Aug 13 2012

Unglued: Your Labels

You’ve probably heard the song,  “You Are More” by Tenth Avenue North.  Love the lyric, “you are more than the sum of your past mistakes, you are more than the problems you create, you’ve been remade” 

Love how that song, completely removes the labels you put on yourself when you look in the mirror.  Maybe you don’t like what you see on the outside, or the inside.

I’m reading this book Unglued by Lysa Terkheurst.  She wrote about how those labels we put on ourselves, can cause us to come unglued.  You can win it today by telling us what makes you come unglued.

She writes, "the labels can imprison us and are hard to escape. I am angry, frustrated, screamer, stuffer, just like my mother, wreck, people pleaser, jerk, insecure, unglued. All lies meant to tear you down.   When you define yourself as these things, your emotions get the best of you. Make you short-tempered and off kilter.”

I started writing in the margins of my book about the labels that I put on myself, that cause me to come unglued.  My labels: Single Mom.  Failure. Abandoned. 

But the only label that matters when you look in the mirror, is that you are a child of God. 

Lysa writes about one of her favorite children's books, Max Lucado’s  “You Are Special.” In it the characters are labeled with dots others have stuck on them. The aha and freeing moment in the story comes when someone tells a character that doesn’t like his dots: 

“They only stick if you let them.”

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Aug 13 2012

Still Standing

Proof that you matter.  Even if you feel ruined.  Like your life is a bit like "a pile of ashes."

Recently I got to see the Redwood Forest.  Trees that are the tallest living thing, and possibly the oldest.  One had lived for 1,000 years.  Walking amongst them can make you feel pretty insignificant.

But, what got my attention is one that didn't make it.  There was a sign by it that told it's story.

"Hundreds of years ago, a single large redwood grew here.  Then disaster struck.  The trunk of the large redwood was killed, perhaps by repeated and severe wildfire.  All that's left is a dead and blackened snag.  Despite such terrible damage, the tree did not die.  Below the ground its massive root system was full of vitality.  Before long, hundreds of young, bright-green burl sprouts began to come up around the circle formed by the root crown of the orginial tree.  Some of those sprouts have grown into the full-sized trees that today stand in a circle around the original trunk."  

They call it a Family Circle.  

Where it put it's trust, is what made future generations strong.  Even though it was just a "blackened snag."

I love that when disaster struck, it's legacy was not destroyed.  The tree just dug deeper, and the roots were it's legacy.  

Makes me think about when disaster strikes in your life.  (Notice I didn't say if, but when.)  You have two choices, give up, or dig deep and lean on your roots of faith and family.  

I chose to dig deep, after my marriage fell apart, and it's made all the difference.  I'm still standing, a little damaged, but still standing, and pouring roots of faith and family into the next generation around me, my three children.   

Living proof that God makes beauty out of ashes...

"For those that mourn in Zion He gave me beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness, that we may be trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified."  Isaiah 61:3

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