Jan 04 2013

Measure of Success

What makes someone successful?  We all want success.  So how do we get it? 

I came across this chart called The Success Indicator by MaryEllen Tribby that described the differences between successful and unsuccessful people.  I gravitated to it instantly, thinking I had found the secret!  She has some really good points.  

Successful People

Have a sense of gratitude 
Forgive others 
Accept responsibility for their failures 
Read everyday 
Keep a journal 
Talk about ideas 
Want others to succeed 
Share information and data 
Keep a "to-be" list 
Exude joy 
Keep a "to-do/project" list 
Set goals and develop life plans 
Embrace change 
Give other people credit for their victories 
Operate from a transformational perspective

Unsuccessful People
Have a sense of entitlement 
Hold a grudge 
Blame others for their failures
Watch TV everyday
Say they keep a journal but really don't
Talk about people
Secretly hope others fail
Horde information and data 
Don't know what they want to be
Exude anger 
Fly by their seat of their pants
Never set goals
Think they know it all
Fear change
Take all the credit of their victories
Operate from a transactional perspective

To be honest with you, if I took a highlighter to this list and marked the traits that I have, I think I'd have more in the "Unsuccessful" column.  After seeing this, I wanted to kneel down, and ask God for forgiveness for every time I've held a grudge, talked about people, and blamed others for my failures.  Then I remembered something I say on the radio all the time, "God is not counting up your sins." (2 Corinthians 5:19)

You don't have to be perfect to be loved by God or to make a difference for him. Your failures don't limit you.  Your past does not determine your future. In fact I think he prefers to work with the misfits.  Check out this description of the people God loved and used in the Bible:

"Adam and Eve were disobedient blame-shifters. Abraham was a liar. Jacob was a schemer. Joseph had somewhat of the "I'm better than you" attitude. Moses made excuses. Saul was jealous. David was an adulterer. Solomon was the smartest fool in the history of the world. Elijah seemed to be somewhat bi-polar. Peter definitely had "foot-in-mouth" disease. The list goes on and on." -www.gotquestions.org

I am so thankful that my success in God's eyes is not determined by the things I do or don't do.  Jesus covers our sin, and because of that God loves us anyway and turns a train wreck into a success.  

The Diet Sabotage 

If you decided to be healthy for the new year, maybe loose some weight…don’t do this.  It’s a diet sabotage. Don't cut out pictures of thin models as inspiration for what you want to look like and putting them around your house, like on the fridge.  

This study found that doing that is sabotage to your diet.  Because it’s an unrealistic idea, and it's not encouraging.  In fact, it's discouraging.  It makes you feel bad about yourself every time you see it. I don’t know about you, but when I feel bad about myself…I usually eat, especially ice cream.  That doesn’t work.  But realistic expectations, trying to be the best version of yourself, that works in more ways than just dieting. 

Leaving a Legacy 

You can make a difference, you can leave a legacy.

You might think you’re too busy, you don’t make enough money to donate, your too young.  I beg to differ.  You just got to look around, and when you see a need, meet it.

Check out the story of Jessie.  When she was 12 years old, she had cancer. One day she was sitting in the backseat of her parents car after a round of chemo and radiation, and she looked back at the hospital through the window.  She asked her dad why she got to go home and other kid’s didn’t.  

Her Dad explained those kids have a different kind of treatment and they have to say.  So she said, “What can we do for them?” She created an organization called JoyJars, that fill up jars of toys and games for kids with cancer in the hospital.  

And it’s still going, even though her life was cut short.  


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Jan 03 2013

Just Give

Losing weight and getting out of debt are top on the list for New Year's Resolutions, also making the top 10, Helping Others.  

Check out what these people are doing:

Attorney Gives House to Homeless Family

A 51-year-old man is moving back in with his parents so a homeless family can live in his house instead. Tony Tolbert’s offer is good for one full year.
Tony Tolbert’s offer is good for one full year. According to CBS, the spare bedroom in his childhood home in Los Angeles frequently went to people in need, which inspired his own version of the act.
Just goes to show that when you are generous, your kids are paying attention, and grow up to be just like you!
You don't have to be Bill Gates or Warren Buffet or Oprah," Tolbert, a Harvard-educated attorney, told CBS in the video here. "We can do it wherever we are, with whatever we have, and for me, I have a home that I can make available."
Speaking of Warren Buffet, he made the list for the Biggest Giver in 2012.  He gave $3.09 billion in stock to be divided equally among three foundations run by his children.  Mark Zuckerberg gave $498.8 million to Silicon Valley Community Foundation to support education and health.  That's crazy money!  Crazy generosity.  But, it's all about perspective.  
Reminds me of this story of Jesus and the Widow.  She gave crazy money too.
Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large amounts. 42 But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents.
43 Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. 44 They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.” -Mark 12:41-44
How will you help others in 2013?  
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