How to you handle crushing disappointment?
Last night in the Olympics, the women's gymnastics competition brought that to light so well. Jordyn Wieber, the reigning World Champion missed out on a chance to compete for the All Around Gold Medal. How would you encourage her?
Jordyn Wieber: Dreams of Individual Gold Deflate After a Lifetime of Focus. abc NEWS
"It's very sad," said Roni Cohen-Sandler, a clinical psychologist from Weston, Conn., who specializes in adolescent stress.
"I do worry about kids -- and they are kids at 17 -- who feel as if winning a gold medal will completely change their life and make or break them as people," she said. "That's very dangerous."
"Hopefully, their coaches and parents are supportive and not focused only on their successes and failures," she said.
When parents live vicariously through their athlete children, losing can feel like "double failure," said Cohen-Sandler, who is author of the 2005 book, "Stressed Out Girls: Helping Them Thrive in the Age of Pressure."
Jordyn Wieber's mom comforts her with twitter hug. mnn
Jordyn Wieber’s Coach Calls Elimination an ‘Injustice’. abc News
Even Wieber, it appears, has already turned her individual disappointment into a focus on the next goal, the team final on Tuesday with a Tweet.