Jun 22 2010

Dr. Paul Meier on "Helicopter Parents"

Our guest today is Dr. Paul Meier, of  Meier Clinics. With many parents facing the emotional challenge of seeing their kids leave home, Dr. Meier helps us recogonize the signs of "hovering" in ourselves and our parents. 

 

ADULTS WHO HAD HELICOPTER PARENTS (CONTROLLING, SPOILING, DEMANDING, EMPHASIZING LOOKS AND PERFORMANCE RATHER THAN QUALITY OF CHARACTER) HAVE

 

1.       FALLING DREAMS, OR DREAMS OF GOING BACK TO HIGH SCHOOL AND NOT KNOWING THEIR LOCKER NUMBER, OR NOT BEING ABLE TO TAKE A TEST, OR BEING LATE, OR OF THEIR TEETH MISSING.

2.       BULIMIA

3.       SUBSTANCE DEPENDENCE

4.       BLAME OTHERS FOR HOW THEY FEEL

5.       DEPEND ON OTHERS FOR FIXING THEIR PROBLEMS

6.       LOW SELF-ESTEEM

7.       NEGATIVE SELF-TALK—THEY NEED TO LEARN TO BECOME THEIR OWN BEST FRIENDS AND SAY TO THEMSELVES WHAT THEY WOULD SAY TO A BEST FRIEND UNDER THE SAME CIRCUMSTANCES AND LEARN BOUNDARIES SO THEY ARE NOT TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYBODY OR TO BASE THEIR SELF WORTH ON WHAT THEY SEE IN THE EYES OF OTHERS RATHER THAN OF GOD, WHO SAYS IN ROMANS 8:1, “THERE IS THEREFORE NO CONDEMNATION…..” JUST LEARN FROM MISTAKES, RATHER THAN BEATING THEMSELVES UP FOR THEM.

8.       HYPOCHONDRIASIS

9.       PERFECTIONISM AND OCD TRAITS—FEAR OF BEING OUT OF CONTROL IN CERTAIN SITUATIONS, LIKE CROWDED ELEVATORS, MIDDLE OF THE AISLE IN CHURCH OR A MOVIE—PREFERS AISLE, BACK TO WALL IN RESTAURANTS, ORDERS LAST IN RESTAURANTS FOR FEAR OF MAKING A MISTAKE BECAUSE MOM NOT THERE TO TELL HIM OR HER WHAT TO EAT, DOUBTS SALVATION BECAUSE FEELS CONDITIONALLY ACCEPTED.

10.     “DEAR HEAVENLY VERSION OF EARTHLY DOMINANT PARENT”

11.     MARRIES SOMEONE SIMILAR TO DOMINANT PARENT USUALLY.

12.     ATTEND A CHURCH THAT WILL TELL HIM OR HER HOW TO THINK..

13.     NOT VERY GOOD AT RESEARCH OR INDEPENDENT THINKING. BETTER AT ACCOUNTING OR MATH OR REPETITIVE JOBS.

14.     INFANCY MAY HAVE BEEN MARKED WITH LOTS OF “NO-NO’S” RATHER THAN ENCOURAGNG EXPLORATION AND REMOVING DANGEROUS OR VALUABLE OBJECTS.

 

Learn more about Meier Clinics here: http://www.meierclinics.com/ Click below to listen to Dr. Paul Meier.

 

Dr. Paul Meier - Segment 1

Dr. Paul Meier - Segment 2

 

 

Jun 21 2010

Camping or Hotel???

Scott and Kelli Poll... What's you're idea of an ideal vacation... Camping or Hotel???
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Jun 21 2010

Have You Ever Had A Run-in With A Wild Animal?

My wife, kids and I were camping this weekend at Lake Tahoe and had a bear raid our campsite and eat all the food out of our cooler. It was a great bonding experience! Have you ever had a crazy encounter with an animal??? ~ Scott
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