Jul 15 2010

Matchmaker!

Was your mom the matchmaker that helped you find "the one"?  Was it a website?  Was it a website your mom created?  Whether you like to play matchmaker or you are single and have matchmakers in your life, what's your "matchmaker" story?

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7/15/2010 5:13:01 AM
Kelli United States
Kelli
I was tired of the dating scene. I decided the next person I would date would have to be Jesus because I was tired of the dating drama. A coworker asked if I would be interested in going on a blind date. I thought sure, why not. I went on the blind date and shortly discovered this awesome guy was Jesus in his church's Easter play. God has a sense of humor. We met in April, engaged in June and married in October of the same year. We have been married for 11 years this October. God is good all the time. I would have never expected God would answer my dating dilemmas through a blind date.
7/15/2010 5:37:58 AM
Carrie Woelfle United States
Carrie Woelfle
I have a matchmaker story!

My best friend told me about this guy, named Timmy, that would be a perfect fit for me.  He was her brother's (Trevor) best friend.  I didn't think anything of him since he lived in Colorado and I lived in Washington state.  A few months passed and while shopping with her mom (for her daughter's bridal shower) and talking about my nonexistent dating life, she mentioned the perfect guy for me:  Timmy in Colorado.  Since he was her son's best friend growing up, she knew him since he was a kid.  My interest was a little perked since she was the second person to mention it.
While at my best friend's wedding, I got to talking to Trevor's fiance about dating and what I'm looking for in a man...she stopped me mid-sentence and said, "I have the perfect man for you.  Trevor's best friend, Timmy!"  She called Trevor over and asked, "Who do you think would be a perfect fit for Carrie?"  Without skipping a beat, Trevor said, "Timmy!"
So there you have it.  A year later he proposed, after 10 months of wedding planning, we married and just celebrated our 2nd anniversary last May!  I know God is the ultimate matchmaker, but he used 4 different matchmakers, who knew both Tim and I so well, to lead us into a wonderful marriage!  Smile
7/15/2010 6:13:27 AM
sharon ann United States
sharon ann
As a single 59 year old I have to laugh...I have a couple of kids who are very busy trying to find someone for me.  Thus I am not looking for my single kids. ;)
7/15/2010 6:45:19 AM
Jessica United States
Jessica
LOL!! I had to sign up and go on just to make sure my mom wasn't trying to "fix" me up!! I am 31 and single but know what I want! And until I can find someone who is head over heels in love with Jesus and love praise and worship and will be my partner then I am good with being single! But the site was a hoot to look through - I do think I would have to have a serious talk with my mom if she tried to marry me off! God Bless Laughing
7/15/2010 6:54:00 AM
Kathy United States
Kathy
I just had a comment about a discussion you were just having on the radio about "decoding" what women say. This cliche makes me crazy, Ladies - say what you mean! I do! I can't stand being lumped in some mindless gender that supposedly goes around speaking in some stupid code. If I ask my husband if he wants ice cream it's because I'm getting some myself and am being considerate and seeing if he wants some as well. I can't imagine asking him if he wants ice cream because thru some sort of twisted code I'm actually saying I want some. If you want something just go and get it, go and do it, don't manipulate and talk in some sort of ridiculous code! gaaaaaah! My husband and I just endured the "Love and Respect" small group study and it made us crazy! It also perpetuated this "women speak in code and it's a man's job to understand it" nonsense. Stop the insanity now!  I alway quote Horton the elephant "I meant what I said and I said what I meant, and elephant faithful 100%" in other words, be clear in what you're communicating women! And I say this AS a  woman, I'm begging any of you out there that perpetuate this stereotype to JUST STOP IT!
Kathy L.
7/15/2010 7:13:02 AM
Tina United States
Tina
I'm single, never married, soon to be 40. I've spent the last 10 years growing in the Lord so dating has been off my priority list. My mom is the anti-matchmaker. She is so supportive of me trusting God to send someone into my life. I don't want to make the mistake of settling for someone just so I can be married. Since last fall, the Lord has started opening doors but just enough to get a peek of what's possible. It hasn't been easy when those doors end up slamming shut in my face, but I will love Him & trust Him no matter what comes. I believe it's credited to Maya Angelou for saying that a woman should be so far into God that a man has to go thru Him to get to her. His timing is always perfect!
7/15/2010 7:13:52 AM
Dennis United States
Dennis
When I took a job as a school administrator where my (now) mother-in-law works as a teacher, she had designs to match me with her daughter from day one.  After asking me the two most important questions-- "Are you single?" and "Do you love Jesus?"-- she promptely set me up with Rochelle, who became my wife less than a year later!  We just celebrated our two year anniversary in June.
7/15/2010 7:14:01 AM
Tina United States
Tina
15 years ago a man named Billy got together with me to talk to me about going out with his friend, who was very shy. Unfortunately, he never really got the chance to match me with his friend.  He says that he fell in love with me the first time I read one of my poems to him. He told me about his matchmaking assignment only a couple of years later. We have been married now for 10 years!  I guess the 'matchmaker' matched himself!!  Turns out that God is the true Matchmaker!!
7/15/2010 7:18:31 AM
Anna United States
Anna
A year ago my dad started telling me about a guy in his Bible Study that I just had to meet. Finally, I told him that he could set us up if he wanted to. In May he e-mailed the guy and asked him to ask me out on a date. We've been dating since the beginning of June, and so far it's been really good.
7/15/2010 7:18:41 AM
Teresa Barton United States
Teresa Barton
I had just graduated high school and went to lunch with my mom one day.  She was meeting another classmate for lunch so I got to go along.  My moms classmate (Pat) was telling my mom what her plans for the following weekend were, which happened to be going camping with her grandson.  My mother then proceeded to invite me along.  Pat invited me along so I agreed.  Then they started talking about their kids and Pat mentioned that she had a single son.  She invited him along as well.  A camping blind date is probably the best time to meet someone because they see you at your worst, you know first thing in the morning before you have had a chance to run a brush through your hair.  Anyway, we met 14 years ago, got engaged 3 months later and have been married for the last 12 years.  It was a good blind date.
7/15/2010 7:18:53 AM
Christen Diehl United States
Christen Diehl
My dad was a small-town Colorado farm boy and my mom was a beautiful brunette living outside of Hollywood.  One of my dad's close friends in CO was named Esther.  Esther moved to CA to go to college, and ended up being my mom's roommate.  For some reason, Esther thought mom and dad would be perfect together.  She wrote to my dad, telling him about this beautiful California girl that he just had to meet!  My dad, being from Colorado, had his pre-conceived ideas about California people, but he agreed to meet mom anyway.  The arrangement was made and soon enough, mom flew with Esther to Colorado for a vacation, and Esther introduced mom and dad.  My dad's first words to my mom were "I thought you were going to be a blonde!"  Nevertheless, it was love at first sight.  Mom and dad were engaged 6 months later and were married shortly after in Germany while dad was serving in the Korean war.  The most fun part of the story?  My sister married Esther's son.  So, my mom and dad now get to share three grandchildren with their close friend who started it all.  And what's even better?  Mom and Dad just celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary on the 2nd of this month.  Thank you, Esther!
7/15/2010 7:21:22 AM
Whitney United States
Whitney
Stephen and I met back in high school when we attended some of the same church camps but didn't know each other very well.  A number of years later, while he was in college and working at Costco, my mom went through his checkout line and he must have recognized her as my mom because he told her to tell me "hi".  My mom called me that night and was really excited to tell me that the "good-looking guy at Costco" knew who I was.  From that point on, when I was home from school on weekends, my mom would drag me to Costco and always make a point to go through Stephen's line.  What I didn't know is that everytime she ran into him and I wasn't with her, she would tell him that he needed to call me and ask me out.

I guess he got sick of her comments because he added me as a friend on facebook and eventually asked me out.  We've been dating for 3.5 years and are getting married next weekend. God works in the most unexpected of ways...
7/15/2010 7:32:03 AM
Mary Oakley United States
Mary Oakley
My husband and I were "set up" on a blind date by mutual friends of ours.  This was before the internet was in everyones pocket so there was no website invoved.  We met at their house and played Trivia Pursuit, two weeks later we went on a double date with the same friends to see "Top Gun" and on August 1st we will celebrate our 23rd anniversary.
7/15/2010 7:33:02 AM
Neha Singh United Kingdom
Neha Singh
Are the profiles mentioned on the website of Christian kids?
7/15/2010 7:33:26 AM
Adam Sullivan United States
Adam Sullivan
The importance of getting a parent's blessing on your marriage/engagement has been downplayed in our time. Don't overlook this important step.  You may not like what your parents have to say, but be bold and ask anyway.  You may be surprised.  Keep in mind that they can usually see what you can't.  Honor your parents, ask for their blessing.  
7/15/2010 7:33:58 AM
Theresa United States
Theresa
I met my friend through Army Officer Training 4 years ago in Oklahoma.  We both later got stationed in Korea but at different posts.  I met her now fiance through a high school friend whom I was stationed in the same unit at Korea.  So we were all stationed in Korea but at different posts.  Well, my friend left for Iraq and her now fiance moved to Ft Hood with my husband and I.  Him and my husband became really great friends and we just wanted to get him and my friend together.  She came back from Iraq in November of 2008, so she came through Ft. Hood to visit.  We all hung out together hoping something would spark.  He left for Iraq in December of 2008 and they kept in contact as friends.  He came back from Iraq in December of 2009 and she was coming through Texas to visit before she left for Afghanistan.  We spent a week together and her now husband was heading to California to visit his family since coming back from his deployment.  She was also heading to California and asked for a ride.  We were praying that this drive to California would be pivotal in their relationship...and it was! She is now in Afghanistan planning her wedding for March 2011.
7/15/2010 7:35:26 AM
SUSAN DEFAZIO United States
SUSAN DEFAZIO
DOES IT COUNT IF MY HUSBAND'S MOM TOOK ME TO A BRIDAL SHOP TO GET A DRESS BEFORE MY HUSBAND AND I HAD EVEN DISCUSSED GETTING MARRIED?  SO I ASKED MY HUSBAND TO PROPOSE BEFORE I PAID FOR THE DRESS.
7/15/2010 7:41:30 AM
Lyndsie United States
Lyndsie
About two and a half years ago my friend at the time asked me if I would go on a date with her boyfriend at the time.  I was caught off guard by her request, but she explained that while she liked Joshua, she just didn't love him and he didn't quite get the hint.  She just didn't want to hurt his feelings so she asked me to ask him out to draw his attention off her.  I didn't really want to go on a date with this guy, especially after only briefly meeting him once before, but agreed to it because she was my friend.  I called the guy up and we arranged to go out on a date.  After the first date we just clicked.  My friend never thought we'd actually hit it off.  A year later he proposed to me on Christmas day in front of my family and we're due to get married April 19, 2011.  I love Joshie and I couldn't be happier.
7/15/2010 7:44:16 AM
Kathy H. United States
Kathy H.
The eye doctor was set up on a blind date! That's the running joke in our house.  My husband and I were that couple.  

He was just finishing optometry school and I was teaching at a middle school.  A mutual friend mentioned him to me, but at first I was not interested.  We were both in our late 20's, and I had just broken up with a boyfriend.  I thought I was going to be that girl that was always the bridesmaid but never the bride.  At 27 I thought I was going to be a bachelorette for life.  Plus my husband had just gone through a divorce so he wasn't sure he wanted to be set up either.  I told our mutual friend I would think about it but that I wasn't really interested.  

Well she didn't give up so easily.  Flash forward 2 months and our friend tried again.  This time I told her to give him my number.  He called and we talked for over an hour.  We went out on our first date, but I have to admit, it wasn't very successful.  He was still so shy about dating so recently after his divorce, and I felt he really wasn't my type. I kept telling my other friends that there had to be a catch because he was way too nice of a guy for me.  They kept telling me to give it another try, so I prayed about it.  

Several more weeks passed and  our mutual friend still wouldn't give up!  She set us up on our second date which was a group date to the comedy club.  Something clicked that evening and sparks flew between us.  (Thanks to our persistent friend!)  We were married 2 years later and we've now been married for 13 years.   We joke that had we met earlier in life it would have never worked.  God certainly has a plan for each of us even if we can always clearly see it at the time.
7/15/2010 7:46:40 AM
Kim Provencher United States
Kim Provencher
When I was single, friends of mine tried to set me up with a friend of theirs.  They raved about what a great guy he was, good looking, athletic, and a firefighter.  Unfortunately his nick name was Tubber.  I wasn't sure I wanted to date some one with that nickname.  So, I kept putting them off.  They finally wore me down after 3 months of nagging.  I agreed to meet them and Tubber at a local pizza place.  My 2 friends and I arrived first.  A few minutes later, this handsome, VERY physically fit man walks in.  It was Tubber!  It turns out he was a fat baby and the nickname Tubber stuck with him into adulthood.  Well, Tubber and I hit it off right away and eventually married, with the 2 friends who introduced us as our maid of honor and best man.  The big joke is that we would have been married 3 months sooner if his nickname wasn't Tubber!!  We have now been married for 11 years and continue to keep in touch with our matchmakers!
7/15/2010 7:47:17 AM
Chris Noel United States
Chris Noel
My Mom and mother in law knew each other and saw each other in the grocery store one day. Talk of children came up and mom in law told my mom that her daughter had just moved back to town after college to work at the same hospital that I was working at. My mom told me this after work, I met my wife shortly there after and we were married in November 1986 and still are with two beautiful daughters and one handsome grandson.
7/15/2010 7:47:54 AM
Beth United States
Beth
Unless you are clearly directed by God to be matching people together, i think you should  be minding your own business.  Mother or not.  God has plans for each one of us and if He wants someone in our lives He will put that person there!  If we get in His way we usually end up regreting it!!  He is to be the Lord of all of our life, our everything!!  I am a single person, who is divorced and came to Christ after my divorce, that was 14 years ago.  I will not get in to any relationship unless i know for sure it is from God!!  He meets ALL of our needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus!  Beth
7/15/2010 7:55:36 AM
Emi Yates United States
Emi Yates
I met my husband through a couple that matched us up. My co-worker and pretty much a big sister to me wanted to fix me up with this guy that her husband worked with. This was when my husband was stationed at a Navy base close to where I lived in Japan.
So, they gave him my number and one night he called me. Our cellphones losing signal and having to call back each other several times, we talked for a couple hours and decided to meet up that night. On the way to meet him my co-worker metioned that he was younger than I was. At the time I thought that it would end with that one meeting. But I fell in love. A year and a half later he brought me back to the States where we were wed and we've been married 5 years this December.
The funny thing about this couple is they matched up a couple other of our friends as well and they too are married now. This proves that some match makers just have that 6th sense or something, I think. I am so thankful that I was matched up with my husband. And God, thank you for that couple that brought us together.
7/15/2010 7:58:44 AM
Kathryn C. United States
Kathryn C.
As a mother of four children ranging in age from 30 down to 21 with the oldest and youngest being single, I can't imagine conducting an active search or advertising to try to find mates for my unmarried children. That would be meddling at best or trying to play God at worst. God has wonderful plans for my kids' lives; He sees the overall picture that I cannot see in my limited, finite understanding. He's got the right person in mind for each one, and He will be the one to arrange the circumstances for them to meet in His timing. The women advertising their kids on that website need to step back, put their trust in God's faithfulness and timing, and let Him have His way in their kids' lives.
7/15/2010 8:01:24 AM
Kelsy United States
Kelsy
is that wrong or right i ahd a rough experience with it were the person trying to get me with the guy was basically comtrolling the relationship...
Sad but It is well.
7/15/2010 8:07:31 AM
Kelly United States
Kelly
I just wanted to say. I saw that story also. I believe the guy in question was the one who helped his mother set up the web site in the first place. Also every parent must get the childs approval before putting their child on that site. He also has the right to say no to whomever she chooses. So in the end he has the final say. So with all this knowledge I think what she is doing is good and ok because he has some control and has had this control since the beginning.
7/15/2010 9:27:06 AM
Robynne Wilgus United States
Robynne Wilgus
Grandma! My parents and I had come to Oregon from South Carolina to visit my Grandma. Well...Grandma said I had to meet her pastor's brother. I did and decided to stay in Oregon. Three weeks later we were engaged and 4 1/2 months later married. That was over 28 years ago.
7/15/2010 10:40:37 AM
Sandra United States
Sandra
I met my husband in church through a friend that never stopped trying with me. I had been going to church for 13 years and the whole time never dated a single person because I fell in love with Jesus. As my friend kept on teasing/prompting me to notice (my now husband)  I did as he started getting in every ministry I was in. Working with him I was able to get to know him and realized that he was everything I had waited and prayed for! God is an awesome God and truly will give you your hearts desire as you wait on what His promises are!! Smile
7/15/2010 3:10:32 PM
Andy Cheng United States
Andy Cheng
Me and my brother were active in CB (Citizen Band) radio club growing up in Indonesia, and got to know a girl online and her Phone number, so my brother called, but dialed a wrong number.A female sexy voice picked up the phone and started a conversation. After a few minutes she told my brother that she was old enough to be his mom, and handed over the phone to her daughter.We ended up became good friends since. A few years passed and I moved to America, attending Chaminade University of Honolulu. One day,somehow I got a news that she was in California, so I started calling her and chatted, and Linda (her name) became my match maker, and we'll be celebrating our 25th anniversary next years. God always works misteriously. God Bless
7/15/2010 11:12:47 PM
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7/16/2010 6:16:58 AM
Amy Nash United States
Amy Nash
I had signed my dog up for puppy obedience class and before starting I kept telling everyone "I'm going to meet my husband here" Sadly enough, no single guys ;) However, I did become friends with a girl there and one night her husband's friend came over to their. She text me, asking if I were dating anyone, I told her no and we met the next week, began dating the next month and will be getting married September 18! All of this has happened since December!
7/17/2010 1:00:31 PM
Paula Cox United States
Paula Cox
My grandmother met the newest employee at my uncle's store (Burt)  She liked Burt and said, you need to meet my daughter, Betty. (who was divorced with a 9 year old...pretty worldly back then) 6 Weeks later they were married.  (Back in the 50's, when engagements were much shorter.)  They were married for 32 years, until my mom passed away.
7/19/2010 9:45:41 AM
Mike United States
Mike
I was seeing the end of a 4 yr + relationship that was destroyed because my fiancee' and I let sin in.  For over a year after that I would pray everyday that God would restore what we'd lost.  Between working and going to college full time, home work, and coming home to what I felt was nothing... I realized that I was praying for what I wanted in relationships and not what God wanted.  Well....   I prayed for God's will and the next day while talking to a friend in a christian chat room on AOL, was told about a girl she knew who was praying for exactly the same thing and nearly the same circumstances. It felt as if God gave me a kick in the pants and told me,' What took you so long?'.  That girl is now my wife and we've been married for 6 1/2 years.  She is a reminder to me of the power of prayer and that God is a God of second chances(and thirds, fourths, fifths, etc and so forth).
7/20/2010 7:57:46 AM
brenda United States
brenda
I had pretty much given up on ever getting married. at 46 I thought maybe God wanted me to stay single.  But he had other plans A friend talked me into meeting Steve to help with my adopted son.  I had adopted two special boys and I had thought I was trusting God to provide a husband for me and father for them.  But as they got older 20 and 19 I assumed I no longer was going to get that.  Then my youngest had a lot of problems, bipolar, walk away from faith, police, etc.  That is when God provided Steve for all of us.  First the Godly husband I so wanted and had waited for.  Second the father my sons craved.  Life has changed as my son was in need of Steve's guidance and example and tough love.  My son has recently given his life back to Christ and just finished a Chryslis weekend where he did the prodical talk and helped other young men come to Christ.  What a blessing God provided all of us through a servent heart of our friend who introduced us.  Our friend is now fighting cancer and can use all of our prayers.  One last thought  God guides us  The word Guidance - G- God, U-you, and I, DANCE  truely is an insight into the word guidance because until I trust God to guide me in the life dance I will be tripping and struggling as it is only when you give up control to God as your dance partner that the dance flows and in beautiful.
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