Aug 03 2010

Dr. Paul Meier on preparing kids to go back to school

It's that time again! The summer is ending and it's time to go back to school. Dr. Meier has some great tips for getting the kids ready to go back to school.

Here are his suggestions:

SUGGESTIONS FOR GOING BACK TO SCHOOL

 

1.         SHARE AND PRAY: Share how you feel about going back to school with God, a couple friends and your parents—both positive and negative feelings and hopes and concerns. A SHARED BURDEN IS HALF A BURDEN. Talking about your concerns decreases your anxiety about them by about half.

2.         FINANCES are tough for most families in this current economy, so just do the best you can with the resources available to you to have clothing and supplies as close to the norm of your particular school as possible, without being seductive or provocative.

3.         ENMESHMENT: Some parents are nice and mean well, but cripple their children by being overly enmeshed with them and their decisions. As much as is reasonably possible, encourage your children to make their own decisions, be independent, choose their own clothing (within boundaries of course), and develop their own close friends. Do NOT be your child’s best friend. Children who are overly dependent on a controlling parent have the most fear of going to school. Being a parent is the only job whose success is measured by your children no longer needing you to survive and make their own decisions.

4.         SOCIAL PHOBIA: You may have six children, five who are outgoing and one who is shy from birth on. Social phobia is often a genetic, inherited phenomenon, correctable within a week or within a few weeks by prescription medications from a child psychiatrist, such as Neurontin, for example, which is not addicting. Some types of social anxiety are curable with professional counseling alone, but other types require medication for an inherited chemical imbalance. 

5.         DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER, AND OTHER DEBILITATING PROBLEMS: Be sure your children get treated for these, or they will not be able to perform in school, socialize in school, and may even become suicidal. The teen suicide rate today is 300% higher than it was fifty years ago because of the breakdown of family and morals in our society, as well as other factors, including genetic factors. Your children (and yourselves) will recover from these with the right kind of help.

6.         BUILD A SUPPORT GROUP: We all need one or two friends who know all our secrets and accept us just the way we are.

7.         DEDICATE YOUR LIFE TO GOD: If you do, then you can be thankful for things that go right and grow from things that go “wrong.”

 

Paul Meier MD, MEIER CLINICS, www.meierclinics.org or 1-888-7-CLINIC.

 

You can listen to Dr. Meier here: Segment 1 and Segment 2

 

 

Comments (4) -

7/25/2010 9:41:21 AM
Trudy United States
Trudy
The layman's term for "enmeshment" is hovering.....helicopter parents.  Smile
7/25/2010 3:25:30 PM
Claire United States
Claire
Make sure your kids get to bed early. Start getting them back into a habit. Because there is a saying (If, you have a test-go to bed early-and you will pass it. If you don't then you will fail 100%) It is a true saying. It happens a lot. Also Ben. Franklin quoted (Early to BED, Early to RISE)
7/25/2010 3:28:02 PM
Kathleen United States
Kathleen
Parents should also be well aware of potential side effects of medications dealing with depression, social disabilities, and anything else medications are recommended for.  Acute and long term effects of many medications are not worth their benefits.  Also remember that certain antidepressants can be associated with suicidal thoughts/behavior in children and teens with depression and other psychiatric disorders (FDA, 2004)!  Don't rush towards medications for these issues, take the time to weigh your options, and make an educated decision for your children.  
7/26/2010 12:50:01 AM
kish United States
kish
Thanks for your help.  God bless all of you helpers.
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