Jan 07 2010

The Love Dare - Day 2

Day 2

Love is kind


Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.  Ephesians 4:32

 

Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing. One is preventive, the other proactive. These two sides of love are the cornerstones on which many of the other attributes we will discuss are built.

Love makes you kind. And kindness makes you likeable. When you’re kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them.

The Bible keys in on the importance of kindness: “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man” (Proverbs 3:3–4). Kind people simply find favor wherever they go. Even at home. But “kindness” can feel a little generic when you try defining it, much less living it. So let’s break kindness down into four basic core ingredients:

Gentleness. When you’re operating from kindness, you’re careful how you treat your spouse, never being unnecessarily harsh. You’re sensitive. Tender. Even if you need to say hard things, you’ll bend over backwards to make your rebuke or challenge as easy to hear as possible. You speak the truth in love.

Helpfulness. Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment. If it’s housework, you get busy. A listening ear? You give it. Kindness graces a wife with the ability to serve her husband without worrying about her rights. Kindness makes a husband curious to discover what his wife needs, then motivates him to be the one who steps up and ensures those needs are met—even if his are put on hold.

Willingness. Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible. Rather than complaining and making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate. A kind husband ends thousands of potential arguments by his willingness to listen first rather than demand his way.

Initiative. Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. It doesn’t sit around waiting to be prompted or coerced before getting off the couch. The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. They don’t require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. When acting from kindness, you see the need, then make your move. First.

 

Jesus creatively described the kindness of love in His parable of the Good Samaritan, found in the Bible—Luke, chapter 10. A Jewish man attacked by robbers is left for dead on a remote road. Two religious leaders, respected among their people, walk by without choosing to stop. Too busy. Too important. Too fond of clean hands. But a common man of another race—the hated Samaritans, whose dislike for the Jews was both bitter and mutual—sees this stranger in need and is moved with compassion. Crossing all cultural boundaries and risking ridicule, he stops to help the man. Bandaging his wounds and putting him on his own donkey, he carries him to safety and pays all his medical expenses out of his own pocket.

Where years of racism had caused strife and division, one act of kindness brought two enemies together. Gently. Helpfully. Willingly. Taking the initiative, this man demonstrated true kindness in every way.

Wasn’t kindness one of the key things that drew you and your spouse together in the first place? When you married, weren’t you expecting to enjoy his or her kindness for the rest of your life? Didn’t your mate feel the same way about you? Even though the years can take the edge off that desire, your enjoyment in marriage is still linked to the daily level of kindness expressed.

The Bible describes a woman whose husband and children bless and praise her. Among her noble attributes are these: “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26). How about you? How would your husband or wife describe you on the kindness meter? How harsh are you? How gentle and helpful? Do you wait to be asked, or do you take the initiative to help? Don’t wait for your spouse to be kind first.

It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.

 

Today’s Dare 

In addition to saying nothing
negative to your spouse again today,
do at least one unexpected gesture
as an act of kindness. 
 

What is desirable in a man is his kindness. (Proverbs 19:22)

 

Click here to buy a copy of The Love Dare book.  

Click here for a free online journal for the full 40 day challenge.

 

Material taken from The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, copyright © 2009 by B&H Publishing Group. Used by permission.  Unauthorized reproduction in any format is strictly prohibited by law.

 

Comments (134) -

1/7/2010 3:59:09 AM
melinda777 United States
melinda777
I started this on my own a little over a week ago.
I got to day 3 then felt like I wasn't really making the impact I should so I stayed on the first dare so not to lose momentum because it is
a hard one.  I am stuck on the 2nd as to what will
get him to notice I did a kind act.  I tried one thing but didn't seem to get notice.  I just want him to see I am making an effort.  I hope this doesn't sound lame because I really want to do this in the worst way.  I was glad you were doing it and think it will help me to keep going.  Thanks and can't wait to hear all the outcomes
1/7/2010 4:27:41 AM
Jill United States
Jill
I have been printing these off for my son and his wife.  They are going through some things right now that they need to deal with now.  My son just lost his job and is working hard to finding a new one.  My daughter-in-law is struggling because now she is the bread winner and doesn't like that kind of stress.  I am hoping this will help them.  Please pray for them as they get through this situation.  There is also my grandson to think about.  I don't want him living in a negative household, that is not going to help the situation.  I saw the movie with my husband and we bought a copy.  I have given that to the kids to watch and then mailing the printings from the book to them on a daily basis for them to read together.  Thanks so much for doing this.  It came at the right time in our lives.  God Bless.
1/7/2010 4:51:19 AM
Karly United States
Karly
I read a comment from a lady yesterday about how she is using the Love dare with her whole family. I decided I could do the same thing with my students. I have to leave out some of the scriptures since I teach at a public school, but besides that I believe the students could learn a great deal from the words of each dare.
1/7/2010 4:52:14 AM
Loretta Fendrick United States
Loretta Fendrick
WOW! What a powerful scripture verse.  This is definetely going to be hard road for me.  Lord, please give me the strength and courage to say nothing negative and to do kinder things for my spouse and others.  Lately, this has been something that has attacked both me and my husband.  We are both trying to work on it and to challenge are children to think kinder thoughts about others. Again, thank you so much for your encouraging words and music that you play on the radio each day.  GOD BLESS.

Loretta
1/7/2010 4:59:00 AM
Jenny United States
Jenny
Good Morning All!  Day 2 is underway and it feels good to have a mission.  
1/7/2010 5:10:19 AM
Desiree Barbier United States
Desiree Barbier
Hello! I have posted The Love Dare and your site on my facebook post to encourage others to do it for family and friends. I am single, so I'd like to do this for my daughters, friends and others. Now that I heard the woman on the radio this morning, I am going to ask my boss to do the Office Dare! Thank you for all you do and your encouragement. I listen to klove everyday. God bless you with peace and happiness, Desiree Barbier
1/7/2010 5:13:28 AM
Kathryn Swartz United States
Kathryn Swartz
Dear K-Love:  My Husband and I have started the Love dare with you.  I bought the book yesterday, We decided to buy the Day by Day edition, the 1 year devotional for couples.  We are following the blog and listening to you daily as usual.
Our anniversary is on Feb.12th so this study will go through our anniversary.  God bless you all at K-Love.  Thank you.  Kathy and Sam Swartz
1/7/2010 5:17:06 AM
David Dean United States
David Dean
Lisa and Eric;

I am doing the Love Dare quietly. My wife of 34 years is not aware that I am doing this directly. I want to surprise and honor her by following the daily dare and at some point maybe she will begin to wonder why. I have not always been the "ideal" husband and father, but I know through my faith and God holding my hand that He will carry me through when I stumble. Thank you for all the inspiration. By the way I used to live in Indianapolis just before I retired after 20 years in the active Army. We now live in Golden, Colorado and boy is it ever cold here today!god Bless and keep you safe.
1/7/2010 5:19:08 AM
Kirsten United States
Kirsten
Just wanted to say I think the Love Dare challenge is awesome and I am so glad you have been keeping the listening audience on top of it.  I think a great additional tool to help with this is the Weekend to Remember marriage conference that Family Life orchestrates all around the country.  And the best thing is that from now through January 18th they are having a half price sale on registration.  So a couple can go two for the price of one.  My husband and I are involved with the local team in Cincinnati that puts on the annual conference and it really helps us keep our marriage grounded and the two of us on the right path to strengthening our marriage.  
1/7/2010 5:20:47 AM
Navy Sailor, Wife & Mother United States
Navy Sailor, Wife & Mother
My husban and I have been having problems for the last couple of years. He purchased The Love Dare for couples for us to do. I guess you can say, I've been waiting on him to start it together. But I see no hope in him actually doing it with me. I even started going to church with our young children in hand, without him. It's very hard. I don't even ask him to go anymore, because I know he cannot be forced to go nor should he be. I guess what I am getting at is, I started The Love Dare yesterday when I heard KLOVE was starting it. I saw it as a sign, flashing in front of my face. Is it possible for me to do it alone, to help my marriage? Even if my husband isn't doing it? I hate to say this, but I as I read, I see what my husband should be doing and it makes me cry... Can anyone give me some insight, please? Thank you and God bless all of you! I love my KLOVE family!  
1/7/2010 5:21:02 AM
Alicia United States
Alicia
I absolutely LOVE "The Love Dare" ........ I feel like my Husband and I are going to have that puppy love feeling again!!!

Praise Jesus!

Thank you Lord blessing us with this amazing book. I know many lives and marriages are going to change (for the better) because of this book. Good things are happening!!!
1/7/2010 5:32:49 AM
Jennie Aldridge United States
Jennie Aldridge
I am so glad that i heard the Love dare challenge. I have been praying about making more changes in myself that will portray Jesus Christ in my life, and gentleness and kindness is an area that i need to work on... i am a kind person but sometimes i rebuke or correct a little hard. SO i truely want to do alot more in this area to accomplish the TRUE kindness that Jesus gave to us.
1/7/2010 5:37:12 AM
Ashley United States
Ashley
I have been seperated from my husband for 4 months.  We have been fighting his sexual addiction and I have been trying to be his helpmate.  I am trying to put down my pride and love him.  I am going to try this love dare and see if we can break anymore of these barriers Satan is trying to put up.
1/7/2010 5:37:21 AM
Rhonel McBee United States
Rhonel McBee
Powerful message today.  I know this is geared for marriages, but I am going to apply this to all areas of my life, especially for my husband but for my 18yr old son and work associates.  Lisa and Eric you created a way for people to get back to what God really wants us to do as His children.  My daughter in law is doing it with me also-how exciting is that?!  Blessings,
1/7/2010 5:47:59 AM
Annette United States
Annette
I am doing this Love Dare Challenge has a way to get my marriage on track. My husband is not participating with me and that's ok. I do talk to him about it and leave the door open.

Yesterday was a great day for our family in that there was no harsh words said from anyone and we had a peaceful night together.

I'm hopeful despite almost 12 inches of snow falling now, we will be able to continue this energy into the weekend.

I pray for everyone doing the Love Dare to really focus on what is important to you. May God watch over each one of us and give us the strength we need to get back on track.

Have a blessed day~
1/7/2010 5:48:36 AM
Bonnie United States
Bonnie
How can kindness be used in a way so people won't take it offensive when you act kind to that person. Can you give me an example?
1/7/2010 5:51:18 AM
Stacie United States
Stacie
WHat I love best about this Dar is that it reminds me that Love is more than a feeling. It is also a choice and an action. By participating in the Dare we are choosing to love, even when we don't "feel" like it....
1/7/2010 5:51:26 AM
Marla Garcia United States
Marla Garcia
Hello Lisa and Eric, I wanted to tell you a story about my husband and I, we have been married for six years now and we have been through so much just to get married. But the Lord put us together and no matter who tried to split us up God kept us together, and no matter how much we go through we vow to always work through it and keep our marriage in victory. O and I love your show, I listen to it EVERY day! Smile
1/7/2010 5:53:01 AM
Rebekah United States
Rebekah
I will admit that yesterday I had to stop myself a few times because I was being impatient. Day 1 was harder than thought! Now for Day 2, I am ready..i have a few hours to meditate on this before I see my hubby for lunch! I hope everyone is doing good on their challenges and God is working in everyone's heart!
1/7/2010 5:59:18 AM
Crystal United States
Crystal
Yesterdays dare was hard at first but it turned out to be very rewarding!  Now what to do today for a kind gesture, I do not know!  I will have to pray about it!
1/7/2010 6:02:03 AM
Marisa United States
Marisa
Thank you so much for doing this. I am looking forward to seeing what changes it will bring to our marriage. Yesterday was a bit tough because of his reaction to me, but I did refrain from saying anything negative. I pray that everyone take advantage of this time to get closer to their spouses.God Bless you for doing this.
1/7/2010 6:05:07 AM
Donna United States
Donna
I think this is a great idea.  Would love prayer for me and others in my situation.  I can use this to improve any realtionship but I also have to fight being sad for my 25 year marriage that ended last year and not think about that and that my ex is already married to someone else.  I want my focus to be on what I can do now, not on what we didn't do and live in regret.
1/7/2010 6:05:20 AM
Jennifer United States
Jennifer
We I started "The Love Dare" yesterday. I thought a lot about what I wanted to do to show kindness to my husband. He is starting to get sick, so I made his lunch and brought him breakfast and tea in bed. All morning as we were getting ready for work he was telling me he loved me. Who knew such a small act would mean so much to him. We will have to see how the rest of the day goes. Thank you KLOVE for the challenge to work on myself and my marriage.
1/7/2010 6:13:12 AM
Dan'a United States
Dan'a
I am single and I don't have my kids at home anymore so I am doing the love dare (with a few adjustments) at work with my co-workers. Day 1 went pretty well. Now on to day 2. I wake up to K-LOVE every morning and listen to it while getting dressed. And that is all I listen to in my car. I lovvvvvveeee K-LOVE!!!!!!!
1/7/2010 6:27:33 AM
Esther United States
Esther
I am a 19year old college student attending ASU, not married and am currently single. But I took on the challenge of doing this Dare as making GOD my boyfriend/spouse. There's no greater relationship than having one filled with true love with God. I know that completing this and being full in it God will prepare me for that future man of God he has for me.
1/7/2010 6:28:45 AM
Barb United States
Barb
I am so thankful KLOVE is doing the Love Dare book.  Both my husband and I have the books however we have struggled so much over the past few years of our almost nine year marriage that we are unsure we will make our tenth year.  Our books have sat untouched on the shelf. I know God's grace is sufficient and listening to KLOVE is encouraging to me.  I am holding on to the promises of God and I know we will be victors and not victims because He says we will!!!!

Thank you for what you do...

May you and KLOVE be blessed in your comings and goings.
1/7/2010 6:28:51 AM
Sharyn United States
Sharyn
Oh my, Day 1 was good and bad.  I held myself from being negative with the exception of two times, one I spoke negatively myself and the other I agreed with someone who was being negative, but I realized it immediately after I did it and asked for forgiveness.  Since I am not married I am doing The Love Dare in relationships with my family and peers.  I discussed it at lunch yesterday with several of my peers and a few of them requested that I provide them with the link so they could do it as well.  I heard a lady on the radio today who has put it into effect at her workplace, which is similar to what I am doing.  I think it is a wonderful tool in all areas of our lives.  Just think of how God's grace and goodness would be spread if everyone would do this in all areas of their lives.  I already see a small change in myself from yesterday and know that through diligence I will continue to grow in all areas.  Thank you K-Love for providing us with such a Blessing.  I pray success and blessing to everyone who is following this path and I praise God for this wonderful Gift!
1/7/2010 6:31:34 AM
Heather United States
Heather
Lisa and Eric- thank you so much for doing this on the blog!  I have wanted to buy the book but kept putting it off, and you have taken away my excuses now!  I am doing the Love Dare by myself, not saying anything to my husband of almost 10 years.  I know if we were both doing it I would be looking for him to do what he is "supposed" to do and I think that would defeat the purpose, so instead I'm totally focused on what I'm supposed to do and just hopefully watching him enjoy the change!
1/7/2010 6:33:54 AM
Norma United States
Norma
I am happy to be a part of this dare.  I have tried before and failed to follow through!  I made it through day 1!  Started day two off on a positive note!  I slowed down enough this morning to make the bed before work. My husband hates and unmade bed and I hate to make the bed!  I was suprised how much satisfaction I got knowing it will please him to see his bed made.  Maybe my husband isn't all that hard to please after all.
1/7/2010 6:36:11 AM
Nicole United States
Nicole
Doing a kind act...does this mean he has to notice it or can it be done in secret? Just thinking of something to do is going to be a huge challenge.

Actually did pretty good yesterday. Thinking before you speak goes a long way! Smile
1/7/2010 6:40:20 AM
Amy United States
Amy
Good morning!  I would like to share that we have adapted the Love Dare for our office here at work.  I know we are only on day 2 however we are all ready beginning to see a change take place not only in ourselves but each other.  My husband and I are doing this as well at home and I am excited to see the outcome.  He, my husband, is a firefighter and is interested in seeing how well this works for my office and if it will be something he can use at the firehouse.  I think it will!  God BlessSmile
1/7/2010 6:46:48 AM
Aubrie United States
Aubrie
The Love Dare has been recommended from some friends and I have thought about doing it so when I saw that you guys were going through it, I thought I would do it without telling my husband. I struggle with the Dare from day 1 on a daily basis. My husband and I have been married since May 2009 and just the other day I was telling him how I wished we could go back to our honeymoon when no harsh words were said and I was full of patience and love. I am excited to see where this Love Dare challenge takes me.

Today's challenge reminds me that my husband and I have opposite love languages and I often fail to see that his needs are valid. His main love language is physical touch so today I am going to give him a shoulder/back massage (without him asking!). He just started his first job this week (teaching high school english) so he could use a little stress relief.
1/7/2010 6:52:10 AM
Chris Burrow United States
Chris Burrow
When the movie Fireproof came out wife and I went to see it.  Thought it was a very good movie.  I purchased the Love Dare book a few weeks later.  I have tried to do the dare, but I gave up I'm sad to say after about 7 days.  It seemed like it was not working.  But I believe I was trying to do the dare by myself, and not letting the Lord assist me.  I have started the dare again after listening to K-Love announce that they were going to do it for it's listeners. With the Lord's help, and with K-Love and it's listners for motivation to keep going. I hope to complete and not give up this round.  Thank you so much not for just the dare, but for the music and everything you do god bless.
1/7/2010 6:52:23 AM
April House United States
April House
I am so thankful for this opportunity to improve upon my marriage. We are such selfish creatures, and so many times it becomes about what our spouse is doing for us instead of what we as Christian spouses should be. God let this be something that will mold me into the spouse You want me to be, regardless of whether the effort is acknowledged or reciprocated. Whether it changes him, Lord may it change me.
1/7/2010 6:56:01 AM
RUTHY United States
RUTHY
OK..day 2 act of kindness...I think i can pull this off...but my patience from day 1, i failed that one as soon as i read it...I have to continue working on that!
1/7/2010 6:56:46 AM
Lori United States
Lori
I am doing the love dare devotional with my daughter for our family. We have not told my husband or my other daughter that we are doing this but we saw a change in everyones hearts on day one. My daughter and I are acting as accountability partners, and get a lot from sharing the small ways God has already changed our attitudes and life. I am so excited to see where God leads this. Praise and thanks to He who is in control!!  
1/7/2010 6:58:58 AM
Tracy Patterson United States
Tracy Patterson
I have been married 7 months and this is going to be harder than we thought! Now that we have a baby girl we are going to try and make our relationship better and more possitive! We are very much in love and would do anything for eachother, and that anything is LOVE DARE!! Good luck to thoes of you who are going to try and complete the love dare challange!!!
1/7/2010 7:00:45 AM
Chelsie United States
Chelsie
Wow being kind when someone isn't kind to you is def hard. My husband and I have had some struggles, things have been good lately though, so I think day 2 will be easy. But I did like someones comment, love is a choice and it is hard sometimes when we dont feel like showing it. Thanks Lisa and Eric!
1/7/2010 7:02:46 AM
Alexis United States
Alexis
Made it through day one with PMS! Truely all things are possible with God! My fiance' has decided to do this with me. What a blessing. Praise Jesus! Good luck today guys. Love you all.
1/7/2010 7:08:32 AM
Anna United States
Anna
This first day was easy, now thinking of what to do that he will actually take notice is going to be challenging.  God bless everybody this day
1/7/2010 7:12:45 AM
Hope United States
Hope
My husband and i have been separated for a year now with little or no one knowing. It is hard to do the Love Dare when he isn't around to do acts of kindness and sort but what I did do is I have given several books away to others and have send my family and friends the link to your website to do the love dare. I don't want anyone to go through the pain I am going through.  Prayer is all I can do. Do it with or without your spouse but do it while they are still around.
1/7/2010 7:13:21 AM
Sarah United States
Sarah
I am so excited to start the Love dare... My husband of 2 months has not yet accepted Jesus into his life yet and Im hoping and praying that with the love dare that he will be able to see Jesus and the Joy that I have and win his heart over Laughing  Please pray for me as I start this exciting journey of Love!! Thank you Lisa and Eric!!!
1/7/2010 7:13:36 AM
Carrie United States
Carrie
I fought negative words towards my husband all morning.  Praise God, I picked up my devotion book as I pulled up to work and it said to be humlble and kind.  Follow that up with the Love Dare I heard on-line this morning, and I know God is trying to change me!!  Just gotta smile!!!  "A wise man controls his temper, for anger causes mistakes!"  
1/7/2010 7:19:28 AM
Dee United States
Dee
Good morning all!! I decided to take the LOVE dare challenge after hearing about it on the morning show.  My husband and I have been married 14 years and we have had some problems, to say the least!! I began praying and asking God to change things about a year ago; and He has already done miraculous work in our hearts! I asked my husband yesterday to participate in the LOVE dare and he agreed!! God is good!!! I am truly anticipating all the goodness that will come from this challenge!! I pray this will mend broken relationships and hearts of all those who commit to this challenge!! God Bless You!!
1/7/2010 7:24:28 AM
Becky United States
Becky
To:  Navy Sailor Wife and Mom....I can sense your aching heart and need for healing in your marriage.  As much as you want your husband to participate in this with you, remember that it is YOU are only responsible for justifying YOUR actions before the Lord.  Your husband will be responsible for justifying his.  You CAN do this Love Dare on your own w/o your husband.  There will be a point along the way where you feel like it's all for nothing....but keep going and ask God for the strength to get through these 40 Days. 1 Corinthians 7:16 says, "Don't you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you?"  Live YOUR life for Christ.  Work on your heart and the way you love in your marriage.  Have patient and show kindness and everything else this Love Dare asks of you and God will heal your heart and your husband will see Christ in you.  I hope this has helped some.  Blessings and Peace to you.
1/7/2010 7:28:04 AM
carol murphy United States
carol murphy
i wish i could do the love dare, i have the movie and the book, my husband would not watch it with me, he left me a few weeks ago after over 28 years of marriage, he is living with another woman, and has gone to church with her, i just don't understand, he still has things to pick up at our house, maybe i should leave the video in his stuff, i still love him very much from a distance
1/7/2010 7:28:53 AM
Amy United States
Amy
My fiance and I live 800 miles apart so I can get an education at Trinity Bible College as a teacher. We try our hardest to keep our relationship strong. I listen to Klove every day and I think that the Love Dare will help us out in our day to day struggles of being apart. We can do all things through God who strengthens us!
1/7/2010 7:29:36 AM
Richard Simonin United States
Richard Simonin
I wasn't planning on doing this with you, but let me tell what happened today. We as a family woke up a little late (1/2 hr). I am presently out of work and it has been a little stressful in our home. So this morning aftergetting the boys up I decided to make my wife her breakfast and lunch for the day. I HAD NO IDEA WHAT THE DAY 2 LOVE DARE WAS!!! After my wife left and I turned on the computer and put the klove radio on. I was truely himbled when I heard the challenge for today.
thank you,
RIchard S.
NO. Providence, RI
1/7/2010 7:31:50 AM
Angela United States
Angela
Our family has recently adopted nightly bible readings and discussions at the beginning of December for Advent to reflect and focus on the upcoming Christmas holiday and the true purpose of its meaning.  We decided to continue our family "round-table" discussions all year long.  It's been a blessing to see my husband take the lead in keeping our family focused on the Bible, but also to see the kids open up and ask questions and pray.  My husband and I will take the LOVE DARE challenge and know it will bring even more blessings to our family!  THANK YOU!
1/7/2010 7:33:10 AM
Maschil United States
Maschil
I have been married for 5 months but only spent less than a month with my husband since he works. He came over for Christmas. We are so grateful to God for all the blessings.. we had the most joyful Christmas! Now we are back from being away to each other.. he is back in SIngapore and it really makes me sad and i cry a lot whenever I remember our joyful times. We call each other everyday and I make sure I read with him the dare of the day and then pray. Praying together despite the distance kept our relationship (  9 years before we got married) stronger. Thanks Klove! I always listen to your program even when I am at work everyday.
1/7/2010 7:33:13 AM
Jen United States
Jen
Today is a snowday for me so lots of time to think about what act of kindness I am going to perform...a special dinner?  a footrub when he gets home from work?  his favorite meal?  

I can't help but wonder...will he notice?
1/7/2010 7:36:01 AM
Marianne United States
Marianne
During Lent last year I bought the book after a emotional car pool into work with my husband.  With my first real full time job I was pulling away from our marriage and family.  While trying to complete the dares alone like in the movie, I found that you can't.  Love is two sided and both sides need to be involved to make this work.  Therefore this time around I am making it a family wide dare.  Day 1 should be worked on daily by me and the kids in our everyday interactions.  If all we get out of this dare is not to have a war zone in the morning and evenings, we have a HUGE success.
1/7/2010 7:38:48 AM
mariela United States
mariela
Ok! Day 2... will see how this go!! Good morning everybody!!! I almost made yest till my boyfriend wouldnt just turn off TV by midnite it was so  loud have to be up by 5am...grrr so mad n tire... It was my first test brothers and sisters this is going to be hard but I did try so...will c today...
1/7/2010 7:40:34 AM
Jessica Snyder United States
Jessica Snyder
I heard about this several months ago from a friend of mine, actually I heard about the movie. So i watched it and loved it! I went right out and bought the book so my husband and I could do it, but he wasnt interested in doing it. Never the less he said he'd do it for me so we tried to do it for a few days, but you see my husband and I are in the AF station in Minot ND and he has to leave for 4 straight days aweek and thus it was hard to do this cause we hardly talk during this time. So we gave up, but ever morning on the way to base I turn KLOVE on and listen to the morning show and i heard about u guys doing this and I was inspired to do it with or without him! I heard this morning about a lady that is doing it as an Office dare and thought that why not apply it to my entire life! not just my marrage... So as of today I am applying it to every person I come in contact with and look forward to getting the encouragement I need to stick with this from KLOVE! God Bless and good luck to everyone that has jumped on bored to do this!
1/7/2010 7:41:20 AM
Becky United States
Becky
To Navy Wife and Mom:  You CAN do this on your own!!!  It might be just what your heart and marriage needs to start to heal.  Just like you can't force your husband to go to church with you, you also can't force him to take this journey.  Remember that in the end you are only responsible for justifying YOUR actions to the Lord.  Your husband will be responsible for justifying his.  

You will get to a point somewhere during this 40 day journey when you want to give up because you might feel like it's not making a difference.  But I encourage you to PRESS ON!!!!  God will give you the strength and desire to continue if you ask.  God will bless you and your heart will be changed.  

I love 1 Corinthians 7:16...it says, "Don't you wives realize that your husbands might be saved saved because of you?"  We can NOT change our husbands, no matter how hard we may try.  Trying may just push them away.  We can howerv make changes in ourselves.  When we do our husbands see these changes and then they too begin to change.

I hope this has helped some.  Blessings and peace....to you and your family.
1/7/2010 7:56:54 AM
Tonica United States
Tonica
To Navy Sailor Wife & Mother,

While doing the Love Dare, do not focus on what your husband should or ought to be doing as a husband. Instead, focus on how you are going to do what you should and ought to be doing as a wife. Remember, the whole point of the dare is to "understand and practice unconditional love"... You know, the same thing Christ does for us even when we don't deserve it! The last thing I want to offer as insight is that as you read the Love Dare, it's not only what your husband should be doing...it's also what you should be doing! Smile

If you have enough courage & wisdom to start this challenge, you have enough to finish it! And remember, it's not going to be easy but we're all in this together!

God Bless, and Happy New Year!
1/7/2010 8:06:56 AM
Michelle from Louisiana United States
Michelle     from Louisiana
Going into the second day of the challage is good my kids yesterday was choked and really didnot want to do it,but they are wiling to do it so we will see and my husband  told him last night we will see how  long he will go with the devil working hard on us right now
1/7/2010 8:12:44 AM
diana United States
diana
I have challenged my Bible study group to do the Love Dare with Klove.  We started yesterday and meet weekly, so we'll be able to share with each other and encourage one another throughout the 40 days.  Praise God for giving you all the idea to challenge us to make our marriages better.  Already this has opened my eyes to my speech and my actions, "For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
1/7/2010 8:15:06 AM
Rebecca United States
Rebecca
Heather, I'm in the same boat as you.  I'm doing this alone because I know that if he does it, it will be because he was "forced" and then I'll expect certain things from him and that's not how I want this Dare to work.  I want this to come from my heart and put everything I have into it with no expectations.  I also want to let my husband see the Lord work in me and perhaps that will strengthen his belief in the Lord.  

Day 1 for me was fairly easy, but I did lose my patience at one point and was instantly conscience of it.  I reset my mind and my heart and continued through my evening with my hubby.  

Day 2 may be a little more difficult as I am not usually one to take the initiative to do things that my husband would like me to do.  I will have to pray for ideas on how to show him an unexpected act of kindness.  Perhaps I will make dinner, do the dishes and pick up the house.  

Lord, give us all the strength and resolve to make it through today's dare and prepare for tomorrow.  Open our husband's and wive's hearts to what we are doing whether they know we are doing the Dare or not.  We do these acts in your name Lord...Amen!
1/7/2010 8:15:22 AM
Sheri United States
Sheri
I was first made aware of the Love Dare when I watched the movie Fireproof just over a month ago.  I had considered getting The Love Dare Book, but forgot, getting caught up in holiday plans.  I am very thankful that KLove has chosen to utilize and promote this.

My husband and I both are taking the love dare.  we have a good marriage, but no one is perfect.  I am going to take the mindset that is promoted in the movie--I am not going to get stuck on whether or not he notices, but make sure that I do the tasks, and do them graciously.  It is my goal that my husband see me as love personified, and a reflection of our risen Lord and savior.
1/7/2010 8:40:10 AM
Christine N United States
Christine N
After hearing the lady in KLOVE radio that she is doing this with her family - I thought that was a GREAT idea!!! I found a PDF file of "Love Dare for Family" online and thought that this is a great tool to use if doing this with the whole family. I plan to take this challenge and engage my whole family and and give them a copy of the PDF file so they can jot down what they did and what did they learn about the dare. Link for Family Love is @ www.kfbc.org/files/kfbc/Family%20Love%20Dare.pdf
1/7/2010 8:40:58 AM
Steven Harvey United States
Steven Harvey
Lisa,

I have yet to hear you mention the origin of the Love Dare.  If you don't mind I think the Klove listeners would find it helpful and encouraging.

It comes from the movie Fireproof which is the ultiment family friendly move ever! In the movie the main male character takes ther love dare challenge and throug hmany diffrent personal struggles and challenges and with the help of God is able to turn a failing marriage on the edge oif divorce into a fruitful and blessed relationship.  The movie show by example that The challenge is worth the commentment and that things don't change overnight.  That it takes patience hard work and dedication to restore a marriage.  But remind them that all things are possible through Christ who strenthens them.
1/7/2010 8:56:46 AM
Dianna United States
Dianna
I am joining as well since I have stopped and started a number of times.  My negative tongue has not brought me much happines or close relationhips so this time I want to see the end result not so much for my husband and sons but for me.  
1/7/2010 9:00:13 AM
Shalene United States
Shalene
My husband and I are both taking the Love Dare as well.  In addition to doing it for each other, we are including our kids (we have 5 of them), where appropriate.  I want to thank you for issuing this challenge.  I'm not always very patient with my children.  I tend to yell in the mornings when they aren't getting ready like they should.  This morning though, I didn't yell even once- despite the fact that we WERE running late!  God is already honoring the honest desire to change!  Praise Him!  As for the dares and my husband?  So far, it hasn't been too difficult.  I think it helps that we're doing it at the same time.  It's hard to get frustrated with one another when you're both trying so hard, and you both KNOW it.  Smile  (Not that it's all that difficult anyway, but I'm sure it would be easy to lose patience with me at least once in a day.)  Smile  Have a great and blessed day!!
1/7/2010 9:11:50 AM
NIkki United States
NIkki
Well, i started the love dare yesterday and everything went well. My husband and I were together alot because he does concrete work and is not able to work much right now with the weather so cold and wet.Anyway we had a great day and this morning he came in and saw me on the computer and asked what i was looking at and i felt like i should just show him. I did and he just smiled and said "the love dare?"  I said yes and he said "for me?"  We just smiled and looked at eachother and i cried and told him to read where it says "how does your children and spouse  think of you because of how you act?" I am not always nice when it comes to someone upsetting my kids or my husband, I try to jump in and can be so mean. Just trying to take up for them can make me look so mean. I'm really not but i just love my family so much and i can get to overprotecting, i guess. Anyway , i love this and i am going to do it even though he knows what i am doing.  Thanks for having this kind of encouragement on the computer!!!
1/7/2010 9:12:48 AM
Support and Encouragement United States
Support and Encouragement
Just think it's awesome that all of you are daring to improve your lives by thinking outside yourselves and truly living The Greatest Commands ! God Bless each and every one of your journey's...


Love reading the results !
1/7/2010 9:14:03 AM
Nicole United States
Nicole
This dare will be different for my husband and I couse we are in a routine, every day. He goes to work for 10 to 13 hrs, I stay home being the mommy to 5 children. Our days go on, he comes home, we eat dinner. Then I start the bed time process and anyone who has 5 children knows how long that takes! So it's like we see each other for dinner then not again till 8 or 9pm. So then its bed time. Then life starts over the next day. So what I'm saying is finding the one kind gesture is a little difficult in such a small amount of time. But some how I will fit it in!
1/7/2010 9:50:58 AM
j cotterman United States
j cotterman
I started this yesterday, and wouldn't you know hubby blew up at me this morning? I sat there for a few minutes and bit my tongue... It was so hard not to react with angry words. Especially since I would have felt so justified in doing so! Instead I bit my tongue, kissed the kids, and went to work. I'm now wracking my brain trying to figure out something kind to do for him. I don't get home until late tonight so that let's out cooking or anything, and if I buy him something he'll be angry that I spent money. What's a girl to do? This is so hard.....
1/7/2010 9:55:36 AM
Erin Johnson United States
Erin Johnson
Day One went really well.....My husband was surprised by my reaction to stressful situations yesterday!  Thank you, Jesus!  I'm very excited for today and for what God will have me do for my husband!  I'm planning on making his favorite dinner, a yummy dessert, and a hot oil massage before bed!  Should be a GREAT Day 2!
1/7/2010 10:00:20 AM
Kathy United States
Kathy
For all those who need a little encouragement, don't give up, our God is The God of miracles!  With God we can love the unlovable and see God at work. I have been married for 29 years and that is only by the grace of God! I thought my husband made a decision to give his heart to the Lord before we got married, but I was mistaken. For the first 18 years of our marriage, my husband wanted nothing to do with God. I prayed, sought the Lord on how to raise our three children and continued to attend church. God basically taught me the same things that the love dare teaches us! It wasn't always easy to love this man and I didn't always want to! I cried out to God about it a lot, but God was patient with me and always there to show me the way! Psalm 40:1. I clung to and prayed Psalms 119:105 and Phil 4:4-8 a lot.  
To make a long story short, God has done GREAT things in MY heart, in my children AND in my husbands heart. I am a different person today and my husband is a different man today because of Gods faithfulness. We now attend church together and even pray and talk about the Lord! And we see Gods faithfulness extended to our children and grandchildren! It hasn't always been easy, but it is so worth it all!  God is not finished with us yet!  We are learning each day.  We can all benefit from learning to love all those who God puts into our lives.  Put your hope in the Lord, hang in there and one day you will see the reward!
1/7/2010 10:02:06 AM
Kathey United States
Kathey
For Navy Sailor Wife & Mom, as well as many otheres who have same situation of being the only christian parent taking small children to church.  I have been married 21 years & have a 20 year old and a 18 year old, and my husband has only gone to church with me a few times.  He makes lot's of promises but that is where it stops.  It is tough!  But the Lord and the affiliation with other Christians will help you through.  Of my two kids one is planning on going to Master's Commission to be ordained as a minister this fall, and the other is in a Christian University.  It's tough but the rewards in the end help to overshadow the pain!  God bless you and protect you, your husband and your children, and bless what each of you do and the sacrifices you make for your country, and family!
1/7/2010 10:10:21 AM
Donna United States
Donna
A few days ago a friend of mine stated on facebook that she was doing the Love Dare.  I decided yesterday to start it too.  Then this morning I heard on KLOVE that you guys were doing it and were on day 2 as well.  Kinda funny how God brings things together & times them so well.  I think it'll help me keep with it now that I know you guys are doing it too and are on the same day as me.  :o)
1/7/2010 10:21:44 AM
Aida United States
Aida
I sent my hubby an e-mail saying, "Have I told you lately that LA-LA-LA I LOVE YOU!!!"   He responded with "Get to work!  I love you 2222222222!!!!"  Was a sweet, funny e-mail between us during the busy work day!  Thank you for that opportunity!  I work at a high school in the Truancy Office, encouranging students to stay in school.  They hear K-Love on a daily basis and I know they are blessed, just as I am!!Many blessings and thank you for an AWESOME radio station!
1/7/2010 10:23:08 AM
Irene United States
Irene
Lisa & Eric - Thank you, thank you, thank you! This challenge will change so many different lives and marriages. Day 1 was a success for me (surprising enough) as patience does not come by easy. I remained so focused, but most importantly willing to remain positive even in the midst of a negative situation. As a result of that - my husband and I had great conversations, seemed more relaxed around each other and even our children were more receptive to me. Our evening as a family ended smoothly without chaos, hurt feelings or anger. How great is that! Day 2 - on task! I pray that God continue to work through all who are taking this challenge. With his LOVE and GRACE HE will see us through! Thank you God for helping me not only improve my marriage, but improve within myself. Let it be a reminder to all - All things are possible through Christ which strengthens us!
1/7/2010 10:36:19 AM
Jen United States
Jen
Although I listen to Klove constantly, I routinely listen to my favorite CD's in the mornings on my drive to work. However, yesturday morning I did NOT do this. I "just so happened" to hear about the fist day of the Love Dare. I guess this is a message from God to me to do this with my husband. Kinda neat! I'm in!
1/7/2010 10:50:03 AM
Navy Saikor, Mother & Wife United States
Navy Saikor, Mother & Wife
Thank you soooo much for all of your replies!!!!!!!!!!!! You all are awesome!!!!! You've really encouraged me!!!!!
1/7/2010 10:50:49 AM
RonnD United States
RonnD
For those of you who are expecting the Love Dare to work right away, you should also watch the movie Fireproof.  Just because we made a change yesterday and today, doesn't mean we will get results right away.  In the movie it took quite a few days, but at the end of the 40 days are up, we should all have a testimony!  Focus on Christ to keep you on task and remember that if our spouse doesn't do it, it shouldn't matter because our change in our actions will help that person see the differance.  
1/7/2010 11:08:28 AM
Struggling in Love United States
Struggling in Love
Yesterday went great! I thought it would be really hard, but we had a really good day. : )
This morning didn't start out very good. I woke up late, couldn't find my keys and he started lecturing and griping at me. (I'm doing the dare without telling him.) I remembered to hold my tongue though, so it didn't become a big argument. I'm trying to think of what I can do today for him. If any of you have ideas, I'd love to hear them. God bless all of you that are doing the dare. And thank you for the updates. Reading what everybody has to say about the struggles in their own marriage helps me not feel so alone in my own.
1/7/2010 11:25:11 AM
Trina Fitch United States
Trina  Fitch
I'm looking forward to doing this....I have a wonderful husband and this could never hurt.  
1/7/2010 11:49:11 AM
Marilyn United States
Marilyn
Just a suggestion for those of you trying to think of an act of kindness: look for something your spouse normally does that you can do for them. With snow falling in much of the U.S. today, how about shoveling the driveway for your husband!
1/7/2010 12:07:44 PM
Reva United States
Reva
I have been wanting to do this dare since we won the book months ago at a church function. I was hoping my husband would start it off and I could follow along with him. He never started it, so neither did I. Thank you Lisa and Eric for this Challenge.
Day One wasn't hard, surprisingly.
Day Two, I wasn't sure what to do, I figured I'm kind to him all the time (which probably really isn't true) so I couldn't think of what would stand out to him. I prayed about it and immediately God told me to make him breakfast. I know that isn't a major thing, but I HATE getting up in the mornings so I have never made him breakfast. But today I did! He was surprised and it was a great start to the day!
I am praying for a healthier more godly marriage, and I know that God is doing a work in us! Nothing is impossible for God!
1/7/2010 12:22:54 PM
AimeeKS United States
AimeeKS
To melinda777... The hardest part is to do something for your spouse without them recognizing or appriciating it.  And the Love Dare will help teach you to do acts of Kindness without expecting the recognition.  This is very hard for me as well.  To do something for someone without appriciation.
1/7/2010 12:27:14 PM
J.T. Bussell United States
J.T. Bussell
I believe so many times as a husband I expect my wife to do the house work while I am at work. I was laid off from work a few months back and had a chance to see my wife in action and all I can say is WOW!!! I felt like I put so much on her and didn't even realize what I was doing. As I do this love dare I will be commiting myself 110% to putting an effort into improving my marriage. May God bless everyone of you and have so many wonderful things planned for your future.

J.T.
1/7/2010 12:37:57 PM
becca United States
becca
TO: Becky,Sailor mom -wife,Tonica,

Thank you for coming to her rescue!  We all need encouragement and what a wonderful way to feel strengthend than by Godly women. My husband could use this as well, but I know that he won't do this, so I can make a difference! You never know how God will use you to make an impact on your husbands life. Believe me, I have a very difficult marriage, and I thank God for HIS strength.  YES, do it alone, in the movie the husband did it alone and the wife wanted more of what he had! YOU GO GIRL- Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
1/7/2010 12:55:17 PM
Heidi Paulsen United States
Heidi Paulsen
I think that I am completely amazed at how perfect God's timing is. My husband and I aren't in a bad place in our marriage. Things aren't perfect though. I was listening to Klove on my itouch and noticed that the LoveDare was on the blog so I thought I would check it out. I guess I had a preconcieved thought that only people who were really struggling should do this. (maybe I got that thought from the movie ... ) I felt that God was telling me I need to do this for my husband but also for my family. To show my daughter the way parents should act. I want to say I did Day One and I realized so much about myself, just in that one reading. A lot of what my husband and I fight about stems from my anger and when I read that nothing ever gets better from anger it hit me. With patience I can accomplish so much more and in a positive way! I told my husband that I was sorry for our fights and I apologized for my acts and I can see that that's something that God was teaching me. I am committed to doing this. Good luck to everyone and I will be praying for you all as well!
1/7/2010 12:55:41 PM
Jo-Ann United States
Jo-Ann
This one should be easy for us, I love you Kristoffer!
1/7/2010 1:04:18 PM
Diane United States
Diane
I cried so hard during the Fireproof movie because I had just experienced a broken marriage of 23 years that similarly paralleled that movie. I so wish we knew about the Love Dare Challenge then. I've been single for four years now and someday my future mate and I will do the Love Dare together but for now I am going to do the Challenge on my daughter.

My oldest daughter has had such a strong relationship with the Lord and has been involved in several missions opportunities but has recently let the world pull her away. My goal is to send her a short,loving, encouraging text EVERY day until Feb.14. I pray it makes an impact!

p.s. I LOVE K-LOVE!!!! I wake up to you, I go to sleep to you and whenever I can listen... I am listening!!! Thank you for helping me through some of my darkest days and my happiest times!! May God richly bless you all!!
1/7/2010 1:15:29 PM
Casey United States
Casey
my husband and I have started this, we aren't currently living together, this may be our last shot so please pray that this brings us together and brings him home.  
1/7/2010 1:16:12 PM
Melissa United States
Melissa
Thank ya'll SOOO much for posting this! I have been wanting to do this and I appreciate you giving us the opportunity! =)
1/7/2010 1:23:41 PM
Terry United States
Terry
My wife just told me about this today, So we are starting one day behind, I actually took her some lunch today at work because she couldn't get away and was hungry before she even mentioned this to me, I feel like this was a sign. We have only been married a little over a year, This is our second go around. We were married the first time for 8 years. We made a deal not to bring up the past from our previous marriage but it has made its way in. Its causing us problems. We want our marriage to work and I pray and hope this helps....GOD BLESS!!!!
1/7/2010 1:25:27 PM
Melanie United States
Melanie
To: Navy Sailor, Wife and Mom...I read your post and I can relate.  But there have been so many different devotionals that I have come across for married couples and they all come down to serving your spouse.  And I've battled against that for a few years...with similar thoughts as you mentioned in that I keep seeing how my husband should be treating me.

I'm finally starting to get it.  Still having a hard time accepting it, but working on it.  I'm taking The Love Dare with KLOVE and my husband doesn't know.  He has seen the movie Fireproof with me, so he is aware of the Love Dare, but doesn't know I'm trying this.  It may be days before he catches on.  It may be that he never actually catches on.

The point is though, that through this, I hope I learn to love unconditionally.  I'm so glad God doesn't wait for me to do all the right things before he loves me.  I'd be in such a mess!  My husband deserves the same demonstration of love from me.

You can do this!  It is going to be tough, but we'll make it through!
1/7/2010 1:32:04 PM
Rashell United States
Rashell
Several of my girlfriends and I are doing the Love Dare secretly to bless our husbands. I'm going to present the surprise to my husband on Valentines Day! Thank you for this awesome idea.God Bless KLove in 2010!
1/7/2010 1:47:46 PM
cheryl anne holt United States
cheryl anne holt
thank you. i am applying day one and day two to my everyday relationships with people. Its been an awesome two days. Thanks, thanks....thanks...oh, its great with the hubby too.. Smilegod bless you and this station. you have saved me many times, in more ways than you would ever, ever know. cherylanne round rock texas.
1/7/2010 1:56:24 PM
Susie United States
Susie
I started this dare yesterday and I think I started off very well. I think back and can't recall saying anything negative and being patient. Right before bed I got upset, but then shook it off and apologized. I haven't told my husband that I am doing the Love Dare but will tell him today. I pray he participated with me but if not, it's ok. I will be strong and continue this challenge! We've only been married for 2 months...today....but marriage is always a challenge every day. Especially since I instantly became a mom to 3 kids!! Although I am extremely busy with working full time and going to school full time, I am going to find time every day to do these dares and see how much stronger my marriage can be!
1/7/2010 2:53:56 PM
Rinette Canada
Rinette
Yesterday was hard - but today was harder - for no other reason but that even though I have been doing better at being positive, but I find that my actions are still cause my hubby frustration. It's not that I intentionally do anything to frustrate him, I just seem to have that knack! I will not give up after 2 days! I will not! Maybe the rest of the evening will be better ... please Lord!
1/7/2010 3:00:21 PM
Veronica United States
Veronica
I have decided to do the LOVE DARE and apply it to all the people in my LIFE.  My main focus, of course, is my man, but i figuared why not  apply it to all my loved ones as well? Im really excited you guys are doing this, and Im completely on border with this.
1/7/2010 3:02:15 PM
Veronica United States
Veronica
ohhhhhhhhhh and I decided to give my man a nice foot rub or back rub tonight and tell him how much I love him and appreciate all he does!
1/7/2010 3:34:31 PM
Laurie United States
Laurie
I am a teacher who is giving my students the challenge each day (without them knowing what it is). I write the challenge up on the white board, and then have the students write their name under the challenge after they have completed it. The goal is for each student to have his or her name on the board as many times as possible by Valentine's day. I can already see that there won't be nearly enough room for all 180 students to document thier love for one another.
1/7/2010 3:41:27 PM
Mara United States
Mara
This one is easy. I actually stayed home from work today because the roads were to bad to drive. I made my husband the dinner he wanted that he hasn't had in a while because I have been dieting. I think he enjoyed that. For my husband I think this was harder. Which is where yesterdays dare came in even harder for me. I have to learn not to want to change my husband but to love him for who he is in all his faults because he loves me that way.
1/7/2010 4:19:57 PM
Doris United States
Doris
I started the love dare the Christmas after the movie come out.  I remember buying a new coat for my husband with my Christmas money.  Everyday I prayed for what to do or maybe God just spoke to me.  Either way I came to a day where I knew what I should do but just could not get myself to do it.  Until then I guess you could say it was working.  My husband was very happy with me but he couldn't figure out what had changed.  Since then I have gotten myself to do what I didn't want to do (it was dye my hair in case you are wondering)  I am starting again from the beginning.
1/7/2010 5:09:10 PM
joe york United States
joe york
the movie fire proof demonstrates the love dare as we are feeling for results hang in there and God bless
1/7/2010 5:09:52 PM
LINDA United States
LINDA
Wow!!  My husband watched the movie Fireproof and just loved it!!  I told him that we were going to take the Love Dare challenge together and he said, "OK"  Well, today is already day 2 and we have not gotten started due to our work schedule. I just printed out both day 1 and day 2 and we are going to start tomorrow!!  We have been together for 5 years and married 3 of those years. This is my 3rd marriage and he has never been married.  It has really been an up hill battle because we both are set in our ways, but I love every minute of it!!!  We truly love each other unconditionaly and this will just make our marriage stronger.  May God be with each and every one of us for these 40 days and after!!  I really love you guys...K Love and all of my brothers and sisters that are going through with this challenge with my husband and I.  Today, people just give up on their marriage and Eric said it best this morning...."A marriage is WORK, and not easy".
1/7/2010 5:10:05 PM
Amy United States
Amy
Thank you for these comments. My husband and I also have a long road to go down. For the last few years my husband has been emotionally and verbally abusive. He lied and manipulated me from the beginning and for most of the time we've been married,  he's been chatting with women on line. In the last few months, I've had an affair. We are in counseling. It's been a hard few weeks because now everything he has done is trumped by my recent actions. As of January 1, we are trying to start over. I asked him to do this Love Dare with me when it first came out. He was not willing to, now he is. So, here we go. We (I) are a day behind, but we will see how it goes. I am done with this relationship. My flesh in unwilling, I guess you would say. So, we will see how this goes.

God bless and thank you for doing this.
1/7/2010 5:12:42 PM
Holly from Ohio United States
Holly from Ohio
I am a single mom and well over 10 years ago I sinned and ended up with a child out of wedlock.  Anyways, I don't have a husband, but I have a family that helps me out.  My mom, my grandma, my step-dad and my son.  I thought about at first doing the love dare with my son, but after thinking about it I decided i would do it as much as I can with my whole family, mainly with my son though.  I thought I would tell you about my second day.  Today we were supposed to do as unexpected gesture, so I thought about it all day and after I went to pick up my son I told him that we were having snacky dinner tonight.  So, instead of the good meals I normally cook we had snack food for the night.  My son enjoyed every moment of it.  I think this is really bringing us closer as mother and son.  Thank you so much for this Love Dare challenge it is so good for even just a parent and child relationship.
1/7/2010 5:41:36 PM
Omar United States
Omar
I started this yetserday without my wife. I'm a pretty patient person so yesterday was easy. The kindness thing is a lilttle much for me but i got up and went and paid all the bills and did the shopping for the week. I think that was pretty kind. I pray that my wife sees what is happening to me and joins in. Thank you Lord in advance for whats to come.
1/7/2010 6:07:12 PM
Anita United States
Anita
Thanks for doing this. Not everyone can run out and buy the book. It's encouraging to see the guys that are trying it. I commend you all!
1/7/2010 7:04:49 PM
Letticia United States
Letticia
My husband and i tried this a few months ago, and i could not complete it, after day 2.  this gave my husband no stamina to continue so he stopped too.  We have been having real strains in our marriage lately, and at times i feel like giving up, but i love him and i dont want to seperate our family and home!  I have not listened to Klove in years unfortunately to say, and yesterday morning on my way to work i put on klove and the first thing being talked about was the love dare!  i thought wow, what a sign from god to do this.  It has to be because why on day one on this day did i decide to listen.  i know god has good plans for my marriage and i am going to try to do this.  I wont say it was easy, yesterday i stuggled big time to get though the day, but today was a breeze and i feel happy, in love, and at peace!! please pray for me to be able to keep up with the dare, and help my marriage.  i am doing this without my husbands knowledge to see if i see a change in him becaus of me not because he feels obligated!! thanks so much for this.
1/7/2010 7:17:15 PM
Cassie United States
Cassie
My husband & I have been through the ringer over the last year.  I was working on The Power of a Praying Wife because I thought it would help me approach the Love Dare with the right heart & frame of mind.  I picked up The Love Dare last week & like many, got stuck on Day 1.  I have moved on from day 1 & today, instead of "nagging" (reminding) my husband to do something he has neglected to do for a week, I just quietly did it for him.  I don't know if that qualifies entirely, but I know it is a start.
Congrats to all of you embarking on this journey - you are in my prayers.  I know God will bless you!
1/7/2010 8:01:45 PM
Tara Coombs United States
Tara Coombs
I bought the Love Dare book about ayear ago after i saw the movie. I was so inspired, but i can relate with some of the posts saying how hard it is when you are doing it but your husband wont. I quit half way through last time because i got angry that we bought the book to do together but i was the only one doing it. Embarrassing as that is but i really was angry about it. It was very frustrating. I have decided to do it again with everyone through KLOVE for my husband and this time i am going to push through and finish it. I know God will give me the strength to finish even when it gets difficult. Thanks for the inspiration KLOVE, you guys are with me every morning, you make me laugh cry rejoice. Lisa your laugh is so wonderful to hear every morning. Thanks so much!
1/7/2010 8:04:06 PM
Juanita United States
Juanita
Yesterday I didn't really have any results because I didn't see or talk to my husband much.I was expecting to see some change by the end of the 40days but I did not expect to see any results this soon.today I sent my husband an text message telling him I loved him.I had never done that before.He told me he loved me back but what had I done wrong to say I love you without being prompted to.I told him I was trying to start the new year off on the right foot and asked him why I had to do something wrong in order to say I love you.So I was really surprised on how quickly I had gotten results.But unfortunately it did not last.When I got home from work once again he was belittling me for buying the wrong mop.But through Gods help and strenght I held my tongue and did not say a mean word.I was also surprised today because a financial matter occurred and usually I yell and scream at my husband when that happens and this time instead I kept my tongue and peace and it turned out ok.
1/7/2010 8:08:13 PM
robin United States
robin
thank you so much for doing this. My husband came home today and told me he was doing this and i couldnt wait to join him to deicover our passion for each other again.  we have been through a really hard time in our marriage and my husband has shown gods kindness to me when i completely didnt deserve it.  I failed him and to have him want to take this marriage and make it pure and holy agian makes my heart feel so blessed but at the same time i struggle to accept his true love but i know in time Jesus will let me know he is still kings of king.  
1/7/2010 8:16:53 PM
Auda De Leon United States
Auda De Leon
Hi everyone,
I am here to give some encouragement to those people that are doing this without their partners.  I watched the movie fireproof today, and I bawled like a baby. If you are doing this for your wife or husband without them knowing it, that is a very good movie to watch.  As most of you know Fireproof is where the Love Dare originated.  From it I learned that even though our partners can't or won't, do it with you, there is hope.  They will start noticing a difference in you, and be curious about it. Which in turn can lead to a discussion and maybe them even joining you at some point.  From the movie I also learned that love is not about a reward you get by the other person seeing how amazing you are, but it is about the reward in knowing that you did something that will make the other persons life easier.  The third thing I learned is that in the process of doing the love dare, you start to notice a change in yourself and you start to realize that what you are doing is following Christ in his footsteps.  Even though many of us have been ungrateful, and rejected Jesus he still gives us unconditional love without expecting anything in return.   So even if the love dare is not changing your partner, or even being noticed by your partner, through the love dare you will get closer to God just by practicing love.  So no matter what you are going through don't be discouraged because Jesus loves you and is your #1 fan and even when things seem horrible he will lift you up if you love and seek him.
1/7/2010 8:41:32 PM
Kelly Fuller United States
Kelly Fuller
My boyfriend and I took this challenge together.  Yesterday, right after my boyfriend and I read the 1st dare, my brother was upset about a fight he got into with our mom.  We talked about it for a while till he started yelling and getting really mad.  I was so close to just screaming and telling him he is an idiot, but then it hit me.  God wants up to be loving and patient in all our relationships.  So I calmly waited till he was done and then peacefully talked it over.  The next day, he came up to me and said thank you for being patient and told me he loved me, something I haven't heard in a really long time.  Thank you for giving me this opportunity to better all my relationships in Christ.        
1/7/2010 8:53:40 PM
Eric -AND- Michelle United States
Eric -AND- Michelle
I think its great that KLove is doing this.  I see it benefitting many people's lives.  It brings out communication which is important in ALL relationships.  Kindness is such an important thing to display but so hard to do all of the time.   -E

Much like yesterday, Eric is the kind one and not me.  I am kind in actions or gestures or cards, etc. but not always in my words.  I feel the need to stop him when he is not doing something the way I've always done it..which I know is controlling.  Instead of being helpful is is just being a perfectionistic know it all.  I know kindness is a fruit of the spirit that I want more of, but I feel I am always battling a critical spirit instilled in me at an early age by my mother.  Holy Spirit, I ask that you convict me when I am about to say something hurtful or unkind.  Let me begin to talk to Eric in the same manner I would talk to Christ. m
1/7/2010 9:04:30 PM
Molly United States
Molly
I read the comment from the teacher who is doing this with her students and as a college student who is studyng to be a teacher I find that to be very admirable and I hope that one day I can incorporate christian values into my classroom as well. But for now I am doing the love dare for my long distance boyfriend. We have struggled in the past but hopefully with God's grace we can withstand the hard times and use the love dare challenge as a crutch to help us along the way. I can not wait to see the great things that are sure to come from this! may God be with you all every challenge of each new day!
1/7/2010 9:23:59 PM
april United States
april
I know the love dare is mostly for couples but I have decided to do it with my 13 year old step son. He and I struggle constantly and I have not been the best mother to him that I could be. I am praying that this will srengthen us. I am doing love dare with my husband too, I know that this will translate into my whole life and change ME and teach me to love people in general. I am a new pastors wife and loving people is a job requirement! This is a huge huge struggle for me, so this love dare chllenge is really good.
1/7/2010 9:36:04 PM
Melissa United States
Melissa
I am so excited to be doing the Love Dare, some girlfriends and I are doing the dare together.  It is fun because our husbands don't know that we are doing it.  It is great to have someone doing it with you to hold you accountable and help you along the way.  We are having so much fun with it.  We do have to keep our husbands away from our phones so they can't read our text messages about what we plan to do for the day.  Smile  Thanks so much!!!
1/8/2010 1:17:50 AM
Krisztina Hungary
Krisztina
Yesterday's dare was on my mind the whole day. I am not sure I succeeded 100% but at least I tried.
Today's dare asks us to take initiative- wonderful. Being proactive is what moves the world!
The part posted today was profound and gently helpful. It's amazing how words can heal...
1/8/2010 1:41:56 AM
Yolanda United States
Yolanda
It is amazing the response I am getting in just one day! Little things, but encouraging me to keep on daring myself to Love as God loves me.Working with my 4 year old as well!
1/8/2010 4:51:17 AM
Ashley United States
Ashley
Life changing!  My husband, daughter and I are doing this together...easy...fun...relationship strengthening!
1/8/2010 5:39:08 AM
Larry Leyva United States
Larry Leyva
Day 2 brought the reminder to be a servant without complaining or without thinking of myself first.  My wife is more positive and looks better, no matter how much pain, when I don't complain about doing things for her.  I love her attitude.
1/8/2010 7:10:33 AM
Shay United States
Shay
Well, without knowing about this, I did day one while I was sick.  For day 2, I cleared the snow from my husband's car.  He went to work & then got sick.  After working 10 hrs., he got to his car & did have a tiny bit more to clean off, since the snow kept falling.
1/8/2010 8:35:36 AM
Kathy H United States
Kathy H
I use to listen to Family Life Radio.  And I still listen frequently, but almost entirely to KLove now.  I'm not sure why I changed, since they both play the same awesome music.  The challenge is such a great idea since we all get caught up in the daily stresses of life and can forget our true reason for being on this earth--for others needs besides our own.  I was raised Catholic, and never knew what a real relationship with Jesus was all about until I was about 30 years old.  I don't know how I got through all those years without this awesome friendship with God.  I was married for 42 years to someone I thought I would be with forever....that was very hurtfully ended but 3 years later, I have met the best man on this earth and am now engaged.  I have never felt such love and joy for someone and I know he feels the same for me.  We are taking the challenge even though we are not married yet.  This is so meaningful to both of us.  Thankyou KLove for the very inspirational music and great Christian humor.  This is so needed in this world today.  Kathy
1/8/2010 6:42:13 PM
Amy United States
Amy
Thank you for these comments. My husband and I also have a long road to go down. For the last few years my husband has been emotionally and verbally abusive. He lied and manipulated me from the beginning and for most of the time we've been married,  he's been chatting with women on line. In the last few months, I've had an affair. We are in counseling. It's been a hard few weeks because now everything he has done is trumped by my recent actions. As of January 1, we are trying to start over. I asked him to do this Love Dare with me when it first came out. He was not willing to, now he is. So, here we go. We (I) are a day behind, but we will see how it goes. I am done with this relationship. My flesh in unwilling, I guess you would say. So, we will see how this goes.

God bless and thank you for doing this.
1/13/2010 6:55:35 AM
Carol United States
Carol
Carol,   I have read many of these responses and I wanted to say that I will pray for all of us. It is nice to be in a bible study, so to speak, with all of you. I am excited as to what God will do in all of our lives! I know He is up to something and it's gonna be big!
1/17/2010 8:10:25 AM
Jonique United States
Jonique
For this I made my husband a pitch of iced tea for him to have when he came home from work. He was very thankful, which made our time together that much better since it started with happiness on both sides.
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Dean United States
Dean
I too am doing day two, but I love my girlfriend. She "felt a spark" for someone from her past, and I have 3 weeks to get her to try to think about the damage she'll do if she meets him as they plan to.

She's stubborn and self centered, but I'm hoping her heart is true as it's been, because for the life of me after we just talked about getting married and getting a house, how she could be doing this now.

I'm hurt, I'm confused, and I want to fight for our relationship but I can't fight when she's being distracted. What can I do?

Lisa's been my angel ever since I met her and I know she loves me I think she's afraid to trust it...

so How to show a woman 5 hours away I am doing something for her, I don't know what I CAN do but I'll do whatever I can.

How does one GET kindness back from someone who is blind as to how they treat the love they claim to posess....


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Mercedes United States
Mercedes
I just started this love dare yesterday was the hardest in the world especially since I didn't see my husband we are not living together and I'm staying with my mom with our 1 year old son. We have been married 7 months and already he has asked for divorce 2 times in the last 30 days I'm Hurt and heartbroken I pray god has mercy on us both for what we have done with one anotner
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