Aug 10 2010

Dealing with "Empty Nest Syndrome"

Got kids heading to college? Dr. Paul Meier has some great tips for dealing with the transitiion parents face when their kids leave home.

EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

 

 

“Empty Nest Syndrome” refers to how parents feel whenever their last child who was living with them leaves for college or to out on his or her own. Either parent can feel lonely or depressed (or happy and relieved and proud of the child) when this happens, but the most common thing I have seen as a psychiatrist is the Moms getting somewhat lonely and depressed when the last child leaves and many Dads celebrating having more independence and freedom in the home and feeling pretty good about the child going off to a career or job and becoming more self-sufficient. So here are some pointers for parents who may experience any emotions when their last child leaves the home, making it an “empty nest.”

 

1.         Being a Mother is the only job in the world whose success is measured by how little a child needs you when he or she goes out on her own.

2.         Don’t tell your child all his life what to do—teach him his boundaries and teach him to figure out what to do in various situations. Ask him or her to think of options for solving a problem he asks you about until he thinks of the answer you probably would have told him to do and then say, “That sounds like a great idea. Why don’t you try it and see if it works.” If it does, he gains confidence. If it doesn’t, teach him that it is fine to guess wrong, and to learn from it and try plan B.

3.         When the last child leaves, be sure you, the parent, do not spend an hour a day on the phone with the child creating dependence and possibly even bulimia or some other psychiatric condition. The parent needs good friends her own age and the child needs good friends his or her own age as well to share feelings and fears with.

4.         When a mother Robin feeds her baby Robins until they reach a safe age to fly, she lovingly pushes them out of the nest and they learn to fly on the way down. A few get injured, but most learn to fly. It is a necessary thing to do for Robins and for humans.

5.         Any child who remains dependent on his parents is more likely to be unemployed, be on drugs, and have other problems that come from not taking responsibility.

6.         NECESSITY IS THE MOTHER OF INVENTION—so when your child reaches a crisis, he is quite likely to think of a solution and grow from it. But pray for each of your children the rest of their lives, because LIFE IS DIFFICULT for all of us.

7.         The husband and wife who become empty nesters should plan on lots of fun things to do with each other that they were too busy or too broke to do earlier. Enjoy the good job you have done in raising your children, be proud of yourselves and of your child, and make it a time of celebration rather than a time of depression and loneliness.

Learn more about Meier Clinics here: http://www.meierclinics.com/

Listen to Dr. Meier here: Segment 1 and Segment 2

Aug 09 2010

Back to school advice!

It's back to school time! Got a question for the teachers: what can we parents do to prepare our kids to return to school. This is your chance, teachers! What would you say to us parents?
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Aug 09 2010

Fair food!

It's the season for deep-fried foods at the county fair! The latest offerings: doughnut burgers and deep-fried butter. Kid you not! Would you eat that? What's the worst/oddest thing you've had at the fair?

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Jason Castro in the studio!
Nov 03 2010

Jason Castro in the studio!

Former American Idol finalist Jason Castro was on today with us! Listen to the interview:

How Jason proposed to his wife:

Jason on his life and music:

Listen to the full interview at our show highlights page.

 

 

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11/3/2010 2:43:37 PM
Sammie United States
Sammie
I love Jason Castro! I voted for him every time when he was on American Idol.

Can you guys post the full interview on here too? Because i missed it.
11/3/2010 2:49:55 PM
Melaine United States
Melaine
Aww! I just missed this. Would you please post the inteview? So great to see former AI contests singing for the Lord, too! I can finally hear Jason's songs on a station I listen to. Thanks for featuring him. Looking forward to the new album coming out Nov. 9!
11/3/2010 3:13:05 PM
Lisa United States
Lisa
Wow I just heard KLOVE play Jason playing 'Somewhere Over the Rainbow' and it was Wonderful!! Thanks for sharing it.  Would you please post it if possible?  Or play it again sometime?  It was really a lovely performance.  Or yes, please just post the interview and performances for those that missed it.  Thank you!
11/3/2010 3:21:44 PM
Becky United States
Becky
Really enjoying listening to Jason, what a beautiful voice and talent.  Had no clue he was a God lovin man while he was on American Idol, what a blessing!

Keep on singing the praises to Jesus Jason!!
11/3/2010 3:22:46 PM
Shanan United States
Shanan
I couldn't help but wonder if Jason was a Christian after I heard him sing. He was my favorite that season of American Idol! I can't wait to get his new cd.

P.s. is he single? ;) haha j/k
11/3/2010 3:27:06 PM
Laurie United States
Laurie
I loved listening to Jason's unique sound on American Idol and look forward to hearing more of his beautiful music on K-LOVE!  Best wishes for a successful career, Jason!
11/3/2010 5:37:34 PM
Lori Favero United States
Lori Favero
I can't seem to find the full interview with Jason anywhere on this site. I would love to share it with my son at Texas A & M. I tried the Show Highlights link but it was not working.
11/3/2010 6:26:31 PM
Suzanna United States
Suzanna
Thank you so much. Jason is just a wonderful singer and a sweet/special person. Love his new song YOU ARE.
11/3/2010 9:03:28 PM
Melinda Fidler United States
Melinda Fidler
Nice interview.. great voice
11/3/2010 9:28:13 PM
just a mothers heart United States
just a mothers heart
As a family, just have faith and do what you feel is best. Our miracles are adults now, but our oldest son was 1 lb, 10 oz born at 26 weeks and the roller coaster ride, just ride with faith, love and give yourself time to be a couple.
Now they boss us around, we are the old ones who are getting wiser...we wake up in a new world each day..but the greatest gift ever, our daughter was born full term, they are Gods gift to give the world
11/4/2010 7:41:01 AM
Jason Ryburn United States
Jason Ryburn
Would just like to know if Jason's arrangement of Over the Rainbow" is the one that came from Israel Kamakawiwo╩╗ole, in Hawaii.
11/4/2010 10:06:03 PM
Arlene United States
Arlene
I think THIS was the BEST interview with Jason that i have ever heard. Thank you so much!
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