.
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