In 2020, after a tough health scare with COVID-19, I began having serious stomach pain, vomiting, and constipation. My pain became increasingly unbearable and more intense daily. My doctor told me not to worry about it and did not believe that it was cancer. She prescribed me more antibiotics, but my health continued to deteriorate. Over the next eight weeks, I lost around 60 pounds.
Finally, without my doctor’s approval, I sought out a surgeon who examined me and my imaging records and determined that it was probably cancer, but I needed a colonoscopy to make sure. I went to the hospital for the procedure, and after I awoke from the anesthesia, the doctor who performed the examination said to me, “You have cancer.” I immediately went into fear mode after hearing those words.
When Worry Builds Up
As my mind was racing, I thought to myself, what if the cancer has spread? How do I tell my family? Many what-ifs were running through my mind with great anxiety. My father had passed away from colon cancer that had metastasized.
I had laparoscopic surgery to remove the tumor, started my recovery, and began six months of chemotherapy. The six months of chemo were challenging. The side effects were severe. My weariness and lack of motivation to even get out of bed were a daily struggle.
The Emotional Rollercoaster
If you have just received a diagnosis, it is crucial to acknowledge the wide spectrum of emotions that you’re probably feeling. You may be experiencing grief, which can lead to self-pity, depression, and a desire to flee or disappear from the situation entirely. Health problems affect more than just the body; they can also deeply affect your mental and emotional well-being. Remember that the feelings you feel are common for many others going through this same thing.
The first few months after my diagnosis were extremely difficult emotionally. Initially, I wanted to isolate myself from everyone and everything in order to concentrate on what I needed to do to find healing. In prayer, I was working through my fears so I could make informed and well-thought-out decisions about my future treatment.
Seeking the Proper Help
I would recommend that any treatment decision be made not only with your doctor or oncologist, but also with the input of your family, pastor, and friends. If you have older children, including them in the decision-making process helps to educate them on the severity of the diagnosis, the benefits of treatment, and the importance of their support throughout your journey.
It’s important to have supportive family and friends who are ready to assist you in navigating the healthcare system to ensure that your needs are met. They can help you gather the necessary information you need and work with you to create a faith-filled environment that eliminates the fear of the what-ifs that arise during this process.
Practical Steps
1. Offer continuous prayer. Be a self-encourager as you spend time in prayer daily, seeking God’s comfort, healing, and guidance. Faith-filled and heartfelt prayers have a powerful impact on your spiritual and mental health, according to James 5:16.
2. Gently ask your family and friends for their presence and support. They can be caring in both tangible and emotional ways by providing a compassionate and understanding ear, allowing you to express your fears, concerns, and emotions freely. Their presence can serve as a source of strength and comfort, reflecting the love and compassion of Christ.
3. Nurture your body and mind. Maintain a healthy lifestyle by focusing on receiving wholesome nutrition, gentle exercise (if possible), and incorporating stress-relieving techniques such as meditation on God’s Word and deep breathing.
4. Equip yourself with knowledge. Educate yourself about your diagnosis and the available treatment options. Understanding the journey ahead can empower you to make good and informed decisions and foster peace of mind.
5. Cultivate a positive outlook. Although it may be challenging, strive to maintain a positive attitude. Trust in the healing power of God and the advancements in medical science, believing in the possibility of restoration and recovery.
6. Ask for assistance with practical needs. During recovery and treatment, you will need help with day-to-day tasks like meal preparation, running errands, providing transportation for children, or running to medical appointments. Friends and family providing acts of service can alleviate some of the burdens during treatment.
7. Create an atmosphere of hope. Speak words of encouragement and faith, reminding yourself of the hope found in God’s promises. Romans 15:13 assures us that God is the source of all hope who fills us with joy and peace as we trust in Him.
8. Seek community connection. Engage with church and support groups, finding comfort in shared experiences and learning from others who have navigated similar challenges. The shared bond can provide a profound sense of understanding and encouragement.
