May 26 2010

20 Ways to Create Greater Marital Connection

20 ways to create greater Marital Connection

 

By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach

TENDER CONNECTION through ROMANCE

(These are the softer sides of relationship which can feel fun, exciting or fulfilling)

 

Physiclal- connecting physically 

 

Emotional- connecting through feelings, moods, attitudes or being on the same wave-length

 

Intellectual- connecting through the world of current events in news, blogs, magazines or books

 

Educational- connecting through shared learning experiences in classes, seminars or workshops

 

Aesthetic- connecting through experiences of beauty in fine art, craftsmanship, antiques or nature

 

Creative- connecting while sharing ideas about designing or developing projects together

 

Recreational- connecting through shared sports, hobbies, exercise, travel or theme parks

 

Social- connecting through parties or events at work, church or with friends & family

  

Entertainment- connecting through music, TV, films, concerts, dining or shopping

 

Humor- connecting through shared laughter, giggles, comedy or silliness in any situation

 

 

TOUGH CONNECTION through REALITY

(these are the harder sides of a relationship which may feel boring, difficult or challenging)

 

Work- connecting through common tasks, daily chores & responsibilities at home or in career

 

Time- connecting together with scheduling, planning, clocks, calendars or daily routines

 

Financial- connecting through shared values on budgeting, spending, saving or investing goals

 

Caregiving or Co-parenting- connecting through shared responsibility to care for others (or pets)

 

Conflict- connecting through differences in strongly held beliefs with mutual respect or admiration

 

Crisis- connecting through problems, pressures or painful events, especially in reaching out to others

 

Commitment-connecting through the shared belief of honoring marital vows as sacred promises

 

Spiritual- connecting through shared religious traditions, beliefs, ethics, values & worship styles

 

Communication- connecting verbally or nonverbally to share the ‘real you’ or listening to your partner

 

Trust- connecting through shared feelings of respect, honesty, integrity or confidence in your mate

 

Notice the differences between these 2 types of Marital Connection:

 

 

Tender Connection is about Romance & Chemistry

 

  • Media images tend to define the ultimate degree of love as feeling happy with that person you are spending time with right now instead of investing into a partner for life
  • If you only have a tender connection in your relationship, it leaves a potential gap open for a married person to essentially function as a ‘single person’ with the mindset of serving self over their spouse, resulting in a person feeling very, very alone.
  • View this as the “Me-My-I” mindset of the self-absorbed or pleasure seekers that avoid taking responsibility for their behavior or blame shift problems away from their selfish decisions to find a reason to show that it’s really your fault that they are the way they are or do the things they do.

 

Tough Connection is about Reality & Consequences

 

  • Biblical images of defining the ultimate degree of love as choosing to reach out to build a long term relationship as married “Partners” during the fun or frustrating times of life
  • If you have included the reality of a tough connection in your relationship, it closes the gap of being a self-serving or single person in the marriage, since the mindset and goal is of building marital unity.
  • View this as the “We-Us-Our” mindset of building a relationship together with each person taking ownership and responsibility for their part of the marriage as they serve and give to one another in love.

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May 26 2010

Jennifer Rothschild - "Self Talk, Soul Talk"

All too often, what we say to ourselves when we lie in bed at night or look in the mirror in the morning is not even close to the words God wants us to speak to our souls. Author of "Self Talk, Soul Talk" Jennifer Rothschild shared with us her past struggle in this area, how she overcame the negative self-talk and steps to take to speak to ourself in a positive, Godly way. 

 Listen to what Jennifer had to share (click links below):

Segment 1

Segment 2

For more on Jennifer and this topic, click the picture below ...

 

May 25 2010

Jessica's Daily Affirmation

Here's what little Jessica says to get herself going. Do you have any "daily affirmations" you start your day with? Let us know ... maybe you can even video yourself and send it to us!

May 25 2010

David Crowder

We caught up with David Crowder this morning - he was fun and encouraging as always. If you missed it, below are a couple of our favorite moments (click links to listen) ...

David and the unauthorized picture of him used in a Mexican newspaper

David gives his advice to the Class of 2010

For more info on "Crowder's Fantastical Church Music Conference" (September 30 - October 2 in Waco, TX), check out this link