Jan 26 2012

The Father Daughter Dance

I'm going on a date this weekend…with my 10 year old girl! She's really excited about wearing her special dress…and going to the Father Daughter Dance with her Pops! 
Do you have any suggestions for me, to help make it more special?

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1/26/2012 4:17:12 PM
shannon United States
get her a big bouquet of roses in pink of course and maybe rent a limo or get her like a tiara and out it on her on one knee hope this helps and can u play the song hero by abandon
1/26/2012 4:18:47 PM
K Fraser Groves United States
K Fraser Groves
Treat her as the princess that she is. The Kingdom of Heaven is all about relationship, and the example He gave us on Earth is Family. I would get prayed up that God would show up in miraculous ways throughout the day, get her a bouquet of flowers, maybe a tiara. Let God take over your imagination to bless her and show her how much you love her. Then watch and enjoy. BTW, keep up the good work. The music you guys play is Holy and God is inhabiting it. I have tears in my eyes as I write this because of what God is speaking through the music that is playing at this moment. THANKS!!!
1/26/2012 4:35:17 PM
Marcy United States
Make it all about her. Flowers, a special ride before...show her what it is like to have the RIGHT kind of fatherly love. Hold her had, say you are proud to be her father to whomever she introduces you. Just know...she will remember this night the rest of her life. She's one blessed girl and your one blessed father!
1/26/2012 4:36:21 PM
Marcy United States
Oh, you might take her out to dinner also. *big smile*
1/26/2012 4:40:25 PM
shannon United States
you should get her a really special ring necklace or any kind of jewelry but make it something with a heart she can wear it when your apart and always know your with her
1/26/2012 4:41:00 PM
William M McCullar United States
William M McCullar
You should do what the dad did in Courageous. He gave his daughter a ring to be on her hand untill her husband replaces it with her wedding ring. I really like that idea Smile
1/26/2012 4:43:02 PM
shannon United States
ya like my comment above and make sure it is beautiful and it should have a heart for love i think but pick what you think oh when i wrote this cinderella came on made me think of you!
1/26/2012 4:46:12 PM
Darlene United States
This isn't really a suggestion--- but after listening on air- Cinderella- by Steven Curtis Chapman is completely stuck in my head- so perfect for your dance <3  and now you guys are playing it!
1/26/2012 4:46:45 PM
Jamie United States
Instead of a bouquet buy her  a corsiage she can pin to her dress or one she can wear on her wrist.
1/26/2012 4:47:51 PM
shannon United States
my dad used to take me out to build a bear then i dud get my nails dun and we dud go to dinner Smile miss those days
1/26/2012 4:48:32 PM
shannon United States
both^^^^ maybe haha
idk that mite b too many flowers
1/26/2012 4:50:04 PM
Chris United States
JD congratulations, get ready for one of the best memories of your life, cherish the time together I agree with flowers or even a corsage(sp?)In addition give her something even more special, take the time now to write her a letter and tell her in the letter how special she is to you and how much you love her. It will be something she can cherish and keep for a long time, the flowers will fade but the wonderful memory of your time together and her special letter will last forever. Don't let anything get in your way before the dance, as said before prepare in prayer. I will pray for you, my baby is now 21 and married, but I still remember our father daughter dance. (ps pray for your daughters future husband) we did and we are truly blessed!!!
1/26/2012 4:50:11 PM
shannon United States
make sure you don't forget to tell her she is beautiful and whay=tever she wants to do do it! don't be embarrassed like in courageous u never know
1/26/2012 4:50:25 PM
Sue United States
We made this mistake the first father-daughter dance....don't forget the corsage!!! You don't need to go to an expensive florist, any supermarket with a floral dept. can make one on pretty short notice. Tell them her dress color and her age so they can make the wrist band small enough. Have fun!
1/26/2012 4:51:58 PM
shannon United States
take a picture of her and keep it in your wallet this will be very memorable
1/26/2012 4:56:14 PM
Terry United States
Hi, JD, Just remember you can't go back in time and do it over....3 years ago I had the same chance to dance with my 10 year old. And it seemed like I had so many reasons not to do it and I ended up not doing it....Now she's 13 and I haven't seen her since last November. She refuses to see me...maybe if I would have danced with her then things would have been different...pray for us!!! I don't have much for advise ( since I didn't do it) but know the precious gift she is and remember the cinderella song...
1/26/2012 5:10:11 PM
Pacee United States
Bring her to dinner at her favorite resturant because after all, this is a very special night for the both of you. also, get her a bouquet of her favorite flowers and a corsage that matches her dress. and if you want to go all out, get her a tiara. I remember my first Daughter/Daddy dance. It was a memory i will never forget, niether will she. Make it a night to remember. No matter what you do she will love you and be happy.
1/26/2012 5:11:16 PM
Daniel United States
Hey JD, though I have never been a father, I agree with the above comment that said to make it about her.  I believe she will enjoy it no matter what you do, as long as you see her.  Not just a child, or your daughter, but God's gift.  A beautiful young woman whom you love and cherish with your heart.  She is your princess, and to let her know, would mean the world.
  If it were my mom suggesting things, she would say take lots of pictures, something about pictures makes many woman happier about things like this.

God Bless
1/26/2012 5:11:54 PM
Grace United States
This will be a great time for you both! Don't make the time about material things (even though those seem to mean a lot) but make it about the precious time you have together! God bless you both and hope you have a wonderful time!
1/26/2012 5:12:51 PM
shannon United States
this is your night with her this is the night you express all your love go all out if she wants you to do something embarrassing like sing or something you go up there and sing to her with all your heart and i think you should do that thing with the ring like in courageous
1/26/2012 5:13:09 PM
Pacee United States
If you want, im sure you can make a song suggestion. Dedicate it to her annd dance away.
1/26/2012 5:15:11 PM
shannon United States
ya that is good^^^ you should have them play cinderella and you dance with her and maybe even sing quietly to her
1/26/2012 5:15:19 PM
shannon United States
or loudly
1/26/2012 5:17:45 PM
shannon United States
and when you do that make sure they dedicate it to her
1/26/2012 5:18:38 PM
ArLee Nosack United States
ArLee Nosack
I never got to does but I think she might have a lot of fun and feel specel(please excuse the spelling). Before you go turn "Playing Cinderella" and dance with her then take her to dinner what ever she wants. maybe even buy her a rose, tell her that you love her and that she's always going to be your little girl and that you will always love her....
1/26/2012 5:19:47 PM
shannon United States
all this ^^^ is great but the main thing make sure she knows how much you love her (a lot)]
1/26/2012 5:36:35 PM
Karilee Schmeckpeper United States
Karilee Schmeckpeper
My daughter has been to two of our church's Father Daughter dances.  She suggests getting your daughter a special necklace with her name on it.  Or some kind of affordable personalized jewelry.
1/26/2012 5:40:21 PM
Wendy United States
In my opinion it would be a great way to get a relationship with your daughter.  My father and I have never had a strong relationship and he was rarely around when I was younger.  I would have loved it if my father would have taken me to a dance.
1/26/2012 5:47:00 PM
Beth United States
Get her a charm braclet and everytime you do something special together, just the two of you, weather its another Daddy Daughter Dance or taking her out for pizza, get her a new charm that will remind her of all the great memories you share.
1/26/2012 5:48:47 PM
bri United States
i went to a father daugether dance my dad took me out to dinner and bought my flowers he also drove me around and we took pictures at different spots that we went to for our father daugether dates that we had twice a month and did things i hope this help
1/26/2012 5:50:59 PM
Danielle Hendress United States
Danielle Hendress

I really don't know what advice I can really give you, I never went to a father/daughter dance. I never even knew my dad till I was 24. (I'm 25 now) Before I found my dad, I kept praying that God would help me find him. I searched for him as long as I can remember. I met him a week before father's day in 2010. He welcomed me into his family with open arms (Christ has his heart as well) I may not have gone to a dance with him, but waiting 24 years to have him in my life, I can only thank God for giving me my daddy.

Just treat your daughter as though you never want to lose her, like you may never see her again,love her like you've never loved before, and keep her right with God.

Spin her and dip her like a princess...

OH and cf course dance your BUTTS OFF!! Smile
1/26/2012 6:12:23 PM
Rebecca Canada
Wear a tux and buy her flowers! She'll never forget it!
1/26/2012 6:19:13 PM
Jamie Havener United States
Jamie Havener
I heard this on Focus on the Family radio program. I am not quoting, but the idea is to show your daughter how her future dates should treat her. Opening the car door, asking her what she would like YOU to order for her at the restaurant, pulling out her chair, etc. thought it is worth passing along. how many young ladies have blossomed knowing their Dads are their heros and knights in shining armor. yeah, we still believe that LOL
1/26/2012 6:19:38 PM
Tessa O' Daniel United States
Tessa O' Daniel
Get down on one knee or what ever you prefer, and look her in the eyes and tell her you love her and you will ALWAYS be her dad or daddy depending on which one she calls you.
1/26/2012 6:19:52 PM
Crystal United States
Use this opportunity to model for your daughter what a date should be like. Open car doors, take her to dinner, and kiss her hand. Let her know what a respectable man should be like when he takes her out.
1/26/2012 6:20:12 PM
Charlie Vosler United States
Charlie Vosler
J D is this your night or your daughter's night.What I would recomend is that you sit down with your little princes and ask her what she would like to do on this special night. Let her make a choice and then ask her if she would like to hear your idea's. When you both come up with something you both agree with go for it. I think you'l go along way with each other by doing this.I agree this is just a dance but it is for the both of you and it will be very special.What ever you do sit down and thank God for allowing you two to be together and to have each other.Our God is so awsome when it comes to haveing a family an being able to do things with each other.Have a beautiful evening and may God Bless you.
1/26/2012 6:55:12 PM
Amy United States
My dad used to take me on Daddy-Daughter dates at least once a month! We would do anything from going to the park and having a PB&J picnic to going to a nice restaurant and then a movie. No matter what you do with her before or after the dance, I promise she'll never forget it! Most of the ideas you've gotten already are great! Here are my two suggestions: 1) Take her to dinner or a treat somewhere that she loves! Ask her where she'd like to go. Whether it's a nice restaurant or just a Happy Meal at McDonalds, she'll love it! And my second suggestion is this: Buy her a bunch of her favorite flower. Also, buy a fake one to throw in the mix. Tell her that the "everlasting" flower represents that, no matter what, you will always be her dad and you will always love her. No matter what she does, the real flowers will eventually wither away and die, but there's absolutely nothing she can do to change that you are her father or make it so that you don't love her anymore. If she's anything like I was when I was a young girl, she will never ever forget that illustration and she will keep the flower for years to come!
1/26/2012 7:35:26 PM
michael United States
hey the only thing i can say is, cherish every moment and maybe buy her a wood, glass or feather rose. i cry everytime i hear cinderella because my 17 year old ran-away. i got full custody of her a few years ago. we moved from louisiana to missouri not knowing that missouri has a 17 law. it states that at 17 they can run-away and theres nothing the parents can do. so when i was in kentucky for a new job, she ran-away. phone  records shows she left around midnight. she left with a 21 year old. they have been wanting to be together for almost 3 years but, i have been in their way. thats what she said in an email. i have 1 more chance for a father/ daughter dance. i have another daughter. she is 15 months old. she loves music, just like me. i have a son who is almost 19. he refuses to talk to me. he is on all kinds of medication and hates me. for what, i have no idea. satan has been realy trying to destroy me this past year. i thank GOD everyday for being in my life. i ask that the staff at k-love will pray for me. thanks
1/26/2012 9:13:55 PM
Haleigh McDaniel United States
Haleigh McDaniel
Get her a flower bracelet girls wear to prom. Treat her like a princess all night. Also just have fun. Take LOTS of pictures so she can make a scrapbook. Having a scrapbook will be so easy to pull out and look at the pictures. Plus it's fun to do with her. Good luck! ;)
1/26/2012 10:48:26 PM
Beth United States
In addition to the many wonderful suggestions above, It would be nice to write her an old-fashioned letter.  Tell her the many reasons you are proud of her and how much you and Jesus love her.  End it with a prayer that you have written and pray especially for her.  
Make a copy of it and after she had read the original, save that for her. Because it will mean so much to her when she goes back and re-reads it as an adult. You may want to consider letting this be the first of many yearly letters you write to her.
1/27/2012 7:41:29 AM
Duane United States
Raising two girls, we had "Daddy Daughter Dates" from a small age.  For your date, I would get her a simple wristlet, then get all dressed up in a suit and tie.  Arrange with your wife to answer the door.  Ring the doorbell and ask for her.  "Is Miss Chandler ready for her date?"  Then use the opportunity to show her what to expect from a young man and her future husband.  Such as, open doors for her, including the car doors, getting in and out for the car.  Take her to her favorite sit-down restaurant, pull out her chair.  Remind her that she is a gift from God and that Young men worth considering are always the ones that Love God with all their heart, which means they will love and care for her even more.  Just have fun and treat her like the princess of God's Kingdom, she really is.
1/27/2012 8:40:35 AM
Mike United States
Whatever you do, use this night as an example of what a Godly husband and father is. You are setting the standards for her future prospective husband. She knows that she will get the best from you, and that any guy she ends up with will have to live up to the standard you have already set.

-Mike in Chicago
1/27/2012 4:51:34 PM
Megan United States
When my Dad did those, he was also the soundman for the event, so Dad would have me "test" the microphones before everyone used them. Had me up on stage and everything in my dress. I still remember that from, oh, 12+yrs ago.
1/27/2012 4:53:48 PM
Debby United States
Easy treat her like the princess she is!
1/27/2012 6:22:52 PM
Miranda United States
Get her a necklace that has a special meaning and give it to her right before you leave. You can put it around her neck and tell her how beautiful she is and how much you love her. It will be something that she will cherish for the rest of her life.
1/28/2012 3:10:06 AM
Dawn United States
1/30/2012 1:18:17 PM
Zoe United States
Watched Courageous over the weekend... I think that's a great thing you did!  It's never too early to sow into our children's lives.  Letting them feel the love we have for them will prevent them from looking elsewhere (sadly mostly wrong places) for it.  God bless you!
1/30/2012 4:37:23 PM
Derrick United States
Buy her a flower and take pictures before you go to make a big deal about it.

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1/30/2012 4:45:03 PM
Pam Goodchild United States
Pam Goodchild
Hi JD!  Somebody mentioned renting a limo and you said on-air the other day that you can't afford that.  Another alternative would be to rent a Lincoln Towncar (the new ones have heated seats!).  That way, she'd have her own special "coach" to take her to the dance, rather than the everyday car.  And maybe you have a friend who'd be willing to dress in a tuxedo or suit and play chauffeur? Whatever you do, have a special, blessed time!!  I drive limousines and I've done that run a couple of times.  It's so fun to watch the daddies interacting with their little girls!
2/1/2012 6:13:07 PM
Lucillia United States
You should talk with her. Treasure these precious moments with your daughter. Soon she will no longer be little. Ask her questions, about her school, about her dreams, anything you can think of. Take her to dinner. Enjoy her company. Maybe talk about what the future might hold. Talk about how Jesus will always be there for her. Tell her how much you love her! She will remember these talks, dances, dinners, and little moments for the rest of her life. She may even share them someday with her children.
2/1/2012 6:16:58 PM
Lucillia United States
I remember when my daddy did those things for me. I have never forgotten them. I 'treasured all these things up' and put them in my heart. Things like that mean a lot to a young girl.
2/4/2012 7:07:33 AM
Terri United States
My Dad took me to my Father-daughter dance.  I still remember it as if it were yesterday.  A corsage is nice, then after the dance dry it, and she can keep it as a memento.  Ask her to dance to a special song, and she will remember that forever.Above all let your actions show how much you love her.  She will treasure being 'escorted ' by her dad, and will learn what a real man does to treat w woman special.  Smile, laugh and have fun!
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