May 19 2010

What do you love about being a parent?

We have a friend who is expecting her first child. Although she is excited, she is also a bit scared, as everyone seems to be warning her of all the "hard" things involved in parenting! You can help! Tell Anna all the great things about being a parent!
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5/12/2010 3:58:20 PM
Claire United States
Well, there are some things in parenting that is a little bit hard. But, most of all-there is fun in being a parent. You can play with your children, read to them, you can do a lot with them. It is your choice and your child's choice! Parenting children is really fun. But, then again-you have to look after them! Make sure to keep them out of trouble! Do what you know is best!
5/12/2010 4:11:56 PM
Khandi United States
I posted this on your facebook page but I had to get it to you quickly.

Yes being a parent is hard but there is so much to look forward to.

1.The first time you look at the little face and see the real love of God looking back at you.
2. Watching them sleep when they are 2,3,or 4.
3. Seeing the 'light bulb' of understanding going off when they get a new idea. ... See More
4. When they understand the LOVE of God in their own life, whatever age that comes.
5. When you make something feel better with a kiss and a hug and the look of love they give you
6. When their little hands reaches up to you crossing the street.
7. When the child says 'I Love You'.
8. When the teenager wants to stay home and 'hang' with mom on a weekend.
9. The preschool,kindergarten, Sunday school, high school and college graduation.
10. When the child has children of their own and asks you for advice.
5/12/2010 4:25:24 PM
Rony. India
Just a lady calling about the her husband who left her and the hard time she is facing at work place... I would like to encourage that sister to read psalms which will give her more strength... also on the other end would like to share something with you.. I was working in Lehman bro. India.. during the recent recession taking place and lehman going down on one side.. on the other end my wife was pregnant....facing a hrdtime at office and also from someother.. but god helped me in that deepest pit and got me out.. My company was taken over by a japanese company called nomura and i am yet working.. I have a 1 yr daughter her name is Rhesa.. God took care of us and will take care in future too... He is Great...
5/12/2010 5:01:43 PM
Lindsey United States
The joy of children is something you can not compare with anything else in life.  I believe that they are extensions of God's Spirit in the way they love without condition and are so forgiving.  When you as a parent don't think you can take another step you find the strength to do so because of that little person who solely depends on you just as you find strength in the fact that God loves you and depends on you to make a path for his love and kindness.  Love that baby with all of your might for it will be hands down the greatest thing to happen to you!
5/12/2010 5:02:46 PM
mma United States
Parenting is hard work, but one thing I think she should focus on is that she has been given the opportunity to mother. There are many people who would love to parent, who for numerous reasons can't perhaps focusing on the blessing she has, will help. I can't imagine that someone who is concerned enough to be scared wouldn't do a good job, I would likely think it is those who think it is easy, who need to get some more information.
5/12/2010 5:03:48 PM
Vicky United States
There are many frustrating and painful moments, but they all can be washed away by the sweet smile you get from a hug or an "I love you, Mom." When my daughter was 10, her paternal grandmother died. I sat on her floor and shared how I felt losing my brother when I was only 14, and feeling like the adults in my life weren't there for me. I told her it was okay to feel sad and angry for awhile, then remember that her grandma was in heaven with Jesus. After she shed some tears, she came back and said, "Mommy, I'm sorry you didn't have somebody like I have you." Through my tears I asked her, "Are you sure you're only 10?" I know God gave her a heart of compassion and that was worth any pain she has caused.
5/12/2010 5:03:57 PM
Sara United States
A good thing about being a parent is when they grow into wonderful young men and women, and you know you had a part in that!  I have three children in their 20's, and a 10 year old.  the oldest is engaged to a wonderful girl, about to follow in his father's footsteps and become a nurse in the Navy, the next one is married to an Army man (in Iraq currently), and just gave me my first grandchild, the next is in Zambia, Africa serving the Lord as a Missionary.  The 10 year old is a straight A student who loves God and others, tells me she loves me everyday, and just recently told me I was "cool and awesome"  Makes all the hard parts worth it!!
5/12/2010 5:10:20 PM
C.O. United States
I have 4 great children and have shared with friends who don't have or are expecting that having children brings you full circle. you see a glimse of how the Lord must feel with all of us His children. Learn the lessons painful, sticky, messy, booboo lessons.
5/12/2010 5:10:44 PM
Della Smoldt United States
Della Smoldt
To the lady that's expecting a new baby soon - children are the 2nd best gift God could give you (after salvation, of course).  I have 3 children and 6 grandchildren - and they are my purpose in life!
5/12/2010 5:10:49 PM
Melissa Hershey United States
Melissa Hershey
When I sat holding my son in the middle of the night just gazing at him, I had such an awakening in my soul of how our heavenly Father gazes upon us. The peace I felt when he was resting. I learned why God wants us to rest. When we are resting in Him, it brings Him peace. Woman of God you are about to learn about a love like no other. God bless you and your family.
5/12/2010 5:11:33 PM
Charles Campos United States
Charles Campos
When it was 3 in the morning and my ear was ringing because my baby boy was crying, all I could is to praise GOD for giving me the opportunity to be in that moment.  Like a blanket of comfort, GOD would always provide the patience and love to see the promise of tomorrow in your baby's eyes.
5/12/2010 5:11:47 PM
Holly United States
Having children whether they are yours by birth or adoption is awesome! True joy is seen and felt when your child asks to pray for someone they see in need knowing that God will answer prayer. Then there are the hugs and the gentle holding of hands when they just want to be with you. Recently I had to work very long hours and only saw my kids awake for 15 minutes at night, I was deeply touched when my normally quiet/stubborn son broke down in tears and said he missed me. I truly felt loved.
5/12/2010 5:14:56 PM
Laura United States
We were in the middle of a very scary thunderstorm the other night when my 12 year old daughter said to her dad and me "Whenever I get really scared and think I might die, I always think that the last person I would want to say 'I love you' to is Mommy"
THAT is the joy of parenting!
5/12/2010 5:15:08 PM
Jazmine United States
The overwhelming unconditional love that you feel when they look up at you and smile. I remember when I had my son over 18 years ago and I had him on my lap, he looked up at me and that was it. I was so in love! Its really unexplainable the feeling you get.
5/12/2010 5:15:38 PM
Kelly matherne United States
Kelly matherne
Anna i have a 4year old he is my joy . yes there is pain giving birth but when u hold your child there is so much joy.When that first smile comes or they walk.My perfect moment is bedtime when my son smiles at me and says mommy i love u.
5/12/2010 5:16:59 PM
Connie Goodman United States
Connie Goodman
Their hugs and appreciation - There isn't much better than a hug from your child especially when they come to you.  Once I took my son to Disney on Ice.  He said to me afterwards "Mommy, that's was fun. Thank you!"  That really made the cost worth it!!
5/12/2010 5:17:13 PM
Kalena United States
I love watching how God has designed babies to grow. It was so stunning to watch my first infant son rub his eyes one morning and realize that isn't something he learned--God put that in him. And then to watch as he discovered his hands, first as something to randomly stick in his mouth, then as an independent part of his body, then as a purposeful part of his body and now to build intricate block towers with. Some things are amazing when you realize you taught your child to do them and others are amazing when you realize he just knows or figured it out.
5/12/2010 5:17:26 PM
Joann Drnach United States
Joann Drnach
I am the mother of 4 wonderful children ages 20, 18, 16 and 10 . My favorite statement said to me with my first pregnacy and I have passed on many times is :
You are about to be given an open book. It is up to you on how to fill it . You can fill it and put it on the shelf with the rest of the books or you can choose to make it a best seller. Again,it is up to you . Make a best seller !

I can honestly say that with God's help and Grace , I have 4 best sellers and love every minute of it !
5/12/2010 5:18:36 PM
Mary United States
The unsolicited I Love You's are the best. They come in many forms, from "I love you" to "thanks Mom" to "you rock Mom".
5/12/2010 5:19:19 PM
Randy United States
Well, let me tell you this. When you have your baby and you look into your babies eyes and feel the warm of the baby next to your skin you will forget everything everyone has told you. Children are awesome, it does not matter how old they because when you look at them you cannot help but feeling the love. I can tell you over and over but you will not understand until it happens to you. Things will happen, good and bad, but no matter what they will always work out because we have an awesome God that will never forsake us. Enjoy them while you can because they grow up real fast and then they are gone and you will miss taking care of them. May God Bless you!
5/12/2010 5:20:01 PM
Kalena United States
I also love how kids can make you so frustrated and just when you want to be angry they flash you a goofy grin and snuggle with you to make your heart melt.
5/12/2010 5:21:29 PM
Teresa United States
Having a baby was the hardest thing I've ever done.  But the moment my son was in my arms for the first time, I swore I'd do it 100 times over.  The joy that you feel that only happens when you hold a child is so overwhelming - there is no fear or pain or insecurities that can overshadow the love and pure joy a child brings.  In that moment, there is no doubt as to exactly how much you are loved by God to be so blessed.
5/12/2010 5:21:45 PM
Cynthia United States
As a mom of five, which includes two sets of twins, I can say that the most amazing thing about parenting is the way that God reveals His Fatherhood to me through the way in which He challenges me to live out my faith in my childrens lives.
5/12/2010 5:21:52 PM
Sparrow United States
Please tell your friend that when they put that baby in her arms for the first time she will feel a love so deep and strong it will override any negative thought she ever had about conceiving!  You will even wonder later how you could ever love another child as much as you love the little one you hold and if you're fortunate enough to have another child you will see that there will always be enough love to last a lifetime.  You will enjoy each child realizing the gifts God has given each one.  It will be an awesome lifetime experience  of loving, learning, trials and growth.  Remember, without the trials, we cannot grow or fully appreciate what we have been given!
5/12/2010 5:22:35 PM
alexandra United States
I'm not a mom, but I'm a nanny and they joys children provide are not wasted on me...

my favorite is their view of the world and when they start to understand God.

The 3 1/2 year old little girl I nanny said to me last week in the car...
"the fruits of the Holy Spirit are the best for you and nourish your body"
amazed I asked her what the fruits of the Holy Spirit were.
she replied, "plums and cherries"

what a precious and uncomplicated view of the world.  
5/12/2010 5:22:36 PM
wendy United States
When God uses them to teach you how unconditional His love is through them.  Learning how much God loves me and how much grace He extends to us has been worth every "not so easy" moment of being a parent.
5/12/2010 5:24:32 PM
Zach United States
Feeling the love you have as a parent for your child(ren) I believe gives us a glimpse, however so small, of the love God had for us, his children.
5/12/2010 5:25:42 PM
Nikita United States
My son Jerimiah will be a year old Tuesday and I'm pregnant with our little girl. I remember everyone telling me how hard it was going to be and that once he got here I would no longer have any kind of a life. Honestly, becoming a new mom was the best thing that could've happened to me. Every day that he gives me those mouth wide open, slobbery kisses my heart melts and it's then that I'm reminded that God gave me this blessing to make each day better not harder.
5/12/2010 5:26:28 PM
Julie B. United States
Julie B.
Your friends were right.  No, you won't sleep... at first.

But did they also tell you that you will have this AMAZING relationship with a new little person - a relationship that no one else will have?

Did they tell you that you will have a pipeline to so much joy and love that sometimes you cry for joy over the sheer vastness of it?

And did they tell you that you will finally get a glimpse of just how much God loves you through your love for this little person?

And did they also tell you that yes, the early years are short.  But the DAYS are long.  So take a break when you need one and be patient as you watch this amazing relationship with this little person grow.

Being a parent is a wonderful experience beyond compare, and it has the potential for so much goodness!  More than you can now imagine.
5/12/2010 5:27:06 PM
Leslie Hudson United States
Leslie Hudson
Being a parent will change you and bring about the best blessings, the most humbling experiences and joy beyond anything you could imagine, some sorrow and tears and yet it will be the most wonderful thing God uses in your life to bring you closer to Him.
5/12/2010 5:30:27 PM
Kathleen United States
Oh my, will there be enough room?
1.  Feeling that little being snuggle in the crook of your neck.
2.  Seeing the genuine smile for the first time and knowing that it really does mean something.
3.  Experiencing the joy your little one shows while enjoying their favorite treat.
4.  Listening to them breathe while they are sleeping and finding comfort in that simple sound when you're feeling down.
5.  Praying over them at night and having tiny little fingers wrap around yours as if to tell you, "It will be okay."
6.  Seeing them in their first VBS program, their first Christmas program.
7.  Seeing the determination on their face when they problem solve and then the pride when they finally "get it."
8.  Hearing those first words...."MAMA!"
9.  The joy of knowing that you helped them reach a milestone.
10.  Wrestling with that little ball of energy and hearing a solid belly laugh (not just theirs, either!)
11.  And just when you start missing that little snuggle bug in the crook of your neck, they wrap their arms around your neck and give you big squeezes and juicy kisses!

But ya know, the bad things really aren't that bad.  Sure the diapers smell and the nights are short, but who really needs more than 4 hours of sleep anyway?  Celebrate every little thing about your child.  Thank God for everything they are and everything they are not.  And when things get tough, know that God chose YOU as the best parent for that child.
5/12/2010 5:33:11 PM
Pam United States
Honestly, the best thing about being a parent is having grandkids! Our 3 children have given us 8 beautiful grandbabies. The oldest will be 8 this year and the youngest is 6 months! I love Grandma sleepovers!
5/12/2010 5:34:45 PM
Johnm42 United States
There are only two serious requirements to be a parent: an endless well of love so you can fill your child with God and an eidetic memory. The love is obvious, the photographic memory less so. The most precious moments with your wee one will occur only when no recording devices are operating. Do everything you can to remember those precious moments for later review when you're old. It's great to drag them out and look at them. Here's one precious moment. My little guy had just started sitting at the table to eat with us oh maybe a week before. We'd prepare his food then do our own, pray and start eating. We'd watch him while we ate and try to include him in our conversations. One night, he's not eating. I asked him why. He replied "I can't eat that!" I asked why. He said, emphatically "the burners are coming off." I knew the food wasn't too hot but it was steaming a little. We about died laughing. To him, the steam wafting up was burners and they were coming off the food, all right. Now, whenever anything is too hot I tell my darling the burners are coming off and we both have a laugh over that wonderful memory. Seriously, though, I've forgotten so many wonderful things my children did. My advice to all new parents is remember those precious times, they will fill an encyclopedia by the time your child is grown. I would gladly be a parent again if I could remember every precious memory! Oh, gosh, just one more thing. My darling was changing a diaper on our little guy in the first week when suddenly she screamed! I ran to see what was wrong. She had seen the fountain of youth erupt in all its glory! While I was comforting her, it erupted again. This time, we both had a good laugh! After that, she'd put a diaper over him while he was being changed. Please have fun parenting. Watching that little brain developing and teaching your wee one is so rewarding. Honestly, I can't tell you how wonderful it is to be a parent.
5/12/2010 5:35:45 PM
Chrissy J United States
Chrissy J
God teaches us about self less LOVE, the Love HE has for us by being a parent.  Our children can run up to us with open arms and our hearts soar and then another time tell us they hate us and we just look at them and smile because we know that we will always love them no matter what.  That's the kind of Love that God has for us, His children.  I often think I would have never understood how deep and abiding His love is for us unless I had children of my own. Both my children are grown ( 27 & 24) but I would still die for them.  My son married 3 yrs ago and in January he had a daughter and I was there to see her born.  Wow, the LOVE just gets better and better.  I cried more at her birth than when I had my own ( tears of joy!).  God shares in each of our lives and waits to see if we have a place for Him in ours.  He teaches us how to love and waits for us to return that love to Him.  He is the most self less parent of all, waiting for us to learn our lessons... and turn to Him in all things.
Enjoy this new journey, with God by your side you will not fail!
Congratulations and Blessings on your new family.
5/12/2010 5:37:59 PM
Lois Canada
I would recommend the books "Baby Wise" I have had 3 girls (2,4,and 5) all of which were sleeping through the night by 8 weeks.  The principles in this book work!!  
And it is so rewarding to watch your child go through every first in life.  The day when they first say they love you and give you a big hug is soooo worth everything.
5/12/2010 5:38:31 PM
Caron~ United States
I love being a MOM, because of the unconditional LOVE they give, just like our DEAR LORD & SAVIOR did!

I also love them smell of the baby against your chest, that look in their eyes when you reach for them, the look on their faces when they see you & they've been crying!

Yes, there are horror stories I could tell, BUT the thing I like the most is the unconditional LOVE they GIVE & give it freely!

AMEN & THANK-YOU Little Guy (GOD) for this gift of childrren you've given to use Mom's (parents!).
5/12/2010 5:39:06 PM
Zach United States
My apologies, "had" should be "has" in my comment, that is, "the love God has".
5/12/2010 5:39:18 PM
Shelley United States
One of my very favorite things about being a parent is having my 2 girls age 2 and 4 come and snuggle with us in the morning when they wake up.  There is nothing better!  
5/12/2010 5:39:35 PM
Joanna United States
I am a first time mom of an 8-month old. She is such a joy and my husband and I are privileged that God gave her to us. Yes, having a child is a lot of work, but to me it's kinda of like marriage - totally life changing and a lot of work, but totally worth every minute and I wouldn't trade it for anything. Remember how patient and kind God is with you and enjoy your little one. The time flies quickly.
5/12/2010 5:40:51 PM
angie United States
I now understand unconditional love. Just like God's love for me, I love them no matter what they do or don't do. I may be disappointed, but I will always love them.
5/12/2010 5:41:13 PM
Christie United States
I am the mother of three boys, soon to be 21, 17 and 14. Treasure each and every moment, even when you are exhausted.  You will never get that moment back.  There's no greater job in the world than being a parent.  There will be heartaches and tears but a child brings so much joy.  They don't come with instructions.  You do the best you can.  You will make mistakes.  We all do, as parents.  The only perfect parent is God himself.  You will be a great parent and when you hold that child for the first time, all your fears will diminish and you will feel the same love your Heavenly Father has for you.  Best wishes!
5/12/2010 5:43:04 PM
Tanya United States
Kids keep us grounded ~ Last week our son came home from Kindergarten (private Christian school) and asked "Mom, what does it feel like to have Jesus live in your heart?"  We sat down and talked about it for a while and finally he looked at me and said "Mom, I want to do that - I want to ask Jesus into my heart."  So we prayed together and that's just what he did.  Praise God!
But kids also keep us laughing!!!!  The same son is learning the 10 commandments in class and was practicing them for me yesterday.  He got stumped on #5 (Honor thy Father and Mother) so I gave him a little hint ("it has to do with mom & dad").  His face lit up and he immediately answered "Thou shall not commit adultery!!!!"  Not quite the answer I was looking for, but it sure gave my husband and me a laugh!
5/12/2010 10:46:36 PM
Beverly(Anna's Mamma) United States
Beverly(Anna's Mamma)
The day Anna was born I couldn't take my eyes off of her. She was born a little blue and they had to take her from me for seemed like forever. When they finnaly put her back in my arms I wanted to never let her go, she was such a miracle, she still is. Best part of being a mom? Hearing that word for the first time and every time after..."Mom"..I love it! You go girl! You are already an amazing Mom!
5/12/2010 10:46:39 PM
Jenny United States
What I love the most about being a Mom is when my kid's are on fire for God.  Like when my 7 year old son came home from School the other day telling me that he witnessed to a boy at School that didn't believe in God.  He asked me, "isn't that silly Mom?"  Or when my 15 year old daughter is singing her heart out to Christian music in her bedroom.  Parenting is definately the hardest job ever, but the most rewarding!  
5/12/2010 10:47:26 PM
Rhonday United States
I can't even begin to tell you the joys of being a parent. After suffering with infertility for 14 years, adopting our son at birth has been the greatest joy of our lives. Every night as my husband and I lay hands on him and pray over him we thank God for the precious gift of Gabriel. We never want to take for granted the gift children are and what a blessing it is to be called parents. For me one of the greatest joys is seeing Gabriel, now 7 months, recognize me from across the room and smile. It melts my heart every time.
5/12/2010 10:53:44 PM
Missy Barrett United States
Missy Barrett
We didn't have time to panic. We adopted our daughter when she was just 7 days old, and we got the call that we were selected to be here parents when she was 4 days old. God is amazing! We were racing our quads one Saturday and 4 days later we were parents in a hotel a couple thousand miles from home. We wouldn't trade it for the world. We fell in love with her the moment we saw her beautiful face. And now, 5 years later, when she asks "Mommy, where did I come from?" I respond with "You came from Heaven, God gave us you." She knows a lot about her adoption and also prays for the most important lady in our lives, her birth mom (it's a closed adoption so she just doesn't know the connection yet). What I love is how close her and I are and the 1000's of "Hey mom!" request I get throughout the day.
5/12/2010 10:54:41 PM
donna United States
You were just comparing our love for our children to God's love for us.  I've been struggling with receiving God's love.  I have never known a parent's love. My father was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive and my mother knowingly did not protect me from him. So its been difficult to receive His love even though I know how much I love my children.

Thank you both so much for helping me to realize that God loves me mo matter what.  

God bless KLOVE!!!!

5/12/2010 10:55:35 PM
Kimberly Clark United States
Kimberly Clark
Now that I'm a parent, I know what unconditional love means. There is nothing my little boy could do to make me love him any less. Sure, it would hurt deeply if he told me he hated me & grew apart from me. But... I would always take him back completely no matter what!!  Wow, what a picture God has given me of his love for me. I don't deserve my little boy nor do I deserve such a loving God that washed me clean & saved me!  
5/12/2010 10:56:15 PM
Keli Thompson United States
Keli Thompson
one of the best things about being a parent is when your child starts communicating with you! My most favorite part about being a parent at this very moment, is when I can read to my daughter stories from her childrens bible she got from being dedicated at church and then us saying prayers at bedtime! It is so amazing! Its precious to hear your baby saw "agu"(which mean i love you) Jesus. And Ni Ni! I LOVE it!! Parenting can be stressful at times just like anything else in life, but the good moments by FAR out number the bad moments! Parenting is amazing, espcecially if you have a good support system and when the parents are both on the same page! Parenting is wonderful when you have God in the mix!
5/12/2010 11:00:07 PM
Kyle United States
Im not a parent (yet, just got married in march to the one that helped me come back to FAITH in our lord and savior) and this is something ive had a lot of discussion with mothers to be (especially the younger ones) and I have always been completely amazed by the utter change from scared to having the love only a parent can give to their newborn.

Ive witness ones going from I dont want this baby, to ill die for this baby!!

I cant wait for children of my own!!
5/12/2010 11:02:03 PM
Ina United States
Oh Anna! I feel so sorry for your friends that are telling you that life will never be as good or that it will never be the same! They have forgotten the pure joy that being a parent brings! Will it change your life - you bet! Will there be sleepless nights - yep... they don't last forever. You will be learning a whole new love language - the language of your newborn baby - fresh from heaven, a gift from God Himself! So fragile, tiny and perfect when delivered to you. When you see that first smile - knowing they recognize you, or watching them sleep in your arms, or when they are frightened and you hold them close until the tears and the crying stops... your heart will melt, and something inside you bursts!  Love like you have never known! You get to see the world through the eyes of a child, the amazement, the pure wonder, the curiosity and the joy that we have forgotten as we got older.  Open your heart and get ready for the best adventure of your life! Take pictures with your heart... even though this phase may seem like it lasts forever - it is over in the blink of an eye.

You have been given the greatest gift, Anna. It has been said that we hold our little ones hands for but a moment, and they hold our hearts forever.

Good luck and may God bless you and your family abundantly!!

5/12/2010 11:03:03 PM
Cookie Heuer United States
Cookie Heuer
My "Babies" are now 40 and 38. They are still such a Joy to my heart. Watching them grow in Jesus has been the biggest thrill for me. WOW, what men of God they have become. Not to mention GRANDBABIES. (Spoil them and send them home!!!)
My advice is to enjoy every moment!!!
Love to you and your new family
5/12/2010 11:04:48 PM
Tammie United States
Being a parent is something I would not change.  We adopted our boy and the joy that he brings into our home is immeasurable (is that a word?). He loves his life, adores his Jesus - he can be heard at any time during the day singing christian songs (I sometimes wonder if he does that at school). We get to see the world through his eyes and sometimes it is hysterically funny.  Hugs ans kisses are the best, snuggles and listening to him breath at night.  Having him fall asleep while snuggled up watching a movie. ahhh Smile I miss the days when I could carry him - cherish those.  I could go on and on... Enjoy every minute with your precious baby.  They are a gift!
5/12/2010 11:06:02 PM
Megan United States
First of all, let me tell you that my son Tanner is my saving grace. He is my everything. I am a single parent of a 4 month old little boy. My husband and I were married for 7 years and I found out that he had a girlfriend and another baby on the way when I was 8 months pregnant. His other baby was born a month before our son. Let me assure you, having your first child is the most wonderful thing in the world. Tanner is 4 months old and he is the light of my life. I am going through a very nasty divorce and my husband has never seen our son. He lives with his girlfriend and her 3 kids now. Tanner brings me so much joy and happiness coming home from work is an absoulte joy for me. My husband was very mentally and physically abusive and I am so thankful that Tanner doesn't have to know that life style. I just thank God every day for my wonderful son.
5/12/2010 11:06:26 PM
Donna Reeves United States
Donna Reeves
I would like to pass on the advice that our Lamaze Teacher gave us -- Your child has never had parents before and hasn't read all the parenting books.  Therefore, he/she doesn't know if you are doing everything right (or wrong).  You work out what is best for you and your family.  Being a parent is probably the most rewarding job that you can ever have.  And, yes sometimes it is hard -- Parenting is definitely NOT for 'sissies'.  What a blessing to think that God has trusted you with one of his most precious creations -- your child.  Our children are now grown, but have given us an even greater blessing -- grandchildren.
5/12/2010 11:07:19 PM
Michelle United States
The only thing that comes to mind is a song.  Every Mother's Day, you can guarantee that this song will be played.  It's called "You Don't Remember" by Na Leo, a local hawaiian group consisting of three wonderful mothers.  

The song describes the unconditional love we feel for our children, especially on the day they are born.  I would send you a link but can't seem to find a reliable one.

Search around and have this first time mom listen to the song. She may not realize it.  But will definitely understand it once she's holding her brand new baby for the first time.

Good luck and God Bless.
5/12/2010 11:07:32 PM
Kelley United States
Being a parent is my biggest accomplishment in my life so far.  I tried for years to have children and was blessed with one amazing son.  We didn't start following Christ until he was about 10 years old.  He is now 21 and an awesome example to young people.  He is very involved with our church's youth ministry and is in college and works 2 part time jobs.  The hardest part for me about being a parent was realizing my child sees everything I do, and hears what I say - it was then we gave our lives to Jesus!  Smile
5/12/2010 11:07:38 PM
Rhonda United States
To your dear friend.
I am fortunate to be having my second child by c-section in less then two weeks.
The moment you hear your baby for the first time and they hand them to you all the pain and woes of pregnancy and labor will fade to nothing. You get to meet someone no one else knows that God created through you. And with them you have the wonderful opportunity to see life a new. As we grow we take for granted all the wonderful things God has given for us to experience. With your new little one you will have the chance to experience it all again. The things you never thought would be so wonderful are wonderful again through the eyes of the child you love. May God give you the strength and courage to reach that moment I hope you will never forget. The moment when you meet the one you have carried for so long. Then you will know and believe it has all been worth it.
5/12/2010 11:08:45 PM
Kim United States
I went through the same sort of thing when I was pregnant and would tell people that I was having twins.  Everyone had a terrible story to share about themselves or someone else that they knew who was having twins and lost one.  Occasionally, I still get comments like, "Twins?? Wow, better you than me," "Twins- I feel so sorry for you," (yup, no kidding, someone actually said that to me!) and the most common, "double trouble" folks, after three years of trying to conceive, they are double the BLESSING!!  i went into labor three times before the BIG day.  We were so happy to finally meet our babies, they felt so right in our arms- one arm for each.  We have no idea how we knew what love really was before Lucas and Leona came along. They have taught us so much about patience, faith and how to appreciate the small things in life.  this past week we just transitioned them out of cribs and as excited I was to see them grow, I can't help but feel a bit sad.  they are 2 1/2 years old now, and I can not believe that the time has passed so quickly.  There is nothing in the world like a great big hug from a toddler with sticky fingers and wet face thanking me for a popsicle.  Or the sheet of scribbled paper hanging on my frig that was drawn just for me,even though no one, not even me knows quite what it is.  The satisfaction my daughter gets from putting on her own socks.  My son pointing to the moon and declaring it a "bubble Momma, a bubble."  watching my children with a friends infant, touching gently and cooing to the baby in a low sweet tones.  A screech after a fall and a skinned knee that quiets almost instantly after my kiss.  My childrens memorized versions of their favorite books or songs that inevitably include at least two incorrect pronunciations of a word, and several lines that are spoken in complete toddler speak.  There are so many wonderful things about being a parent, and I am only mentioned the present time. As infants, I couldn't believe God would trust me with these two little beings.  They were so perfect in every way.  Just the smell of them was intoxicating.  I would sit and just watch them sleep, snuggled against each other.  I delighted at the smallest coo or giggle. Those tiny little toes and fingers were enough to make me wish I could freeze time and never forget.  In the early days, my husband and I were the only source of entertainment they needed and we reveled in it.  the laughs, the crooked little smiles, the wobbly steps and runny noses.  Congratulations to you Anna.  May you cherish your new baby as much as the Lord has cherished you with this truly precious gift.
5/12/2010 11:10:19 PM
amy United States
my favorite part of being a parent are the unexpected hugs and kisses. I also enjoy the first step of drawing,the bubble this is what I like about bring a parent!
5/12/2010 11:12:41 PM
Jamey Van Doren United States
Jamey Van Doren
Someone once told me just before my wife and I had our firt child, "Your always going to think, now is the best time".  It's true, when you find out your expecting, the birth of your child to their first steps, you always think now is the best time.  Our children are 11 and 8 and I still say, now is the best time.
Tell Anna to enjoy her "now is the best time".
5/12/2010 11:13:37 PM
Kim Adams United States
Kim Adams
Scott and Kelli,
There are SO many things I love about being a mom, as many others have said: the kisses and hugs, the 'I love you mama', snuggling during a movie, them falling asleep in your arms during Sunday morning worship service (even at age 7 - I love this!), and many other blessings.
BUT...the one thing I never expected is that being a mom has drawn be closer to God. My relationship with God has just exploded since I bacame a mom. I have found that God has used my children as a catalyst to learning to trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding, to really believe God and take Him at His word, I have learned to pray without ceasing - and I don't even have to think about it most times! This and SO many other areas He has grown and challenged me in...all through being a mom!  Being a mom is amazing and changing!
~Kim Adams
Moriarty NM
Mother of three special needs children:
Aaron 11 diagnosed with Aspergers
Lauren 7 has dopa responsive dystonia - in the family with parkinsons - she has an 'unknown' type so she is her own 'anomaly'
Kennan 4 - severe asthmatic (almost lost him in January to an asthma attack) and anaphalatic allergy to peanuts (1st ananphalatic was at 13 months)
God is AWESOME all the time and His ways are not mine, His ways are PERFECT!
5/12/2010 11:20:56 PM
Nona Brown United States
Nona Brown
What I love about being a MOM is that I get to be a MOM. I love their first breath of air,every accomplishment,every experience to current and in the future. Recent examples:One son is getting married, one son got back from helping Grandparents in Arizona and one son will be graduating High School next week. Thank you GOD for blessing me with the oppurtunity of being a MOM to three son's when we did not think we could have any but I knew I wanted to be MOM. My wish for all expecting parents is that they enjoy it as much as I do and yes even during the testing times.
5/12/2010 11:31:07 PM
Nikki United States
My husband and I have 4 children. Being a parent is more rewarding than words can describe. It is an amazing thing to see how different each of them look when they are born. Then see how God has shaped them into individuals with unique personalities. Watching them become little people as toddlers, then mature year by year. Our oldest is extremely smart with a type "A" personality-he takes charge at all costs. Our next in line is a mature, precious preteen who is dependable with just a bit of ditz from her blond hair. Our 7 yr old son is the family comedian with the most tender heart on the planet. Then comes the baby girl. She is a spunky 5 yr who loves fashion, but likes to hang with the boys. All of these personalities under one roof! And God put us all together to learn and teach each other. Pretty cool, isn't it?
5/12/2010 11:35:20 PM
Sharon United States
My children are grown now. What I liked about being a parent was every moment you spend with them. From the time of birth and the baby smell, the first step the child takes, the first time the child calls you mommmy or daddy, the first day of school and you cry and the child consoles you, the first time you get to kiss a wound and make it feel all better, when the child learns to drive and you are the instructor, graduation from high school then college, then givint the grown child to the person he/she marries and tell the inlaw you raised them to marry that person then the most important part the "Grandchldren." Parenting is the best job in the world!
5/12/2010 11:36:07 PM
Donna United States
I love all of everything of everyday about being a mom but thats because like child birth even the pains of parenting are a distant memory and really not all that bad.... I only have 3 left at home, 3 are on there own, 2 with grandchildren...and boy are they fun!  Tell your friend to treasure every day and not to worry...enjoy the moment you live in, the present moment...because the present turns into the past way to quickly... now that my oldest is 30 and my youngest is 12 and I look back over the years...I love crazy Christmas mornings and all the nights of sitting around the dinner table where someone would make someone laugh and eventually the kids would laugh their way to the husband and I included!  

Game I'd like to see come back and maybe play if I could remember:  Kick the Can!  
5/13/2010 12:50:17 AM
Ann United States
What's not to love!? Yes there are down sides to having children, but it is THE most rewarding job I will ever have!

I became a single parent before my twins turned 2, they turn 9 in July. They both have special needs and I would not trade them for the world! They are like night and day and I love them both bunches!

What I love most are the squishee hugs, snuggling with them while they read out load, the questions they ask (why is the sky blue, etc.), showing them how to cook, brush their teeth, comb their hair.  Helping them to be great adults.  Listening to my son pray every night! Settling my daughters fears that the thunder is so loud!  I could go on and on.  

Treasure every moment that God gives you (good and bad) in the end, the rewards are incredible!
5/13/2010 6:41:05 AM
Jolene Wells United States
Jolene Wells
The absolute best part about being a parent is that you get to experience first hand what it must feel like for our heavenly father to love us unconditionally.  We are told about that love all of our lives, but as a parent, you get to FEEL it, and when I feel alone, I think about how my whole heart is constantly with my children, and am totally reassured that God is with me in that exact same way.  I think about how much I love my children and just gush with joy to know God loves me that much!
5/13/2010 6:42:16 AM
Jennifer United States
i am a brand new parent at 20. Everyone told me the same things they are telling you. They all said it would ruin my life and i wouldnt be happy. Well i can proudly say my daughter now 6 months old has proven them all wrong! She is the most happy and easy baby out there.. i thank God everyday for giving me such an easy baby to handle. She puts the biggest smile on everyones face she comes around. Because of her i have hope in being a great mother. Because of her i love motherhood! It wont ruin your life. if it's going to do anything it will make you a happier person all around! i know i am! Good luck!
5/13/2010 6:44:33 AM
Carl United States
Some of the greatest blessings that Children bring are the brilliant pictures of our relationship with God.  

You can see the beauty of how God brings new life into the world.  You can see how God keeps and protects us in our helplessness just as we protect them. You can see his image of all over there face.  You can feel more love and compassion then you ever knew was possible for someone you hardly know.  

This is only the beginning of the beauty as they grow older
5/13/2010 6:44:40 AM
Kimberley United States
There is some truth to the things you've been told. True: You will never sleep soundly again. You may be too busy singing your baby to sleep or watching them dream sweet dreams.
True: Your life will never be the same. It will be better. Through our children we discover the world all over again. Sometimes we discover new wonders.

I gave birth to my third child last year. Being a mother has been the greatest experience. I have learned a lot about myself, my husband and life in general. Just when you think you've got all your priorities all figured out... enter baby! That's when you really get it straight.
Good luck to you and God Bless.
5/13/2010 6:50:04 AM
Alyssa United States
Being a mommy of young children has been miraculous for my relationship with my Abba Father!!! To understand that the way I love my Sweet Max and Abby is the way My Jesus loves ME!!! That simplicity of love and watching their precious child-like faith is worth every dirty diaper and sleepless night in the WORLD!!!
5/13/2010 6:53:42 AM
Rebecca Martinez United States
Rebecca Martinez
there are two moments I always share with new moms the first time you look into those eyes and realize that God has given you this little person to love and take care of for him that is amazing and the first time they smile at you priceless okay three the first time they say I love you they all give me goosebumps and I have three boys it was the same with all three
5/13/2010 6:55:02 AM
Lena Germany
I'm not a parent yet but I have been a live-in nanny for the last 10 months...
And there are days, where I think, I will never have kids...
but then those days, where "my" kids look at me and all of a sudden a "lena? I love you" comes out of there mouth all the trouble is blown away!
It just makes my day =)

And its amazing that you get to watch your kids grow. I mean even in 10 month "my" kids developed so much.

5/13/2010 6:55:40 AM
Ruth United States
Although my kids are all grown and have moved out, I've always loved being a mom.  I love that each one is so different.  Each of my children have taught me different aspects of God just through their God-given gifts, personalities, and talents.  Every age brings new joys and challenges and they are all worth more than all the treasure in the world!  Being a mom is the most rewarding thing I have ever done.  Your friend will be so in love, the fears will fade away.
5/13/2010 7:00:07 AM
robert stonebridge United States
robert stonebridge
The love I feel for my daughter, she's now 5 1/2, is impossible to explain with words.  Like your friend I was scared to death of becoming a parent.  But God's grace is in my daughter's loving face everytime I look at her and she is the love of my life!
5/13/2010 7:00:54 AM
Christina Prewitt United States
Christina Prewitt
God has blessed us with 4 children. They are teaching me to be the kind of person God wants me to be. I say the word "stupid" a lot, and never realized how horrible that sounded til it came out of my 7 year old's mouth.
Here are a few things for your friend to think about

without kids

~you'd have nowhere to spend all that extra money on! If you weren't buying groceries, toys, clothing, and (for me) cloth diapers, what would you be spending it on?

~You wouldn't have a time out corner!

~You wouldn't have to trade in your cute little sports car for a safe mini van.

~You'd never know the joy of scrubbing poop out of the carpet... that doesn't come from a dog.

~You wouldn't have 100,000 pictures on your camera you still need to get developed.

~How long has it been since you played on a jungle gym?

~Shopping is no longer relaxing. You want to work up a good sweat? Plan a day of shopping with a child.

~You never thought you'd have to wash food off the ceiling.

~You don't realize how many breakables you have.

~You also don't realize how many of those pretty breakables you can live without.

~You didn't know your coffee table will become a standing and walking aid. Then a diving board.

After kids, you'll still take an hour to get ready to go somewhere, but you still look horrible, since you've been spending that hour packing the diaper bag, and searching for a pacifier or your keys.

When you have a baby you fall in love all over again- not only with that baby, but with your husband, and God.

It's not always easy. It's not always fun. But you'll learn how to prioritize, and what's on top of the list now will make its way down to the bottom quickly.

And when my 2 year old comes to me and says 'Mommy, I love your face, and I love your ears, and I love your hair, and I love your nose, and I love your eyes." It's hard not to completely melt.
5/13/2010 7:02:42 AM
Cassie United States
There is no greater joy that being a mother of three children. From the first moment you see them, touch them, even smell them you can never get enough. God has blessed me with three beautiful healthy children, and it is a priviledge and honor to be their mother.All the money in the world cannot compare to motherhood. Being a mother is a great way of showing how Jesus loves us no matter what!!
5/13/2010 7:06:12 AM
Melissa United States
Anna - Know that you will laugh more than you ever thought possible.  I'm smiling now just thinking of my wonderful, amazing daughters and the crazy, silly, and just plain outrageous things they say and do.  Be blessed!
5/13/2010 7:13:46 AM
tiffany United States
Anna,  I had my son as a 21 year old single mother, the only source of income and the only parent.  Talk about scary!  I just tried to enjoy him as much as I could.  When you experience things with your child for the first time, and see the excitement it their face over the simplest of things, it is an amazing peaceful feeling.  The bond that the two of you will share will mean more than any feeling in the world.  And just remember perfect does not exist, but the perfect love from your little one does.  Just remember to breathe!
5/13/2010 7:17:13 AM
lindsay United States
After having a miscarriage a few years ago and trying so hard to get pregnant again it was such a joy and a blessing to discover I was having a baby, that alone is a joy in and of itself!  From the moment you see your little one you will have a love that you never thought you could experience and the smell of her and the first time they laugh, or smile, the first "mommy" that you hear, the hugs and kisses, the whispered secrets and the many amazing things they do, is  such a joy and a blessing!  Congratulations on your new bundle of joy Smile
5/13/2010 7:22:45 AM
Lana United States
My babies are 1 and 3. The wonderfull thing about being a mommy is experiencing the most powerful love that you never even knew you had in you. God gives us this amazing "mother instinct" and we just can't help but love them with all our hearts! Halfway through your first trip to the movies without him, you will start missing your baby and can't wait to get back to him! Every morning you will be excited to go in her room and see her smile. There's just nothing like it. It's such a wonderful gift from God.
5/13/2010 7:23:08 AM
Adam United States
Best thing about being a parent is being directly in the center of God's will. Day 6 God blessed them and said to be fruitful and multiply. Christians should not carry on with what the world says about children. This is very discouraging to me. Christians are a dying people group. Christians need to submit to God's authority in this area of birth control. God can open and close the womb. Trust him with ALL.

You can't afford lot's of kids...He can! You feed an Army...He can! Your house isn't big enough...His is! Have "Me, myself, and I" step aside and give him full control.
5/13/2010 7:32:04 AM
andrea United States
Your life WILL never be the same after becoming a parent, but not bad, it will be BETTER. Children are such a blessing, creation is such a miracle. Having an infant in the home brings an angelic presence. Love your child unconditionally, give them the best life you can give them, according to God's plan, and you will have a friend for life who loves you the same. There's nothing in the world like being a parent. It it is worth any trial you endure as a parent. God blessed me with my daughter when I was 18. I WAS scared, I had never really even held a baby. I was scared when she was born. I was so careful, I carried her around on a pillow because I thought my arms were to bony. It is all a learning process. With all the advice you get, take it with a grain of salt. I've learned that I need to go with my instincts. That is one of the most important things I have learned through my daughters life, is if something doesn't feel right in a situation, I have a bad feeling about it, I NEED to listen to that. I haven't always listened to that because I was worried about people thinking I was to overprotective or just wanting to let my daughter do what she wanted to do, but I now, always, listen to my instincts and stick to my guns. My baby girl is 14 now, and things have gotten rough recently, but I just stick to my guns, give her consequences and stick to them, and read the Bible to her and talk to her about it, and everything is okay. God is GREAT. To me life is about God, love, & family. You're going to love your life with your baby, it can be hard work, but good hard work. God doesn't give us more than we can handle. Keep Him the center. Have fun. You will be the most important and influencial woman in your child's life. Motherhood is so rewarding, such an honor and blessing. Your baby will light up when they see you, when they're around 2 if you leave them with a sitter or someone, when you come back you'll run to eachother smiling, and hold eachother tight. You'll teach them a song and when they sing it back for the first time you just might cry. Trust me, you're gonna have a ball.

5/13/2010 7:41:42 AM
Trish United States
Anna- Everyone told me the same stories, but a few weeks into my daughters life, I experienced a love like no other for this little baby.  You love your husband and family, but the love you have for your child is so wonderful, deep and fulfilling that there is nothing else like it.  I think of my daughter as God's personal gift to me, because that is what she feels like...a completely perfect gift that was selected just for me.  Treasure each day with your little one, time passes quickly.  I could tell  you all the stories that make me so happy that I have my daughter, sweet things she did, hugs and kisses I've gotten and so forth.  But the greatest thing about having a child is being able to love them so completely.  Nothing has ever come easier for me.
5/13/2010 7:45:28 AM
Jill United States
Your children teach you about what unconditional love is.  Their love for you is unconditional and they think you can do anything!  I love the way they think and the way they talk.  I love looking at things form their perspective.  I love the way they come up to me out of the blue and tell me "I Love You Momma" over and over throughout the day.  I love the hugs and cuddles.  I love to hear them pray, that's how I know what's really important to them, at least for that moment!  ;)

Yes, there are hard times, but if you really think about it, there are many more good than bad!  Enjoy the journey with your little one!
5/13/2010 7:54:14 AM
Melissa United States
I have a 2 year old and everyday is a wonderful blessing.  I tell him at least 20 times a day that I love him.  Remember that it is all of the little things as well as the big things that you want to remember.  Birthdays are huge, but the 364 days between them are just as important.  My little guy does so many funny and entertaining things everyday.  I wouldn't trade those moments for anything.  ***NOTE -- my son slept through the night from 1 week old.  All kids are different.  Let your baby tell you what and when he/she wants something.  It will make both of your lives easier.
5/13/2010 8:18:20 AM
Mike United States
Hi Guys!!!!

I was 43 when our son was of the very first nights home, it was turn to feed him, so I ran into his room, flipped on all of his lights, was well, rather excited, and soon after my wife came in, turned off all of the lights, and said to me "whad ya doin?????  be quiet, feed him, tcuk him in...........
5/13/2010 8:21:49 AM
Tamara Jones United States
 Tamara Jones
I'm a single parent of three small children, so I don't get store bought gifts for Mother's Day or other holidays.  But, I really enjoy, and have come to expect, the gifts they make me a school.  Another thing that I enjoy is hearing the kids around the house singing songs from KLOVE.  I am so thankful to God that my children don't come home singing the lastest rap song.
5/13/2010 8:57:14 AM
Cindy United States
Boy being a parent is wonderful but also hard. I wouldn't trade this job for anything. I love the time I got to spend with my daughter while feeding her in the middle of the night. I loved hearing her say 'ma ma' for the first time. The hugs that I get now are wonderful. I love that she takes my hand now when we go for a walk. And the best thing recently is hearing my daughter say 'I love you'!! Yes, you do lose sleep, time to yourself, and your previouse life. Again I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world, cuz when my little girl looks at me with those big brown eyes and says 'I love you' everything is perfect!
5/13/2010 9:11:52 AM
Robin United States
Kelli your friend has been told the truth. Her life and her husbands will never be the same again. How can it be? You have a percious child placed in your arms moments after he or she takes the first breath of air. You think, "Dear Lord, how can I alread love this child beyond words? Then there are the first! The first smile, step, giggle, word, tooth, night without waking up, birthday, the first day of school, first bump that can only be made better by Mommy and Daddy's kiss, first broken heart that only Mommy and Daddy can understand, first prayer, first quiz that your son just has to have you quiz him for [until 3:00am] cause he just can't sleep, the first everything. It doesn't change as they get older, they are just more important. No, Anne and her husband will forever be change. They will learn the true meaning of unconditional love, forgiveness, trust, sorrow, peace,the feel of a loving Father's arms wrapped around them through the scary times. Yes, my life and my husbands have been change. And I praise God for each one of those changes. Our children are 30, 29, and 26. They have blessed us and have brought us to our knees. My advice, learn unconditional love early which also means loving them enough to say no when you know yes will take them away from the path God wants them to follow. One more, the first snuggle. When that little percious child snuggles you will be changed for life! So enjoy!
5/13/2010 9:12:48 AM
Kim United States
The best thing about having your own baby is the things you learn    How to love unconditionally, How to laugh , How smart your parents are, how much you really don't know about life but the best  thing is you get to mold this life into something loving and caring and fun. It's true once you have a baby everything changes but it's a good change kids are God's way of keeping us grounded. I love my kids they have taught me so much and I am still learning my oldest is 25 yrs old and he is still teaching me
5/13/2010 9:24:29 AM
.April United States
My 27 year old husband of 7 and 1/2 years suddenly passed away of a heart attack on March 17, 2010.  I have two sons.  Lane will be three on father's day (of all days...) and Foster is 17 months old.  A few days ago while driving to my parents house, I became upset and started crying.  Lane noticed that I was sad and said, "Mama, it's okay to be sad.  It's okay to cry.  I don't want you to be sad though.  I will sing you a song and you will be happy."  Then proceeded to sing every word of "I'll Fly Away".  Anna, life is life and isn't always easy, but with God and children, it is always GOOD, because God is GOOD.  Children are evidence of His goodness and grace.  I'm so excited that you will be able to experience that.  And as for those nights when you are up at crazy hours, use that time to pray for your baby, family, and others.  You will come to cherish that time you wouldn't otherwise have had.  God Bless in your new journey.  
5/13/2010 9:58:14 AM
John S United States
John S
I love the chance to relive childhood vicariously through them. To introduce them to their true Father and to show them this fantastic world He created for them.
5/13/2010 10:11:47 AM
Ron United States
Being a father is simply the best!  Even in what some called the "difficult times", there is still this underlying joy that never goes away when you are a parent.  My wife and I were even excided to get up in the middle of the night with our son, and then a year later with our daughter to feed them because we were just so overwhelmed with happiness at being parents.  Midnight feedings, less "me" time, dirty diapers, etc... none of it bothers me, in fact I embrace it as part of being a good father.  I even love these times because I can also use them to talk, sing, tickle, or just be close to my children.  My children don't "cramp my style".  From a week after our son and later daughter were born, my wife and I were out shopping, at restaurants,  and at friend's houses for get-togethers.  When we want to go out we can just get a babysitter or a friend to watch our children, but to be honest, we only do this occasionally because what I really like doing is coming home from work and spending time as a family playing, reading, walking, teaching, etc...  Most importantly though is being a parent has focused me on my relationship with God.  On the one hand I am so overwhelmingly thankful for my blessings but on the other, I am trying to decide how I am going to talk to my children about God so they will have a strong, faithful relationship with Him throughout their lives.  I love that my wife and I are the ones entrusted to guide them through this as well as every other minute item parents get to guide their children through.  

So to sum up, I love being a parent because of the things I've written down here and a million other things I didn't write down.  I was scared about being a good father until the second I held my son for the first time and I realized, this, being a good loving father to the children God has blessed me with, is why I'm here.  It felt as right as anything ever has.  It's what I am supposed to be doing, and I love it all the time, not just the good times, but all the time.  
5/13/2010 10:32:40 AM
Beth Wilcox United States
Beth Wilcox
I am not a parent, but I have worked with for the past 15 plus years.  The last 9 months I have woked with Children with special needs and previous was a preschool teacher.  The thing I eenjoyed most was when the kids saw me each morning or visit the smile they would give me.  I would have to tell Anna to enjoy every little moment and to cherish them because before you know it they will grown.  I wish Anna they best and congrats to her as well.
5/13/2010 5:37:54 PM
Rebekah United States
I love children and especially my children.  Being a parent is a high calling from God and one of the greatest blessings.
I homeschool my boys and love to spend time watching them grow.  I live at a children's home where my husband is on staff. I love helping take care of the children who live here. The highlight of my day was giving baths in preparation for the awards banquet which was held tonight.
My favorite part of being a parent is when I get to witness those "Ah ha" moments from rolling over to understanding a concept in Algebra.  The joy on their face is priceless.
5/13/2010 5:44:22 PM
Rebekah United States
Oh, I have to tell you something my son said.  I told him that at times it's very frustrating to be a parent and there are hard days.  He said, "Mom, that's not saying something bad about being a parent."
I said, "You mean I'm saying something good?"
His reply, "Yeah!"
"How is that?" I asked.
"That means that you love us and are working hard to help us grow up to be who God wants us to be."
The precious wisdom of an 11 year old.  See why parenting is awesome?
5/14/2010 6:08:54 AM
Erica United States
What I loved about becoming a mother is it gave me a Second Chance.  No matter what decisions I made or things I'd done (good or bad) in my life prior, this gave me a blessed opportunity to do something Right! To make a difference in the world and truly learn a depth of love I never thought possible!  

Motherhood also gave me the chance to see God face to face.  When I looked at my children when they were first born, and we had such a loving quiet moment, I felt God in my life more than ever - no matter how many people were in the hospital room with us.

Now that they are 5 and 7, yes, we have rough times too.  It really helps keep me grounded though when I remember those special moments, and it helps me focus on loving them as their mother.

Children are a blessing like no other!!  They touch the deepest parts of your soul..... enjoy them!  and enjoy the special moments you have together, even just sitting watching them sleep, or the look of admiration they give you when you sing them a song.............

Blessings to you!!
5/14/2010 7:48:48 AM
Elsa United States
Becoming a parent is like reliving your childhood all over again and remembering all the wonderful things you did as a child to be able to pass on to your little one.  It also creates an inner strength to be the best you can be for your child because you are his initial guide to life.  May you enjoy every moment and learn from every trial.  Take the difficult comments with a grain of salt because every child is different.  And always consult with experienced parents and read there is to know of being a first time parent and you will eventually grow to be able to pass on your own experience on to others.  Congratulations!
5/14/2010 9:21:34 AM
Crystal Potter United States
Crystal Potter
I'm definitely guilty of being one of those who warns people of all the bad things. In fact, one sister-in-law is in the early stages of pregnancy and I've warned her to get her rest now. The other just gave birth yesterday and I've been making a conscious effort to tell her from my own experience that nursing does get easier and is great once you get past the first few weeks of adjustment and offer suggestions that worked for me. As for the good things about being a parent for ME...I love the way my almost 3 year old daughter tells me "thank you mommy" and all her sweet little sayings. Kissing my kids' chubby cheeks and seeing my little baby boy's two little teeth when he flashes me a huge grin. Feeling needed is one of the things that is getting me through the toughest thing I've ever had to face. Right now my husband has moved out and I don't know if and when he'll be ready to come home. My kids are giving me a reason to carry on daily and work on my relationship with Christ so that I can raise them on my own if I have to.
5/14/2010 4:02:42 PM
Kari Dahlen United States
Kari Dahlen
A friend of mine saw a picture of my 6 month old, August, sleeping and she said he looked just like an angel when he was asleep. I told her, it's great when he's sleeping, but there is nothing like that smile when he's awake!

Oh! And this is my first baby too, and the night he was born, when we were in the hospital I was crying to my husband saying, 'I can't do this.' I realize now that we can do anything with Christ's help.

You're going to be a great mom, Anna!
5/15/2010 12:10:55 AM
Terrie United States
My husband and I have 7 amazing children: ages 2 - 7.  There is never a dull moment in our home.  Sometimes it is incredibly frustrating but I would never trade a second of it away!  Here are just a few things that make it worthwhile:

I receive flowers EVERY day!  My wonderful kids love me so much that they go out in the backyard each day and pick beautiful yellow flowers (aka dandelions) and bring me big bouquets!

I lovingly refer to one of my children as my "exclamation point" child.  She tests me in every way possible!  After a particularly trying day, I was putting her to bed and she wrapped her little arms around me and gave me the biggest kiss ever!  I looked into her big brown eyes and she says "Does that make it all better, mommy?"  You know, it really did!

My heart just melts as I listen to my children praying each evening for the needs of others.  Through their prayers I see how they are growing in their very own relationship with Christ.  It doesn't get any better than that!

Parenting is the most worthwhile and rewarding thing a person could do.  It is certainly hard and there are moments when I want to run away!  But there are a million more moments when I thank God for the privilege of being a mom.
5/15/2010 12:40:34 AM
Kait United States
I'm not a mom yet, but I plan on being one. I think its the little 'kid' moments that will make it awesome. Yesterday, I was on the train home with my mom, and in front of us was a mom and her little boy, he had to be around 5. The sweetest moment that I have ever witnessed happened when he was going to take a nap on hour long ride. Instead, he got up from laying down and walked over to his mom who was just across the aisle, and said "I love you, Mommy" and gave her a kiss. It was so precious, and he said it at least ten more times that I heard.
5/15/2010 7:46:23 AM
Lisa United States
You will never understand how fiercely you can love until you hold that baby in your arms. Get ready for the best part of your life!
5/15/2010 4:35:34 PM
Amanda United States
A lot of people say parenting is hard but sometimes I find it hard to agree with that. I am a 24 year old single mom of a fiesty but precious 5 year old daughter. With balancing a full time job and being a full time student as well as being a new home owner and dealing with that stress, most would think the challenges of parenting would be even more difficult for me. But it's the complete opposite! Even though my daughter has gone through her testy periods, they don't last long. Every day is a joy when you have a little one to watch grow and learn and love. I believe if you approach parenting with the desire to be a good parent, to love unconditionally, and of course with God's strength and wisdom to guide you, you will find more pleasure than strife in being a parent by far. For me, watching my little one's mind race trying to figure out something is one of the best feelings in the world. They are so curious and so eager for information that you can't help but be fascinated. It's also a good opportunity to use that hunger for knowledge to teach about God's love and Christ's sacrifice.

Don't let the scary things get to you (easier said than done I know). The first few days or even weeks you'll have all kinds of "What if's" going through your mind, but then suddenly you'll realize it's not as hard as you thought it would be. You'll get your routine down and start storing away those moments of gurgles, giggles, bubble blowing, eyes crossing, legs kicking, and of course those big toothless grins. So precious!!!
5/15/2010 11:14:30 PM
Christopher Mack United States
Christopher Mack
Being a parent is the greatest feeling. No matter how bad my day/week has been, when my 3 year old son looks at me, says hug hug I pick him up. He gives me a great big hug then looks at me and says Daddy, love you. All my problems just melt away. He has truelly been a blessing from above.
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