Jun 16 2010

Scott and Kelli poll: hinting for gifts!

Scott and Kelli poll: is it okay to hint (a lot!) about a gift you want?

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6/13/2010 6:20:45 PM
Christina Schipper United States
Christina Schipper
Yes,  but don't be annoying about it and just say it like once , then pray Smile
6/13/2010 6:21:29 PM
Lynnette Brenner United States
Lynnette Brenner
Sure it is!  Much better to get something you really need or want than a dust collector!
6/13/2010 6:22:42 PM
Mackenzie West United States
Mackenzie West
Yikes. Well, I think it can be a bad idea because what if they've already gotten you something and they are really excited about it? Then you hint or flat out tell them what you'd like and they feel bad about what they've already gotten you. Then you put them in a trap. On the other hand, if they ask you what you'd like, go for it!
6/13/2010 6:22:49 PM
Dee United States
Dee
Indirect hints are ok
6/13/2010 6:24:11 PM
Tiffany Steward United States
Tiffany Steward
no because it can be annoying  especially  from adults
6/13/2010 6:24:18 PM
Renee United States
Renee
I think it really depends on what it is you're asking for.  If the gift you want is something that is totally out of your family's budget then of course it is wrong to hint for it.  
If your gift buyer is at a loss for what to get you or is clueless about what a good gift would be, then yes it is okay to hint or even tell them what to get you.

My hubby & I learned a very long time ago that when it comes to gift buying we both need serious help on what to get for each other... so we make each other lists.

After years of disappointment in the gift cards my hubby was getting me, I finally told him to stop buying me cards.  He would get me cards that I didn't like, and I would look at them for a few seconds and then dig into my present.  Besides, once you look at the card...then what do you do with it?
6/13/2010 6:25:29 PM
Erica Morgan United States
Erica Morgan
I would rather get something that he needs then to have it shoved under the bed or in the closet. Hinting is great!! In my case my husband always says he doesn't need anything as long as he has us!
6/13/2010 6:25:41 PM
Natalie Bustad United States
Natalie Bustad
I think its ok to subtly hint at it, but if you are hinting at it SOOO frequently and SOOO obviously that it gets annoying and turns from hinting to begging.... I dont think so. It also depends what it is.
6/13/2010 6:25:46 PM
Ron United States
Ron
YES!!! While I always try to buy a gift for my wife that she will appreciate, I really am glad when she gives me several ideas for gifts for her. Often it's something that I would have never guessed she would want (and we've been married 30 years!). She requests the same from me!!
6/13/2010 6:26:46 PM
Lorrie United States
Lorrie
Absolutely.  My husband would wait until the last moment at Christmas time and run to the store and buy me a sweater.  That was ok, but after about six sweaters I decided to help him out.  One year I cut a picture out of a magazine of a ring that I wanted.  I taped it to the fridge with a note that said "HINT, HINT."  Maybe not so subtle.  He never said a word about my hint, but I got the ring!
6/13/2010 6:27:03 PM
Lisa Boles United States
Lisa Boles
YES!  It is okay to ask your spouse if they need a list or ideas and then give it to them!  My spouse and I have even circled what we want from a catalog and asked the other one to buy it.  Then the person ordering, wraps it and gives it.  Much better to give and get the exact version wanted than being disappointed.
6/13/2010 6:28:52 PM
Mark United States
Mark
I think it depends on you wife's past gifts.
6/13/2010 6:29:31 PM
Victor West United States
Victor West
I hope so, a package arrived ups today and it was from the right store. So I am hoping that it is what I hinted for Smile
6/13/2010 6:30:50 PM
Luis from Tennessee United States
Luis from Tennessee
I feel that you should be able to handle anything that your spouse gives you, because no matter what it is, it came from the bottom of their heart. My father always tells us that he doesn't expect anything for Father's Day except for my mother, my sister and I to love him, and so we learn to be comfortable no matter what and to have a good time with each other.
6/13/2010 6:30:56 PM
Megan United States
Megan
Yes! My boyfriend loves to know exactly what I want and for me to know what he wants. It's helpful I you don't know what to get and men can be really hard to shop for! Plus at least then you know they'll like the gift Smile
6/13/2010 6:31:07 PM
Nikki United States
Nikki
The wife should just ask, Is there anything special you would like for Father's Day?  The likelyhood of her knowing already is slim so take the hinting and expectations out of it and just ask.  Don't make him be the bad guy.  And it turn, he can do the same for you for gift giving occasions!
6/13/2010 6:31:14 PM
Ashley Green United States
Ashley Green
I thinks its okay to just leave a list of possible winners where you know they'll find it and then be surprised cause you don't know what their gonna pick!
6/13/2010 6:32:54 PM
April United States
April
Absolutely! With these economic times, why get something for someone that they really don't want or could go without. I lobbied for my birthday present in July, rather then do a special dinner or get a gift I opted to push for... Heaven Fest concert! Smile Can't wait!
6/13/2010 6:34:18 PM
Steve C United States
Steve C
Yes. It will be a waste and time of energy for the person who thoughtfully bought the gift if you want to return it. It is better to get something that you want and are able to use than a random gift.
But you can also say no because the heart is what counts. It's not about the gift but the intent of the person giving the gift.
6/13/2010 6:34:42 PM
Ann Shaw United States
Ann Shaw
My husband is not my father, why would it be okay for him to expect a gift from me.
6/13/2010 6:35:17 PM
Julie United States
Julie
I think the gift should come from the kids not the wife. I always take my girls to the store and what ever they pick out is what we get. Their excitment when they see their dad wear the shirt they picked out is priceless. One year when my daughter wad 5 she got my husband a huge bag of bungie cords. She is now 13 and we still use those bungie cords
6/13/2010 6:36:19 PM
Pete Smith United States
Pete Smith
YES. Anyone who believes that "gifts from the heart" do the trick is still living in fantasy land. Face it: Men don't think like women; women don't think like men. We don't know each other all that well. My wife and I have been married over 32 years and we've gotten to the point where for birthdays and holidays we often just take each other shopping because sometimes even we don't know what we want. It isn't the gift, it's the special attention that's important.
6/13/2010 6:37:23 PM
Felicia United States
Felicia
Well what if your partner already bought you something that they think is great, but then you start hinting for something else they will be discouraged because they will know that what they got you its not what you wanted and they will know you will be disappointed
6/13/2010 6:40:25 PM
Kari United States
Kari
If he wants it that badly, he should go out and buy it for himself!!
6/13/2010 6:44:35 PM
Kay United States
Kay
No I found that the best gifts are those they come up with there self. My husband once got me an umbrella, as a surprise he left it in my car unwrapped and no card, at first I thought someone had broken in my car. When I told him what I had found He said surprise Happy Birthday I said oh how sweet, I said wow how did you come up with an Idea for an umbrella, He said because you are my sugar and sugar melts if it gets wet.  oh it was the best gift ever.
6/13/2010 7:16:26 PM
Lynda United States
Lynda
Sure. I've even bought my own gift before because my husband hates shopping!
6/13/2010 7:25:49 PM
Jasmine United States
Jasmine
Definitely.
6/13/2010 7:28:23 PM
Jason United States
Jason
Don't expect people to read your mind. Communicate clearly as to what you want, if you want something special. Don't hint, it's either "yes" I want this or "No" I don't care, I'll enjoy the surprose.
6/14/2010 11:57:52 AM
Life United States
Life
My dad is a drug addict and I haven't seen him since I was 9 or 10 years old and it's sad because you want a dad to give you that motivation, I am hoping he is alive to let him know he is forgiven. My mother married, but for me he is not my dad, and my other parents that I see as my real parents I call him Dad but it's not the same because not born to them so it's sad,because the respect is there, and love is there like always. She remind me don't forget you have a DAD, I am like I do, and I just listen without criticism, they have being there like always. Father father is GOD himself for me he is my father and mother and in him I can depend and talk to him without being judged. Father's Day like Mother's Day is a sad occassion because how I see it I have none, but i have GOD on my side that is better than family.
6/14/2010 12:32:30 PM
Steph United States
Steph
I think for the most part you should never hint/suggest a specific gift.  God wants us to be givers from our heart and never expect anything in return.  However, if you know someone (like your husband/wife/kids) are planning on buying you something I don't think theres anything wrong with a sweet thought placed.  As long as in your head, you don't "stress" whether your going to get it or not and your able to be happy with whatever they decide to get you.
6/14/2010 1:52:58 PM
Sue Kehoe United States
Sue Kehoe
Scott and Kelly, I just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy listening to you both.  Yesterday you really touched me in ways you have no idea.  My father passed away 17 years ago, I knew the anniversary date was coming up.  I hate to admit this, but I had forgotten the exact date.  While at work, a gentlemen was talking about his father passing two years ago on the 16th of June and it started me thinking.  I was getting upset at the fact that I couldn't remember something so important to me.  While driving home from work and listening to your program, Scott you read a letter from someone who lost there dad a a young age "63" (same as my dad) and that it was 17 years ago.  This really made me think someone is trying to tell me something.  I immediately called my mom (who also had the date mixed up and she thought it was the 19th) only to look in her bible and find out that it was 17 years ago on a Wednesday on the 16th that he passed away.  God does work in mysterious ways, and I wanted to thank you for your help so that we were able to remember him on this day.  I remember sending him a copy of Bett Midlers  "Wind beneth my wings" for fathers day, because that was exactly how I felt about him.  At my brothers wedding that July, they played that song and he came up to me and said,"May I have this dance, they are playing our song".  That was the last time I ever got to dance with him.  He died of ALS two years later. I love listening to K-Love and can't thank you enough for being on the air.   Sue  
6/14/2010 8:35:11 PM
shannon bomboy United States
shannon bomboy
My father passed away on May 8, 2008, just 5 months after my mother passed away.  They were   for 55 years.  I miss them both so much.  My father was a committed family man and a
Godly man.  He taught us a lot by example.  The night my father passed away he was listening to the bible on tape, we checked to see what he had been listening to the last verse my father heard was Psalm 30:2 "O Lord my God, I cried to Thee for help, and Thou didst heal me."  My father had COPD he was healed that night.  Thank you God for healing my father and for giving me a caring earthly father.
6/15/2010 1:31:10 AM
Denise Steinert United States
Denise Steinert
My father passed away last year, June 30, 2010 after a lengthy illness.  I spent quality time with him on the morning of his last Fathers Day ever.  We went to a brunch together at the assisted living facility where he lived.  He began to grow weary so we went back to his little apartment on the second floor.  I'll never forget it, he positioned his wheelchair in front of the window and looked out over the pond.  He said "This is Heaven."  He looked so peaceful.  You would never know that he was a dying man.  He was just so thankful for something as simple as gazing out the window.  He was the most genuine, Godly man I've ever known.  He loved his seven children dearly.  We miss him so much.  He's with my Mom now, in Heaven.    
6/15/2010 6:44:02 AM
Heather United States
Heather
Yes it is ok to hint about what you want!! Just dont say it over and over!!
6/15/2010 7:13:45 AM
Marie United States
Marie
I think it depends on how close you are to the person.  It's definitely a good idea to tell your husband what you want for your birthday or Christmas, no indirectness needed.  In fact, with husbands, indirect is a BAD idea, because it will be lost on them.  I'm not picking on husbands, it's just true.  It's the same the other way too.  If my husband doesn't tell me directly what he wants, who knows what I might get him?  Smile  He's never been so happy with my Christmas presents as he was this last year when I actually got him the rolling tool box he'd been asking for.  He loves it and tells me so all the time, and it's JUNE already!  There's something to be said for getting a person what they actually ask for.  With other family members or friends, it's probably a little more tricky. My inlaws always ask what we want, and we can all be very blatant about what we want, but that's probably not normal, of course. Like I said above, it would just depend on the relationship you have with the people.  I think direct is always better than indirect though, if ANYTHING is going to be said.
6/22/2010 7:34:59 PM
Kathleen Brazier United States
Kathleen Brazier
Yes....so long as you don't go too far.  It's hard trying to figure out what to give someone when you have no idea what they want.  I would much rather have hints and know what to shop for to make someone happy.  You can always ignore the hints!
Have a Blessed Day!
Love,
Kathleen
6/27/2010 3:43:11 AM
Robin R United States
Robin R
My dh means well, but admiditly does not know what to get me, so I have to hint loudly at a couple things I like. After 13 years of marrage, he is getting closer to independantly picking out some nice gifts Smile
8/26/2010 4:13:13 AM
Louisa United States
Louisa
Sure.
I like to know what others really like.
It keeps me from having to guess.
I usually have them give me more than one option so it is still a surprise and that helps me to find one of those things in the stores.

2/5/2011 11:47:02 AM
hannah United States
hannah
idk me and my bff always tell each other what we're gonna get each other, we cant hold it in
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